Just a sad dissapointed thread because i cant and would never sayanything in rl

it's a lovely name.

I think you're basing this child's future far too much on your past. I have an unusual name as does my sister, and went to a very white british primary school. No one could care less about our names and we certainly weren't ever teased about them. Children are very accepting of difference, especially at a young age and I honestly don't think this child is going to be bullied about their name. Stop worrying!

UK is such a multicultural society these days that there will be lots of 'strange' names around in future so anything goes really.

you are being unreasonable yes. esp to be sad and disappointed over it!

it isn't your baby! they can call their baby whatever they want to. I really don't understand why people get this involved in what other people name their children.
I am interested in what friends and family have as potential name choices, but i'd never be sad or disappointed if it wasn't a name I liked that's quite weird imo!

your niece will not be bullied just because of her name and it's ridiculous to get all sad and upset because you think she will.

My mum's Irish and my dad's Scottish and my sister got a Swahili name. She then gave her DD a Swahili name that has a similar meaning to hers and is very pretty. Is that not ok?

YABU.
It is non of your business what anyone else calls their child. Just look at all the threads where parents have been persuaded not to use a particular name by family members. My fil stuck his nose into our name choice for dd1 and I do regret not using the name just because of his opinion. Btw I don't think children are bothered what their friends are called.

It will probably be spelt by all and sundry as yumay,
I have a friend who has a gaelic name with impossible spelling, she gave up giving the correct spelling yrs ago.
In fact in her last job when she left they gave her a framed print of all the different concoctions of her name spelling that clients had used in letters..very amusing as there were so many.

Also think it's most odd that your bil thinks he's scottish. I was born there as all my family have ,dd born in england and she doesn'tt remotely think of herself as scottish.

I think it's pretty. And she will only get teased if her name is a verb.

OP is not sure of spelling so probably is Yume.

OP would you feel sorry for her if they were Japanese?

oumai is a strange way to transcribe a Japanese name into roman letters, a Japanese person would read that name as oh-my. As helen says, maybe they are trying to go for Yume, a lovely and classic Japanese name.

If they are going to give her a Japanese name, please make sure they are spelling it correctly.

I know an all-Welsh family who have a baby with a Japanese name. It really suits her. And as you say, they already have a child with a Japanese name. At a guess, they may have named her Yume meaning 'dream'.

I think it is fine and BTW if you both have such radically different tastes in girls names she probably hates your choice but has kept quiet, you can please some of the people but not all, there will probably be someone somewhere who has known someone bullied for the name you have choosen.

I think it's quite pretty.

I don't understand why you feel sad for the girl? What am I missing? They're using a name you don't like. Why are you feeling sad?

Children, even quite old ones, are remarkably relaxed about names. I teach secondary, and it really isn't a factor in how people react to you. Children are bullied, but not over names. Teachers on the other hand can be disturbingly nasty about names.

I think you are being very odd.

Is your BIL Rod Stewart?

The other thing is, at what point does someone who is third generation English born become English and not Scottish?

I do think there's a slight difference between using an Irish name or an Italian name and using a Japanese name though!!!! Just my opinion. I would think, if my child were brought up in Italy/Ireland/Spain/JAPAN.... would they obviously be foreign???????? It's just a personal thing but I'd use Conor or Maeve if I were English, I'd use Giulia or Isabella or Paloma but I wouldn't use a name from another continent I guess.

ps, the scottish father gets upset when people call him English!!, little does he know everybody at the school/ballet/stagecoach/brownies is wondering if he's japanese!! McJapanese.

I work with children with a whole variety of names, many from different countries/cultures. Sometimes the children are also from that country, sometimes it's just the name that is not a typical English name.

These children are not being teased and bullied because of their names at all.

I think yabu. Ok, if you don't liek it, fair enough. But to be sad that she'll be bullied for it beefore she is even here is a bit ott for me, sorry. There is no reason why the little one should be bullied over her name.

And to be blunt - ANY child can end up being bullied for any number of reasons. name is just one very small minor reason compared to everything else out there children decide to taunt one another about.