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Eldest ds in tears about new dd's name....

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luckywinner · 28/01/2012 21:23

I have just had a baby girl three weeks early. We didn't really choose any names before, just a short list. Ds (7) and dd (5) have been v excited about new baby. This afternoon they both came to see me in the hospital and were seriously lovely with her. Ds kissed her lots and lots. Dd just wanted to dress and undress her!

Dh took them home then came back to me and we decided on our name for new dd - (Elizabeth) Tess. When dh went home and told them her name my ds sobbed and sobbed and said he didn't like the name. Dh called me in hospital and I spoke to ds who cried again and said he didn't like name. I asked him what he did like. His answer was Felicity, Darrell or alicia (we've been reading mallory towers!), or Cecily. Now he was going to be Cecily if he was a girl. I love the name but a friend of ours has since called their child Cecily and I am just not sure about it any more. And part of me says 'tough, you are 6, you don't get to decide'. And I love the name Tess. Someone come and tell me what to do/say. I am exhausted, just given birth, am tired and emotional!

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fifteenpercentoff · 28/01/2012 22:30

Can't you say you really want your first granddaughter to be called Cecily? And you would like him to keep that name for her?

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:29

I really can't' see why people keep telling the poor OP that Tess isn't a nn for Elizabeth it is CLEARLY listed as one on the Wikipedia entry for Elizabeth.

here

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 28/01/2012 22:28

Oh poor girl :(

pictish · 28/01/2012 22:26

Tess isn't a nn from Elisabeth. How odd.

Maryz · 28/01/2012 22:23

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 28/01/2012 22:19

Maryz - why does that not surprise me??

DumSpiroSpero · 28/01/2012 22:19

It's completely your choice, although as one of her middle names is Alice anyway, would you consider tweaking it to Alicia?

Agree that a trip to Build a Bear for a teddy to name might be a nice idea.

Maryz · 28/01/2012 22:19

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HardCheese · 28/01/2012 22:18

Children should only be allowed to name goldfish, and pets that stay at home. Some friends of ours let their six-year-old name their new puppy, and now they have to cope with shouting 'Poohsticks!' in the park after a large labrador.

Anyway, OP, tell your son that Enid Blyton's Alicia was a nasty piece of work, Darrell had a violent streak and was always slapping people, and Felicity was a bit wet.

ReallyTired · 28/01/2012 22:18

I find this thread funny as my son wanted to called dd Elizabeth. She has Elizabeth as her middle name.

Heswall · 28/01/2012 22:17

My Aunty did this with her brother they wanted to call him Mark and she stood at the bottom of the garden until they agreed to Christopher. The brother was grateful in years to come to his sister.

BalloonSlayer · 28/01/2012 22:16

Tess is short for Teresa.

Anyway . . .

When DS2 was born (we already have DS1 and DD) we dithered for what seemed like ages on his name, although it must have been all of 2 days because he was born on the Wednesday and when DH picked up DD from school (presume on the Friday) and told her his name she burst into FLOODS of tears.

She was nearly 6 then, and is now 10 and I don't think she can even remember it. She loves his name, and him,

Bystanders, on the other hand, often say to me "I'll never forget when your DH said 'We're calling DS2 DS2name and DD went "Waaaaaaaaah!!!" '

(Tell him that he can choose the name for his own baby - if he's lucky - and that's it.)

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catinboots · 28/01/2012 22:12

DS1 hated DS2s name. He said it was weired and embaressing.

Nearly 2 years later, he loves his little brother and loves his name. He thinks it is a cool name now

QuickLookBusy · 28/01/2012 22:08

My DD wanted to call her sister Little Miss Sunshine

We stuck with our lovely traditional name and DD1 soon forgot about it.

I expect Ds is a bit tired and emotional. I'm sure he won't be worrying about the name once he gets a good noghts sleep and his mum back home.

I love the name Tess. I think it is used as a nn for Elizabeth.

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luckywinner · 28/01/2012 22:02

Thanks all, you've made me feel better. I knew I was being emotional, just needed a slap around the face to stop feeling guilty.

She is going to be elisabeth alice rose. I love the name Tess and dh needed a teeny bit of convincing as he wanted elisabeth. So I have managed to get away with nickname tess. Does that make sense? Basically I'm blagging it to get my own way while he still is in awe of delivering his daughter without punching him in the face during labour once .

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pinkappleby · 28/01/2012 21:52

My DS wanted our new DD to be Caroline (again books, had been reading Thomas books) and tried to call her Caroline for a few days but it soon wore off. Now he hardly remembers (DD is now 1). He also looked in her nappy to check that she really was a girl (he wanted a boy).

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 28/01/2012 21:37

It is really sweet that he cares this much. How much do you love Elizabeth? I presume you intend to name her Elizabeth but call her Tess? Why not name her Felicity and call her Tess - as Tess isn't actually a nickname for either...

I'm with DS - Felicity is nicer :)

NewYearsRevolution · 28/01/2012 21:36

Wouldn't it be Bess from Elizabeth?

But either way, a seven year old does not get to choose. It's probably an emotional displacement to the shock of a new arrival. If she was early I assume you hadn't down the 'any day now' bit with him yet?

MrsSnaplegs · 28/01/2012 21:36

Why don't you suggest that you choose her real name and he chooses a special big brother name for her like a nickname which only he is ever allowed to call her so when she is 21 and he is pushing 30 everyone else will call her Elizabeth Tess but he will call her .... ?
My DS will be v v embarrassed at that age as his big sister will still be calling him Hugh the poo

purpleroses · 28/01/2012 21:35

Can he have a new teddy that he gets to name whatever he likes? Everyone buys new dolls for girls when they get a little sister, but boys can do role-play games too and it's a great way of learing to copy parenting, and deal with feelings towards new sister.

Jajas · 28/01/2012 21:34

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thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 21:32

aww bless him!
i think you have to stick with the name you've chosen. 7 year olds are fickle and if he'd been reading ben 10 and wanted to call it brainstorm you'd have said no, wouldn't you?

he'll get over it

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