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OK, final name thread! One of us will be disappointed, who should it be?

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GuillotinedMaryLacey · 20/10/2011 13:05

We have two name choices. Neither one of us is happy about the other's choice. We have been through every name we can think of and, without a word of a lie, there is not one single name in the entire world that we agree on, believe me, we've tried and it's beginning to grind us down. We've just got totally different taste in names. So we've accepted that one of us will have to get used to a name we're not wild about.

Anyone else in the same position, what did you do? Is it possible to live with a name that's just ok and not The Name?

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ShroudOfHamsters · 24/10/2011 23:03

Argh!

How about Anna?

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GuillotinedMaryLacey · 24/10/2011 22:44

Nope, I suggested that earlier in the proceedings and it was rejected. I also suggested Veronica. No go there either. He hasn't mentioned names tonight so am leaving the ball in his court for the moment...

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ShroudOfHamsters · 24/10/2011 22:38

Another one I really like although it's not to everyones taste is Vanessa. I see it as a really strong but also v attractive name- probably reminds me of Vanessa Paradis! It's also one of those names that are beyond fashion iyswim, it doesn't evoke any particular era.

The reason I suggest it is that the 'essa' might appeal to your DH's frilly side, while the V gives you your alliteration, and a short everyday name (Vee, Van) that's pretty close to what you would get from Verity.

ShroudOfHamsters · 24/10/2011 21:34

Tortoise Grin

OP, I know a Genevieve, known as Vivie - fab name, very similar to the Verity vibe (Vivie would be the nickname I'd suggest for Verity in fact) - better than Madeleine I reckon... How about it??

pootlebug · 24/10/2011 21:24

I like Genevieve a lot. Also like the fact that it has a number of shortened versions - could that be a way to keep the peace with his desire for a more frilly name and your desire for a stronger sounding name.....so that effectively you both call her different variants of the same name?

Or maybe other names with lots of shortenings...Elizabeth maybe. I'm sure there are others, but I can't think what

NoHunIntended · 24/10/2011 21:08

Genevieve is perfect! Good luck! :)

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GuillotinedMaryLacey · 24/10/2011 20:17

I wish!

Genevieve is good, I like your thinking but... Confused

They've just come back but DD is upset so the subject hasn't been broached yet...I'm going up in a minute to see what he has to say for himself this evening!

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Vagazzled · 24/10/2011 19:53

Definately Verity Wink

iggi999 · 24/10/2011 19:41
Grin
JamieComeHome · 24/10/2011 18:41

NoHun - OOOH yes! Genevieve is lovely

HettyAmaretti · 24/10/2011 18:34

Grin had to google that

iggi999 · 24/10/2011 18:02

Hetty it's what's called a joke.

NoHunIntended · 24/10/2011 17:18

What about Genevieve? Has the Jennifer vibe, with the Jen/Gen bit, some nice Vs in there for Verity, lots of nn options (Gen, Genie, Vi, Viv, Eve), ie/ei like Madeleine, same number of consonants as Jennifer/Verity/Madeline - ooh, I think I picked a winner!

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GuillotinedMaryLacey · 24/10/2011 17:05

Done that! Done that several times in fact. I have everyone I know firing names at me but so far none that we haven't already considered and rejected.

I'm not going to think about it any more now. It's doing my head in. Confused. I am officially on a name break....guaranteed the swine will come home tonight telling me he loves Jennifer after all... Hmm

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mathanxiety · 24/10/2011 17:01

I think at this point you need to come up with a list of 20 names each that does not include the names Verity, Madeleine or Jennifer. The list could include names that have been brought up until this point but dismissed, but not those three names.

Don't let the name come between you -- maybe the only way to avoid this now is for both of you to drop your favourites and start again.

MrsRetchingBloodAndGuts · 24/10/2011 16:37

The thing is, she doesn't look like a Leila...

Or a Natalia..

She seems stronger than those names but I do think she'd have suited Tyra. :(

MrsRetchingBloodAndGuts · 24/10/2011 16:35

So nothings decided yet then?

My dd is called Kaiya.

I need to get used to it.

Put your foot down and stick to Verity, I got to the stage you are at and said 'at this point i'll agree to anything' and I did... I was HAVING A CONTRACTION at the exact moment the final decision was made though!

HettyAmaretti · 24/10/2011 15:11

WTF iggi - I assume that once the choice has been made either partner would trust the other to register the correct name.

iggi999 · 24/10/2011 14:19

Which of you will be able to get to the registrar's office the quickest after the birth? That should settle it.

Tortoiseinadarkspell · 24/10/2011 12:39

Ah, I suppose you either like alliteration or you don't, I'm the latter.

Right now, I think I would say an absolute veto NO to Madeleine, and then just leave the conversation for a bit. I know, I know that you have to have a name. But you don't have to have it today.

HettyAmaretti · 24/10/2011 12:29

No, that's not right.

Verity Madeline Violet? VV (as in very, very) could be unfortunate initials if your surname is (or is similar too) a noun..

AuntieMaggie · 24/10/2011 12:27

I agree with you about needing a strong name especially as your DD is called Harriet. I like Violet.

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GuillotinedMaryLacey · 24/10/2011 12:26

I love Verity Violet, alliteration fan! No, Violet is after my grandmother, not because I particularly like it IYSWIM. If she was Hilda it'd be Verity Hilda albeit through gritted teeth Wink

He actually has managed to whittle discussion down to the one name he likes. He's even ousted any of the other names he was thinking about earlier in the proceedings, he's just stuck on this one bloody name. Yes he is being a twat. If this was a holiday destination we were debating then I'd cancel our passports but it's one of the few things that you can't say sod it, let's not bother then. She has to have some sort of bloody name. I pity the day that the poor girl asks how we chose her name, especially as DD1's was so easy, fuck knows how!

You are right Shouty. I love Verity, anyone in RL who has heard it likes it, the majority of people on here like it so it's not a highly offensive name. I was thinking in the shower this morning that if I let him have bloody Madeleine the what could I call her as a nickname that wouldn't make me want to knife him everytime I used it. That's not right, is it?

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Tortoiseinadarkspell · 24/10/2011 12:12

Shouty Shroudy, have I told you recently how much I love you?

Listen to Shroudof, OP.

Although, if you are already having Violet as a middle, how would you feel about having Violet as a first instead as a compromise? Violet Madeleine? I like Verity, but I'm not thrilled about Verity Violet.

ShroudOfHamsters · 24/10/2011 11:48

Oh you could also just turn his behaviour back on him. Just say matter-of-factly that as he can't even have a decent honest conversation with you about it (messing around and saying he was ok with Verity after all, lying about Jennifer being acceptable for the compromise name) then there isn't any point in taking his views into account - hey, for all you know he might be lying about liking Madeleine too! The only sensible solution is for you to go for Verity - the name you at least know that one (non-lying) partner genuinely loves. :)

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