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Is it weird to call our baby the same name as my brother?

63 replies

Hopintobed · 17/09/2011 18:39

We have recently found out we are expecting DS2. We already have DS called Joseph. The only other name I really love is Daniel but it's my brother's name. I have loved the name since I was a child but is it weird to call him same name. Me and my brother are still fairly close and he lives in same town so he is definitely in our children's lives. Is it confusing or weird or OK?

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Ephiny · 21/09/2011 12:40

I don't think it's weird at all, it's actually a really nice thing to name a child after a good friend or relative. Shouldn't be confusing, and as others have suggested you can always use a nickname if that helps.

TangerineQueen · 21/09/2011 12:33

I think it's nice and not strange, and you have Dan/Danny options.

You don't have any more siblings who might be offended at not having their names used do you? (I don't mean don't do it but worth consideration).

anewmotivatedme · 20/09/2011 14:40

I have a son who called her son Edward, same as her brother.

Her son is called Ted by everyone, and uncle Ed, so it never seems weird.

allieballiebee · 19/09/2011 16:02

I'd ask your brother to see what he thinks. I gave DD2 the same middle name as my sister (bit diff I know) but I did ask her if she was ok with it (which she was). If you have a good relationship with yoru brother I'm sure he'd feel able to give you his honest opinion.

PGTip · 18/09/2011 13:50

Not odd at all I have my aunts name

ash6605 · 18/09/2011 13:10

I don't think it's weird at all, it's lovely but I would just run it by your brother and family first! Great name btwSmile

featherbag · 18/09/2011 13:03

Don't see the problem at all, in my family it would be considered perfectly normal and a compliment to your brother! I'm named after my mum's sister, she's known as Big Featherbag while I'm Little Featherbag, somewhat amusingly as I'm a good foot taller and have been since age 12!

QOD · 18/09/2011 11:16

My DH is "Big Saul" and his nephew (who is now 6ft 4 to DH's 6ft 2) is "Little Saul"

very amusing

WorkingItOutAsIGo · 18/09/2011 11:02

I do think however that you should ask your brother first before making the final decision. It would be nice to tell him that it's after him.

itsybitsy08 · 18/09/2011 10:32

My DP's nephew is named after him. I have never thought it was wierd Confused why anyone would tbh? I think its nice that his sister looks up to her big brother and hounoured that by calling her son after him. Though DP is known as shortened version and nephew is always full version, not that it matters.

I agree with SheCutOffTheirTails - all I would think/say, and I'm sure all many others would think/say is "you called him after your brother, how lovely!"

I really like Daniel btw, and all the nn's. Cute :)

Hopintobed · 18/09/2011 10:15

Oh God Poncey your post made me laugh! sorry but the 'not making old bones' thing and recycling the same 4 names! It's lovely to do that though in my opinion anyway as long as it's not confusing for people in the family. thanks everyone for the replies. DH likes the name and doesn't think it's strange that it's also my brother's name but did say other peope in the family might get confused but seriously how hard can it be?! Will definitely use Daniel in some form even if it's as a middle name. we also like Finlay but that seems a bit trendy at the moment.

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SheCutOffTheirTails · 18/09/2011 09:32

Yes, Joseph and Daniel do go nicely together. I can just imagine little Joseph and Daniel running about together.

Congratulations BTW :)

nokissymum · 18/09/2011 09:08

Nothing wrong with naming your son the same name as your brother, he will still have his own identity, you obviously love and it will be extra special for your brother too. Go for it !

CurwySwide · 18/09/2011 09:02

I think it is absolutely fine - I have a niece (my brother's daughter) who has the same name as my sister; it has never caused a problem. Well, except for the fact that my niece as a child was always known as Little Rosie, and my sister as Big Rosie which isn't terribly flattering I suppose!

HooverTheHamaBeads · 18/09/2011 08:35

I think it is fine, this is two different generations after all.

Smadarama · 18/09/2011 06:45

I think it's a lovely thing to do and not at all weird. When I was growing up there were loads of Johns. We used middle and surnames as identifiers then diminutives / nicknames for the children. I'm sure your brother will be delighted. Daniel is a nice name.

coccyx · 18/09/2011 06:44

Do it. your brother will be chuffed I'm sure. they won't spend that much time together will they and then they could be big dan and little dan!
my Bil, his son and his grandson all have same name. Now that is confusing

saffronwblue · 18/09/2011 04:45

I think it is a lovely thing to do. Your DS will have his own identity but will feel a special link to your brother, as you do.

nooka · 18/09/2011 04:06

I wouldn't call my children after anyone living because I want them to have names which are unique to them. I'd hate to be a 'little x" all my life personally.

dd is called after two great grandmothers, but they are long dead and not referred to by name (only their granny names) so there is no confusion.

However it isn't an unusual thing to do, so not weird. Just not for me.

savoycabbage · 18/09/2011 04:03

I can't believe that anyone would think it odd. It's lovely to have a sibling who you love and have a relationship with. I bet your ds will love him too.

Offspring · 18/09/2011 03:55

My Dad has two brothers. His older brother called his son Gregory, the same name as Dad's younger brother. To the whole family they have always been 'Big Greg' or 'Little Greg'. No one has ever thought it is weird, although 'Little Greg' is now in his 40's, probably looking forward to the day that he can shake the title :). I think it's a nice situation to be in - if you love the name and you think that your brother would be chuffed, there wouldn't be any real issue.

tamitots · 17/09/2011 23:37

I think it's lovely to continue family names. My mum is one of four sisters and three of their girls have Louise as a middle name and two of us Marie. This has now continued with the next generation of our family using these as middle names. Years ago my friend asked if she could call her daughter Eliza Marie after my middle name and I was really touched by this.

sjuperwolef · 17/09/2011 23:30

my sister was offended i didnt name my dd after her Hmm i see nothing wrong with it - and daniel is a gorgeous name :)

NeedaCostume · 17/09/2011 23:27

It is fine to name your son after your brother. Maybe you can nickname differently to distinguish - i.e. Dan/ Danny.

One of my sons has the middle name Thomas like my brother.

These names are common for a good reason - they are lovely names.