OK, final name thread! One of us will be disappointed, who should it be?

Sorry but your DH is being a total twat over this.

You've offered lots of compromise names - he's offered none.

This is totally stressing you out, but he seems to find it mostly amusing -

'So, women of the jury, I put it to you that actually, his only objection to Verity is Just Because and when I did my and said right, that's it, pissed off now, had enough of this, Verity it is, he laughed and said ok. Does that sound to you like someone with a real problem with the name?'

-No, it doesn't, it sounds like someone who is enjoying winding you up.

I'd have had enough by now if I were you, and I'd be telling him that the above conversation and especially his little giggle over the issue of him disliking the name Verity had pushed this into serious territory, and that I took him at his word the other day, and Verity it is.

Oh and I can't help thinking that the reason he is able to assert that he is Not Backing Down is because experience has told him that if he throws his weight around, you'll give in. (With that in mind, his little giggly play-about with the idea of Verity the other day seems even more nasty - 'Oh, I'm going to play cat and mouse with her for a bit, but no worries - when it comes down to it I'll have my way'.)

So don't back down, this time. Tell him you don't want Madeleine. That's it.

Ok then, you are going to have to play dirty .

1 As soon as possible after giving birth, look into your new daughter's eyes and say "hello Verity,

2 claim to have had a dream that new child had to be called "Verity" and therefore the name is divinely ordained / chosen by fate.

Please note though these suggestions may not work and are not meant entirely seriously

Why is the solution for you to give in? Just because he won't? Oh no sirree, that just won't do! I promise, in a few months you will be kicking yourself if you roll over and capitulate over this. Why should you just roll over, when he isn't even trying to compromise?

GML, please do not accept a name that you are not happy with, otherwise you may be back in 2, 5, or even 10th months wanting to change it.

FWIW, I think Julia is a lovely name. VeriTy isn't my choice, but is better than Madeleine. She will be your daughter though so please get a name for her that you love.

It does sound like he's being a bit manipulative. I also think Verity Madeleine works very well.

TBH I think he's being a bit of a drama queen about this. He magnanimously tells you you can use your choice of name, then "was awake tossing and turning all night because he wasn't happy" - really? Not fair of him to reject all your suggestions and then pile on the guilt...

Go with Verity Madeleine. That way you both get a name you like and no names that either of you actively dislike.

i've just gone back and read the whole thread - your ongoing discussions with dh sound identical to the ones we had.

stick to verity if you LOVE it. it sounds as tho he'll be fine with it in the end.

i've only read pages 1 and 4 so apols if i've missed something earth-shattering in the middle but dh and i were in a v similar position with girls names for dc2. he had a few he liked but was a bit meh about them and i hated them all, i had a shortlist i loved and he hated.

in the end he let me go with my fave despite him having reservations of various kinds (it's a v frilly and slightly unusual name) and there being no obvious nickname.

now, 14 months on, she really suits her name, we get lots of compliments on it, ds coined her nickname early on and she gets called that 50% of the time. dh is happy enough with it all in all.

could verity work out like that for you?

I nearly posted the other day saying I though your DH was being a bit twattish about this, but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt. Have now changed my mind. He is being rather twattish about this.

You've been more than flexible about your choices, if he's not willing to be flexible too then the choice of name is yours. No guilt allowed.

Who is pregnant?
Who is having this baby?
I do feel you hold all the cards!

Jennifer is a FABULOUS name, they can grow with it IYSWIM, Jenny when they are little, progressing to Jen for tween/teen but always having a sensible full name for adulthood. Not that I'm biased at all but DD1 is a Jennifer (9) and I'm so pleased that I didn't bow to pressure and pick something 'less old fashioned'

I don't really like Jennifer, I'm plumping for Verity.

Jennifer is a fabulous name, strong and pretty, and is underused in the under-5's.

NB I have given up on Nymbler as it has suggested that I might like a DS called Pervis

I suggested Jennifer. Now what do I win?

Julia sounds like a woman in her 50's apparently'

This may account for his fixation with sugar and spice and all things blech. He is only thniking of her as a baby. That is my general theory about why people pick frilly names like Clarabelle anyway.

fwiw, I love Madeleine and I think Jennifer is really nice,

Best of luck, hope all goes well.

how about Violet? Flowery but not fluffy. Ours is nn vee.

Although I reckon that you will see her and her name will either pop in to your head immediately, or will suddenly come to you one day.

How about:

Tesni
Cordelia
Anya (if you want to be a real geek, Anyanka for the full name ;))
Seren
Ava
Esmarelda (nn Esme)
Teagan or Tegan