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disagreeing so badly.. the conclusion..

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danio7 · 10/07/2011 10:43

DH and I disagree so badly with names, we rarely find ones that we even both like a little bit.

As we dont know the sex of the baby we have come to the drastic conclusion of choosing a sex each. He has Boys and I have Girls- we each have one veto.. he has already vetoed my favourite name!

I know that this is a really drastic conclusion but rather one of us be happy than both of us settle. has anyone else got this problem, what did you do?

Or did anyone else try this solution, did it work for you?

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vicks71 · 14/07/2011 22:43

well done for finding a solution! I think that you had to do it that way - I don't think it would be fair to have used a name that one of you didn't like at all.

I WAS going to (jokingly!) suggest something nefarious like sneakily doing a scan so you knew how vehemently you needed to argue against Terry etc - but thankfully that wasn't necessary! Smile

BertieBasset · 14/07/2011 20:56

Thank goodness - I had been having nightmares about a baby Tel!

TheSugarPlumFairy · 14/07/2011 15:51

We couldnt agree either so decided that i got to name the first one and he gets to name the second one. All sounded great except now that the second one is on the way and the name he wants for a boy is just plain awful with our surname (aliteration on maximum) so i might have to become thoroughly unreasonable and reneg on our agreement.

JanMorrow · 13/07/2011 17:30

Ah well done! My Gran was called Mai, it's a very pretty name (whatever the spelling!), it's my daughter's middle name in her honour.

MelinaM · 13/07/2011 12:28

Well done youSmile Love Harry and Mae!

mathanxiety · 13/07/2011 03:46

It makes sense to me.

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danio7 · 12/07/2011 21:12

thanks so much, we really werent sure on the spelling of Mae, but I dont want it to be like the month, we looked at mai- but it reminds me of koi karp for some reason?! Confused

I also think Madeleine is a beautiful name and so classy, but very popular- I know a million Madys!

We figured we can fluff up Mae for when she is a baby by calling her maisie(assuming it's a girl) but I'm hesitant about officially naming her maisie incase she feels uncomfortable at 40!!

I hope this makes sense?!

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Yama · 12/07/2011 20:51

Well done Danio7. They are all lovely names. Keep Zac and Madeleine as back ups in case the baby looks more like one of those names.

By the way I prefer the Mae spelling.

mathanxiety · 12/07/2011 20:40

I think Mae or May are lovely as first names. Very simple and sweet.

ragged · 12/07/2011 07:59

Good news :). I love Mae West (we are very very very distant cousins according to one website).

PetronusOfSteel · 11/07/2011 20:36

That sounds much better and you've even got a fallback option if baby doesn't look like a Harry/Mae, much better than your original lists, hope you don't mind me saying. Smile

mathanxiety · 11/07/2011 19:49

Truly lovely names. Well done. How did you get him to drop Terry, etc?

GwendolineMaryLacey · 11/07/2011 19:22

Madeleine is nicer than May and Mae Wink

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danio7 · 11/07/2011 19:20

okay update.. DH and I did the list thing and then went through and crossed off names until we had two choices left for each sex...

We had Harry and Zac for a boy- we chose Harry
and Mae and Madeleine for a girl- we chose Mae.

it looks like baby Terry might never exist- which is quite good, because I was starting to worry my children will sound like the cast of Eastenders.

:)

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ragged · 11/07/2011 10:06

In defense of your poor DH... I don't see the problem with Grant (I know one or two clever Uni professors with the forename Grant) or Tyler (very popular, very very clever boy in DD's y4 has this forename) (shrug).

Amelie & Sonny make me wince, though...

Should note, my own DC have dead common boring names like William & Elizabeth.

Italiangreyhound · 11/07/2011 01:06

I mean once they are out and 6 years old and shouting their name not as soon as they are out, of course!

Italiangreyhound · 11/07/2011 01:06

Danio7 I really would go for the compromise solution, the 50 name list. Actually, once they are out and you are shouting their name 10 times and still being ignored it tends to lose it's flavour somewhat! Confused

I do like Tyler and Harry.

Good luck. Please do tell us what is decided!

PetronusOfSteel · 10/07/2011 23:22

I think for a lot of people it becomes more realistic choosing a name once a baby has arrived. I like to be prepared and wanted to have at least a shortlist ready (also didn't find out the sex so needed 2 shortlists) but me and DP both found it really hard discussing names when it was still an idea, rather than a person, that we were naming. We also spent a long time arguing about girls' names (even down to the spelling of one) and have 2 DSs so it was never relevant, if you wait until the baby arrives at least you only have half the number of names to argue over.

I really wouldn't name a child something either of you dislike, sooner or later there will be something which appeals to both of you.

lateatwork · 10/07/2011 23:21

we chose dd name on the bus on the way to getting her registered- 4 weeks after she was born. Wrote down the choices on a piece of paper. DP then put a 1 next to the name he liked best all they way through to 7 for the least favourite. he folded the paper, handed it to me and I did the same. We then added the two scores together and the lowest score is her name... funny, but her name had a score of 2- ie it was first choice for DP and I... it just seemed we couldnt reach agreement when doing it any other way!

ruelachesty · 10/07/2011 23:07

When I went to baby massage with DD1 we all had to go round and introduce ourselves, our baby and give a reason for their name.

One girl said (whilst grimacing) Cruz, because we decided he'd choose the boy and I'd choose the girl.

Not a good idea if you don't like thye name!

What about laurie for a boy? Kinda close to Terry?

Bandwithering · 10/07/2011 19:02

eeeyooow. I like Berry for a girl though.

Dennis for a baby is quite cool! STILL not gettingTerry though

ensure · 10/07/2011 18:42

Terry is a cool name for a baby! Baby Terry, yeah, go for that!

Bandwithering · 10/07/2011 18:33

Does your husband only like names if he knows an adult of that name??

Robbie
Richie
Greg
Dominic

Melanie - a little like Amelie?

Sylvie - a little like Sydney?