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Calling people who have kept their own surname or double barrelled and given their DC their maiden name as an extra middle name ....

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nappyaddict · 29/04/2012 10:45

Sorry for long title but I'm after some rather specific people Grin

Are your DC known as First Name Extra Middle Name Surname

Or are they just known as First Name DP/Hs Surname

I really really want any future DC to be known by both my surname and DPs.

DP doesn't want them to have a double-barrelled surname.

I wondered if giving them my maiden name as an extra middle name could be a compromise but would they actually be known by both names or would it just be DPs surname that they would be known by?

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mermaidbutmytailfelloff · 29/04/2012 11:07

My dc have first name - my surname - dh surname. They use first name dh surname. I didnt change my name when I married so it was important to me to have my name in there somehow. We thought of double barrellling but dh was scared of his mum not keen.

Safmellow · 29/04/2012 10:59

My DD has my surname (I am single) and her dad's surname as a middle name.

It is JUST a middle name IYKWIM, I was adamant I wanted her to have the same surname as me as I am the main carer, but thought it was good way to show she is part of him too.

BenderBendingRodriguez · 29/04/2012 10:54

our dc have my surname, with my husband's surname as a second middle name. they are known as 'child mysurname'.

we considered double barrelling but it would have meant a six syllable surname...bit much really Grin

YoullLaughAboutItOneDay · 29/04/2012 10:52

Not me, but a friend did. Am I allowed to answer? Grin

Her DC are only ever known by first name + DHs surname. If a name is a middle name, it's just that. Unless it is part of a hyphenated name (either a hyphenated first name, or a double barrelled surname) I don't think middle names get used in every day life.

Also, bear in mind that a middle name is just that. So your child would be Sarah Smith Jones - i.e. on a form her surname is Jones and her first names are Sarah Smith. This means that the Smith bit automatically gets ditched when the surname is used alone. E.g. letters from the bank would come to Ms Jones. They wouldn't be to Ms Smith Jones, because that isn't her name IYSWIM.

You could have a double surname without a hyphen?

QOD · 29/04/2012 10:50

My friend has a very famous surname, her children are first name,her surname,dh surname.

However,they go by first name her surname (no mention of his!)

I'm sure that's no help,.....

If its not an actual double barrelled surname they will surEly be first name dh surname. Stick to your guns? If you're not married you don't have to use his name at all for them. I was married when We had DD but,I would, as a child of a divorcees, NEVER have a different surname to my child.