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MIL and name

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bettybets · 31/07/2012 15:09

We talked baby names with my MIL and my DD1 middle name is named after my mum, after talking we said we would use MIL name as the middle name for DD2. However i didnt really think about it and now i really dont like the name.

Really worried about telling MIL as she can be really funny and i know she will go on about this for ages. She has already told some people that DD2's middle name will be her name.

i feel awful, but i really dont want to use her name.

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Catsmamma · 31/07/2012 15:28

well, you have set a precedent!

and backed it up by discussing middle names....i think you are done!

TheSurgeonsMate · 31/07/2012 15:28

Like KingThistle I'd just use it.

I think that this is one of the main uses of middle names, to share the love and make family connections. In fact, my own dd has a family middle name meant to connect to my mother which it turns out my mother doesn't like. I mean, it's not a great name, but I'd have expected her to be pleased with my effort there rather than moaning about it!

If you think middle names are also about choices for the child in later life then just bung in another. We go that part wrong too, actually. Perhaps I'm not the best person to ask.

SpottyTeacakes · 31/07/2012 15:26

That's a nice middle name Smile

SpottyTeacakes · 31/07/2012 15:26

Yes, does mil have a middle name? Or could she help choose a middle name? I feel sorry for her too!

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bettybets · 31/07/2012 15:25

Her name is lynn...

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Olympicnmix · 31/07/2012 15:19

Can you say what your MIL name is? Does she have a middle name? Perhaps we can suggest a happy compromise?

IHeartKingThistle · 31/07/2012 15:17

Oh dear. Awkward for you - but I feel a bit sorry for your MIL here to be honest!

It's your baby and you can name her what you like, of course. However, if it was me I think I'd still use it. I'd be worried about it causing rifts and I'd feel too guilty! She must have been chuffed that you were going to use her name.

Could you have 2 middle names? Or a shortened version of MIL's name?

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