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Does it bother you when Mumsnetters criticise your name/your dc's name?

38 replies

WithACherryOnTop · 02/08/2012 14:47

I'm just curious because a lot of people seem to take offence when their name or their dc's name gets negative remarks,and often on a thread that they didn't even start?

Personally I don't care if people hate my name,as I like it.I've no children yet,TTC,but I don't think it'd bother me if I had a child named X,and people said that they didn't like their name,if another poster asked what they thought of name X.

This isn't a thread about a thread btw.I've been pondering this for a while.

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Handsfullandrunningforgold · 02/08/2012 18:28

No it dosnt bother me. It is only their name they are not saying they dont like your DC.

Viviennemary · 02/08/2012 18:25

Well I feel a bit guilty if I say a name is awful and then somebody comes on and says that's their DC's name and it's lovely. I never know whether to apologise or not but don't as it's only a matter of personal taste and maybe a question of stop digging!

mathanxiety · 02/08/2012 18:19

In my case I still wish I had hyphenated DD1's names, naysayers be damned..

Have not seen any of their names shot down here, but would shrug if I did. I like them and that's all that matters.

MammaTonic · 02/08/2012 15:43

An instant, immediate reaction to negative comments about my daughter's names is usually one of 'fuck off!' oh I'm gutted you feel that way, actually

But then, there are numerous reasons why the rational part of me saves the day (and my MN reputation):

? Each to their own. We all have different tastes
? Reactions to names on MN are more honest. This can be honest in the brutal sense.
? So-called 'Name Nerds' frequent here. Lots of names irk particular folk: ones that end in 'ie'; popular names; 'cutesy' names. Even ones that begin with the letter 'K'. Therefore, I don't think opinions expressed here are an accrate reflection of RL opinions/reactions.

I'm never bothered if my real name gets flack. It's due a revival any day now, anyway.

MammaT

ThePathanKhansWitch · 02/08/2012 15:41

Someone said on a thread recently that a particular name made her "shudder".
Just that, and it was my grans name, I felt ridiculously sad about it.

BackforGood · 02/08/2012 15:36

Well, none of my dc's names ever come up on the Babynames threads, but I think if you are so unsure as to want to test out a name with strangers on the internet, you are doing so to find out what 'the public at large' think of the name. There's no point in people then being 'it wouldn't be my choice' or It's quite unusual other bland comments people will give you in RL, as well, people in real life can give you those.
If you have already chosen a name that's a little bit controversial for your children, then you will know already (presumably) that a lot of people don't like the name(s).

AWomanCalledHorse · 02/08/2012 15:24

I don't and I can't understand why people get so upset about it, then again I don't like it when people are proper rude about a name.

People like different things, I say on baby name threads if I like/dislike a name but I'd never say a child will never amount to anything because of a name.
Lancelot "Capability" Brown managed to do alright with a poncey first name & a fussy nickname Wink

thegingerone · 02/08/2012 15:19

my dd's name got a "hate it.hate it. hate it" once. Bit harsh i thought but each to their own. Grin

TantrumsAndOlympicGoldBalloons · 02/08/2012 15:19

Someone on here told me I was wicked for choosing my daughters name as its obscure, hardly known meaning would make her self conscious about her weight.

I laughed.

My niece who is named after a flower must have a complex about being thorny then, or dropping pollen everywhere.

TheSurgeonsMate · 02/08/2012 15:16

Just done a vanity ceck on my name. It seems well received! Didn't need to do my child's name - I am aware that many MN-ers are "not keen" on it already..

MagdalenaAlec · 02/08/2012 15:12

I think it just depends on how people express their critics: I do not mind "dull", "not keen" or "run of the mill", but "horrid", "terrible", "horrible", "hate it" are a bit too much imo.
There are names that I hate too, but I stop my critic to "not keen" - there is no need to hurt anyone, just give a thumb up or down.

TheSurgeonsMate · 02/08/2012 15:09

Not my child's name. I chose it, after all, got to take some responsibility for that!

I've never seen my name criticised, other than perhaps being included in lists that might be thought a bit staid. If someone said, "I've never met a nice SurgeonsMate" or something like that, I probably would be a bit shocked!

iseenodust · 02/08/2012 14:49

Not bothered at all.