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'Stealing' DP's eldest DS's middle name.... Thoughts please???

34 replies

Cactus76 · 06/01/2012 16:12

DP has two boys from a previous marriage. We are expecting our first child together (don't know if is a boy or girl) at the beginning of March. We both REALLY like his DS1's (age 6) middle name. If it hadn't already been used, it would definitely be top of my boys' names list.

DP thinks we should use the name and that it would be totally ok. I feel odd about it as it seems to me that the name belongs to DS1 even though it is only his middle name. I am also concerned about the reaction from is ex and her side of the family, not that we ever see each other....

What are your thoughts? Is it weird to steal/hijack his son's middle name? Or am I just over thinking it?

Thank you!

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diddl · 06/01/2012 17:50

Odd imo.

I´m sure if you have a son he would like "his own" names that his father hadn´t already chosen for a son.

greenmoo · 06/01/2012 17:35

DP - oldest of four brothers. No. 4 brother's first name is no. 3 brother's middle name (and their dad's first name, and no. 4 brother's DS's middle name). Never realised that could be seen as odd until now, nobody in the family bats an eyelid. It's a good name!

RillaBlythe · 06/01/2012 17:26

Not good.

yellowraincoat · 06/01/2012 17:25

I think it's a bad idea.

scottishmummy · 06/01/2012 17:23

names don't belong,and cant be stolen
but two half siblings having a same fore name and same middle name is odd
it's not the steal thing at all,just the oddness of name used twice two family members

silverfrog · 06/01/2012 17:20

would you do the same if ds1 was your son too? ie, if both boys lived in the house, were full siblings etc.

my dh has 2 children from his previous marriage, and I really like both their middle names. I couldn't use them though - it would feel odd to me to name a child after it's sibling. and a bit like we couldn't be bothered to find a name for the new baby (just my opinion)

patsdeadfrank · 06/01/2012 17:15

i would have to say that its prob a bad idea and prob wont help any relationship you may have with dp ex.
its totally up to yourself but i wouldnt dream of using one of dp dd's middle names as i know his ex would go bat shit. she doesnt own the names etc but i wouldnt want to cause any strain when there doesnt have to be any.

greenmoo · 06/01/2012 17:05

As it's a middle name I think it's ok. Let's be honest, most people never use or even tell other people their middle name. It's a bit of a weird tradition. My ex was not from the UK - in his culture you just have a first name and a surname - and he thought we were all crazy for giving our kids names they'll never use!

jezebelle · 06/01/2012 16:17

My ex and his now ex had a baby girl, they used a name that was a potential name for our dd, obviously his idea but i found it very weird and still do, i wonder if his ex knew it was on our shortlist, bet she didn't !

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