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disagreeing so badly.. the conclusion..

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danio7 · 10/07/2011 10:43

DH and I disagree so badly with names, we rarely find ones that we even both like a little bit.

As we dont know the sex of the baby we have come to the drastic conclusion of choosing a sex each. He has Boys and I have Girls- we each have one veto.. he has already vetoed my favourite name!

I know that this is a really drastic conclusion but rather one of us be happy than both of us settle. has anyone else got this problem, what did you do?

Or did anyone else try this solution, did it work for you?

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Bandwithering · 10/07/2011 12:18

Yeah, I can see now that I was fixated on choosing a name that reflected my taste accurately. ofgs. I do now see that my own criteria were a bit rigid. eg, i dismissed some lovely names, Phoebe and Lydia because they were "too popular". I've met one of each in 9 years.

Can you give us some of your names and some of your husbands names?

pictish · 10/07/2011 12:11

Ok....I think a compromise is easily attainable. there are a zillion names out there. Something somwhere will eventually appeal to both....that's how it generally happens.

'What about xxxx?'
'Oooh yeah...I LIKE that actually!'

Bingo!

pictish · 10/07/2011 12:08
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stupefy · 10/07/2011 12:07

Of course it's not nonsense. Mum does all the work, mum gets the final say.

Of course a compromise is better but not if it means the child having names both parents think is meh.

cece · 10/07/2011 12:04

Can you give us examples of your names and his names please?

cece · 10/07/2011 12:04

I would not like that arrangement. My DH and I had little agreement on names. Our girls name is the one we agreed on most and funnily enough it is the one I like least now. OUr boys all have compromise names and now I love them all. Smile

I would persist for a compromise.

pictish · 10/07/2011 12:02

Stupefy that's nonsense. Of course her dp gets an equal say!

stupefy · 10/07/2011 12:01

You are the one pregnant and you are the one giving birth therefore YOU get the final say.

ragged · 10/07/2011 11:57

I think you'd both be happier in long run with a name that you both find tolerable even if neither of you love it. Better that than a name that one of you loves but the other one loathes.

Bandwithering · 10/07/2011 10:54

i don't know about that plan. My x and I couldn't agree either. My dc1 has a compromise name (although I think he secretly liked it a lot more than he let on, I felt a bit played,,, but anyway). I do not strongly dislike the compromise name. I really would have hated if he'd had absolute free rein to choose whatever he like (bar one veto).
There's a fifty - fifty chance that that will happen you know~!!

Cattleprod · 10/07/2011 10:50

I'd suggest you both do a really long list (maybe 50 names of each sex) that you don't hate, and see if there is any common ground at all. For example, there may be a long name that you love and he's not keen on, but he may really like a shortened version of it.

exoticfruits · 10/07/2011 10:47

We just kept going until we had a compromise. I wouldn't go for your solution and having a boy's name that you probably hate.