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Eldest ds in tears about new dd's name....

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luckywinner · 28/01/2012 21:23

I have just had a baby girl three weeks early. We didn't really choose any names before, just a short list. Ds (7) and dd (5) have been v excited about new baby. This afternoon they both came to see me in the hospital and were seriously lovely with her. Ds kissed her lots and lots. Dd just wanted to dress and undress her!

Dh took them home then came back to me and we decided on our name for new dd - (Elizabeth) Tess. When dh went home and told them her name my ds sobbed and sobbed and said he didn't like the name. Dh called me in hospital and I spoke to ds who cried again and said he didn't like name. I asked him what he did like. His answer was Felicity, Darrell or alicia (we've been reading mallory towers!), or Cecily. Now he was going to be Cecily if he was a girl. I love the name but a friend of ours has since called their child Cecily and I am just not sure about it any more. And part of me says 'tough, you are 6, you don't get to decide'. And I love the name Tess. Someone come and tell me what to do/say. I am exhausted, just given birth, am tired and emotional!

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RedHotPokers · 28/01/2012 23:06

If it were me I'd let him have input into middle name.

I chose my dsis's name (although my parents officially named her the more formal version rather than the nn iyswim). I was SO proud to be a part of such an important decision, and it still makes me smile thinking about it now.

Daftapath · 28/01/2012 22:57

My nephew wanted to call his sister Diarrhoea!

Go with your lovely choice OP. He will have forgotten very soon. I'm sure he feels a bit unsettled and worried.

Many congratulations.

NorksAreMessy · 28/01/2012 22:56

:o
Flobble!

Can you call the baby Elizabeth for a little while in front of DS, and when he has got over it, start in there with the Tess?

PurpleWithaBlueBun · 28/01/2012 22:52

My sister was born when I was three, I am still disappointed my parents didn't call her Mickey like I wanted.

I am sure it will be fine, it is a nice name :)

ShowOfHands · 28/01/2012 22:46

We let dd name ds as we couldn't agree. He's named after a ninja turtle...

My sil's name is exactly the same as your dd's name (exactly, down to middle names too) and our surname begins with a p so her initials are 'earp' which has led to the nickname Wyatt. Otherwise, she's called Flobble. With a precedent of one, I believe this is now a traditional abbreviation for Elizabeth. I'd therefore suggest to your ds that it could be much worse.

DD btw sobbed when she found out we were having a ds. She got over it about 23 minutes later.

Popoozle · 28/01/2012 22:44

Oh god, actually - thinking about it - we did use DS2's chosen name for DD . But it was one of two names on our (mine & DH's) shortlist anyway - not a totally different name, so not sure if that counts.

DS1 was very nearly 14 when DD was born - he "doesn't do" commenting on names .

lockets · 28/01/2012 22:41

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Popoozle · 28/01/2012 22:40

Ah, bless him! At 6 years old I named my twin dollies Clockfride & Tittifa though so probably best to let the adults choose the baby's name .

Congratulations BTW!

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:39

Agree Dilly he probaly misses you too OP.

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:38

Footprints but he's SEVEN! NExt week he'll be like "What? What baby?"

exoticfruits · 28/01/2012 22:38

As soon as she becomes a personality he won't imagine her being anything else.

DillyTante · 28/01/2012 22:38

Firstly the Op can give her DD whatever nickname she likes, I mean what about Peggy for Margaret, or Harry for Henry (it's not even shorter!).

Secondly, op I think your son's emotions go beyond the baby's name. Sounds like he is trying to exert some control. Maybe he feels a bit powerless. I don't think you should give in to him, but maybe just bear these feelings in mind. FWIW my 3yo refused to call DD2 by her name for two weeks as she didn't like it. She just called her "bubba"

exoticfruits · 28/01/2012 22:37

I was 5yrs when my brother was born and didn't like his name and I still don't. However it really doesn't matter-ignore.

FootprintsInTheSnow · 28/01/2012 22:37

I'm going against the tide here, but I'd graciously concede. Think of it as an investment in the sibling bond - emphasising to your DS that he is a key stakeholder in this new member of the family. Imagine how proud he'd be to introduce his sister with his name.

Tbh - his choices are all pretty nice. I also like Elizabeth and Tess - but I can hear how they'd sound a bit stiff and old fashioned to a child.

(conversely - I hated the beckhams girls name 'Harper' - but it met with overwhelming approval with DC I spoke to. Different generations, different fashions)

Maryz · 28/01/2012 22:35

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BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:35

Louplet My DD liked "TraLaLa" for DD2....I didn't have the heart to tell her that TraLaLa is a prostitute in "Last Exit to Brooklyn"

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:34

And I see that Tess Daly was christened Elizabeth.

Louplet · 28/01/2012 22:32

DS1 wanted to call DD Flowersmell as he thought that was a pretty name for a girl!

thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 22:32

well quite!

fifteenpercentoff · 28/01/2012 22:32

Or give him a puppy he can call Cecily...you'll soon wish you'd called Tess Cecily then.

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:32

thisisyesterday but I knew it was anyway! ELzabeth is THE name for a hundred nicknames. WHo gives a bugger anyway? If I wanted to call my DD "Nicola" but name her Clara for short then I can!

pictish · 28/01/2012 22:32

I have never heard of Tess as a nn of Elisabeth.

Anyway, ultimately you get the choice, your 6 yr old does not.
Our ds1 didn't like our dd's name when she came along when he was 7.

Were we bothered? Were we fuck.

snice · 28/01/2012 22:31

that Wiki page is a bag of shite though isn't it?

BandOMothers · 28/01/2012 22:31

OP...ignore your poor DS. He sounds like he's having a delayed rebelion. If you give in to this then the next thing he'll be telling you where she sleeps and what she's allowed to play with!

thisisyesterday · 28/01/2012 22:30

yes, and if it's on wikipedia it must be true

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