DH hates DS's name. Fan-bloody-tastic.

Your son will make whatever name he has his own.

People will grow to love his name as it represents his personality. Trust your son to make his name the most beautiful name. Have faith in him. You, your dh and countless other people will come to love his name, because it means him.

I wasn't sure about my ds's name, but now think it is the best and only right and fitting name for a ds, he has made it for me.

The reasons to advise not giving in are that

1. this man can only come up with the name of the dog as an alternative, and
2. he doesn't even like the mn that he himself suggested
3. neither the OP nor the H would budge on names while she was pregnant

None of which suggests he will be able to come up with something reasonable that he likes and that the OP can agree to.

Do you know what, I'm not entirely sure about DD's name. I like it, but I'm not sure if it's a bit too posh or something for me. It's her name now though.

I don't like the name Xavier by the way. It's one of those names that isn't to everybody's taste.

Personally I would change the name. Your DH needs to like it too.

No way should you change it. It's his name. How bloody weird would it be to find out at age 18 that you used to be called something else but your parents changed their minds? Flakey or what.

I'm surprised so many people saying don't change the name. When mums ask similar questions the reply usually is change it now while he is still so young. I think the name is nice but it doesn't matter what anyone here thinks. It would bother me that he was embarrassed to tell people his sons name.

He has been a bit of a knob, but he made a mistake. Probably with sweet motivation. I would find a compromise and change it.

Get him to 1. Pick a name and 2. Write it down

Ride it out for the next few months, looking for a nickname in the meantime. Then revisit the name on the bit of paper.

Dh chose dd4 name, 6 years on I'm still not keen on it, but it suits her, it's her name.

Just ride it out.

He didn't want Xavier then changed his mind to allow it then changed his mind again after the baby has had the name for two months. He also wanted Sasha enough that it is babys middlename but has also changed his mind about that? Sorry but I would tell him to grow the fuck up and think of a nickname - oh and give you peace. There is enough to think about with a young baby without this nonsense.

I find it rather strange he couldn't tell you how he felt earlier.

I have friends who adopted two children with very distinct names which would never have been their choices but they now never considered changing them -the DCs were 4 and 6.

Tell him he's a day late and a dollar short and he needs to get over himself.

You had an agreement and you expect him to abide by it and forever hold his peace.

We nearly changed ds name when he was about 3 months old and only didn't because there was nothing else we could agree on. He is 2 soon and the name totally fits now. Ride it out.

There is no way I would consider changing it. Your DH can call the baby whatever he wants - mine generally calls DS monkey - but he has his name, it was agreed on, it's registered and that's that.

I had a little sympathy for your DH unti I read the "doesn't like Sacha anymore" comment. If he's that fickle then you might as well stick with the name that you love.

READ THE OP PROPERLY!

Does your son have a second name? Would that be an ok compromise to maybe consider using his second name as an everyday name?

Well I think your DH needs to get over it. Let him call your DS "Zavvy" or "Buddy" or "Buster", or some other nickname which could be used for anybody, and stick with Xavier.

I think men can be quite tactless...DH got some ribbing about DS2s name from colleagues, and asked "is it a family name, then" by bemused people when he was born. His name is now in the top 10, or 20, or something, and everybody loves his name! Do you think your DH could have had some negative comments when telling people your DSs name, which has put him off?

Firstly congratulations. I think you absolutely need to find another name that you BOTH like. There are thousands of names out there and it is only fair that both father and mother are happy with their son's name, especially given how strongly your dh feels about the name. He will otherwise always feel bad about it and regret not having changed it imo.

Good luck and I hope you both can find a compromise name that works for both of you!

p.s. I love Sacha, short for Alexander personally.

I hated DD2s name and felt pressured into it. When she was about 3 weeks old, we started calling her by another name and it totally called my bluff. I couldn't call her anything but her original name because it was hers. I felt like I was asking for a new baby iyswim. Risky strategy, but maybe let him try using another name for a week and see if it sticks?

You could have gone with his choice and he'd hate it now too!

I think Xavier is the baby's name and he's just going to have to accept it - calling the baby Sacha or a nn like Xavi/Zay are both very reasonable compromises.

DP and I both agreed on DS's name (it was literally the only name both of us liked, but neither of our favourite names) but for a while after he was born I didn't feel it was quite right and referred to him as "The Baby" for ages But, he's 1 now and it is perfectly his name and he couldn't be anything else. As a child grows they become their name, and it is less relevant whether you like the name or not - you love the child.

Don't change it! It's his name, and you like it, and your DH agreed!

I think you should definitely not let him choose a new one in case he goes off that too.

(If I got rid of anything I'd get rid of the Sacha as although I know it's a boy's name it sounds like a girl's name. )

It sounds manipulative and a bit mean of me but I think in your position I'd ask him to think of a new one, then when he announced it say: "Well as you were that sure about Sacha and then changed your mind, lets write it down and leave it a couple of months to make sure you still feel the same about it." Repeat x 5 and that should get you past the year

A couple of months down the line and he will have heard quite a few people say "Oh what a lovely name!" and realise it is indeed lovely.

if he really hates the name that much, I would change it. Get him to give you 3 names he likes and see if you like any of them.

Oh dear, what a horrible fight to be having. :( I think you were a little naive to think he would suddenly accept Xavier when he'd already expressed his disdain.

I believe you've up to a year to figure it out. My boyfriend and I have polar opposite tastes so I printed out some lists and ringed. The ones I liked, he did the same. We've narrowed it down to fewer than 5 now.

The only middle ground I see with your current two is Alex or Alexander.

Good luck and open those communication lines.