Can we use DD's middle name for baby #3 (if it's a girl!)?

It is a bit unusual nowadays, and I prefer Charlotte as a middle name, but I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Would you consider Caroline, Carolyn or Carlotta instead, as they are all variants?

Oooh I wouldn't do this, really. Bit more extreme I know, but I know a family with 3 DDs, and the youngest has the middle names of the older 2 as her first and middle name and she hates it - feels that as a third DD she was so 'unspecial' that her parents couldn't even think of an original name for her

I know that's not the same as what you're suggesting OP but even so I just couldn't.

DS is sister by the way.

I can't see a problem TBH. My DS has eight children, one of her boys has the same as you are describing. Say for arguments sake DS1 is David Terry, DS2 is Terry Gareth. It hasn't ever caused a problem.

PS Just to add that both my DCs use their second names. DC1 also went through a period of about six months of wanting to be called by his third name. So I would say that names "belong" to the child who was given them and shouldn't also be given to a subsequent child.

it seems a bit weird to me. Names to me are very much about one's identity. I hated that my parents gave me the same middle name as my mother's middle name.
I would have felt very strange if they had given my sister my middle name as her first name.

I always think that middle names are there as an option for people to use if they happen not to like their first names as they grow up. So I would not give the same name / similar name for that reason.

My elder brother has always disliked his first name and when he was 10 or so wanted to swap to his middle name instead (John). However, he couldn't because our younger brother is called Jonathan, which is too similar. He has struggled on with his given name, but doesn't like it.

Names which I think of as being similar to Charlotte include Lucy, Henrietta, Georgina, Caroline, Susannah (nn Susie), Catherine, Phillipa, Jemima, Jessica. Any of those any good?

Definitely not. Shows no imagination.

I agree. And I speak as a littl sister.........!

Don't do it. I could imagine my sister spending the rest of my life taunting me with - they couldn't even be bothered to think of a name for you so they gave you one of mine.

I wouldn't. I'd worry that she'd think you didn't care enough to find her a name of her own.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, it's lovely in fact. if ur DD is old enough tell her DD3 loves her so much and wants to be like her big sister - kids love that!

Definitely weird. And not fair on either of them.

Could you not just adapt it like called her Lottie or something, I know a family where the daughter are called Poppy Holly, and Holly Rosie, which i guess is similar to what you are thinking about doing, i think it's alright - who ever uses their middle name anyway - you want to give your daughter a name you really like. Lots of families give all their children the same middle names, i know a family where all 4 children have the middle name Alex.

I would be more worried about what dd2 thinks than dd1 ( and you can't ask her yet!).

We had Beatrice, Florence, Lydia, Harriet, Emily, Alice, Grace, Bethan, also on our short lists

I think it's fine as long as your daughter is happy with it and you can always present it in a (truthful) way that makes her likely to be flattered

Personally I don't see a problem with it at all - I think go for it!

Charlotte is a lovely name btw :)

We tried to do this but our eldest DD protested very loudly that it was her name. Yours may do the same, if she is old enough... We backed down and in retrospect that was probably the right decision.

I love the story about two Georges!!

I wouldn't.

But what about Scarlett or Collette? They are both very similar to Charlotte.

Go ahead and use it.

How often do we even think about our middle names? I don't identify with mine at all.

It is a nice name (was one of my 2 choices for dd2 when I went into labour!)

Do you like it for nn potential or the flow/ style of the name?

Can you use something similar? Carlotta? Sharlie? Lotte/ie?

I wouldn't use the middle name. it belongs to your older dd. But I speak as someone who is bloody annoyed today to hear that my cousin and his partner have called their dd 'First Name MY Dd3's name Surname'. They've pinched my precious dd's name and now my grandmother has two great grandaughters with a name in common. I am bloody annoyed. It doesn't even sound right with the first name or the surname.

How old is your DD? Can you ask her what she thinks? Maybe your DD can pick her middle name?

My DD's middle name is Elizabeth, i'd love to have an Eliza..so in the same boat as you