Unusual naming problem - your thoughts please.

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roundrectangle · 06/05/2012 16:14

I'm in a quandry. In a nutshell, I need to make a choice between giving DC my surname as part of a double barrelled surname with DP or giving her my favourite name.

The reason I have to make this unusual choice is because my surname just doesn't go with the first name I love - it would sound silly if anyone missed out DP's surname in the middle - which people often do with double-barrelled names.

Basically, I have to decide which means more to me - the first name I love or passing on my surname. I'm finding it very hard to decide and would like some opinions and advice please. What would you do? How can I decide? Or am I worrying about nothing - does DPs name separating the first name and my surname (i.e. first name my surname-DP's surname) mean there is no problem.

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Mabinogi · 06/05/2012 19:35

I would agree with birdofthenorth - give her your favourite name and partner's surname, with your surname as a middle name. Or if you have a middle name that you like, you could pass that on to her instead. I have the same middle name as my mum and it's really special - hoping to pass it on to the next generation if I get chance!

Thumbwitch · 06/05/2012 16:24

I gave DS my surname as a middle name. Caused a bit of confusion because we got married when I was 18w pg, so rather than change my name completely I used both surnames for the rest of my pg to ensure continuity on the notes etc; and then when DS was born they sort of assumed (understandably) that he also had 2 surnames.

Anyway. Yes, why don't you do that? And if you really don't like the juxtaposition of first-name-that-you-love and your-surname, then perhaps have another middle name as well? Just a short one?

birdofthenorth · 06/05/2012 16:20

You could always have your surname as a middle name? That way her name will be FavouriteName DPSurname day to day, but would still have your identity as part of her full name?

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DogEared · 06/05/2012 16:18

I see what you mean, I think.
Without the complication of the first name not matching, I thought long and hard about whether I wanted my DCs to have two last names. I decided that I'd prefer them to have DH's surname, but have middle names after members of my family (if that makes sense). I became double barrelled after getting married, and I must admit that although I love my name, it's a bit of a pain in the arse.

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