name after hubbys squezze?????

My cousin did exactly this - gave her first child the same name as the woman her DH had an affair with. He left her for this woman, but it was her favourite name and she didn't see why she shouldn't use it. We all thought it was v odd but that it was her choice.

Having the name foisted on you is quite different - and very bizarre of your DH. There is no way on earth you should do it. Agree with the poster who said that he lost his right to this (very stupid) family tradition when he cheated on you.

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!

Just NO. Full stop.

If DH and PIL don't understand then just stick your fingers in your ears and repeat "no, no, no, no, no, no, no" until they get the message (or get worried and bring you )

No, no, no, no, no!

There's being forgiving and there's being a doormat. If you agree to the use of this name (even as a middle name) then you will be the latter.

I'd tell both my husband and my MIL to fuck off if they so much as hinted that this is acceptable, let alone started expecting it.

Also you have a right to make your own traditions and not blindly follow someone else's. This is not your MIL's baby, so she doesn't get a say in what it's called.

I think your husband is bloody fortunate that you forgave him and are having a baby with him. Perhaps he needs a kick in the balls gentle reminder.

One of the joys of having a baby is getting to choose its name. Don't let anyone, including your fuckwit husband ruin it for you.

NO. That name shouldn't be anywhere or even alluded to. Middle name, alternative spellings etc would all be out IMO.

I agree with the poster who said he gave up any 'right' to continue that tradition when he cheated on you with someone of that name. Tell the GPs that too. If they won't see it, that's not your problem. You should NOT do this.

One of DS's middle names is my dad's name and also the name of an ex - DH had no problem with it but I did run it by him and would've understood if he had a problem with it; plus it was an ex not a betrayal. I would NEVER EVER use a name with negative connotations like that.

If you're absolutely sure it IS after his mum, but you still worry about it, then use it as a middle name, especially if it's something normal like Elizabeth or Catherine. Let's face it, you're gonna meet more than one Katy in your lifetime.

The more I think about it, the more I'd say don't do it.

I love the name Louisa, but DH's girlfriend of nine years (before he met me, and they'd been dating since they were 17) is called this.

Absolutely no way should this child be named after his bit on the side.

Just because it has been tradition to name a baby after the grandparents in his family doesn't mean it has to stay that way and become what you do too.

Tell him you will not name your child after someone he fucked and if he doesn't like it he can whistle.

^^

Tell him to do one on this.

Compromise with middle name?
But yeah, screw tradition. That's HIS family tradition, not yours. Why is it that it's always the male family tradition that is deemed more important.
Tell his parents that you do not want to be reminded of his slutty mistress or your mother in law every time you call your child's name. You will be carrying this child for 9 months. You will experience the discomfort that comes along with you. You will go through the pains of labour. You will be the one who pushes a melon head out of your vag. You will be the one to have stitches (probably) afterwards and you are the one who bears the scars of childbirth for the rest of your life. Therefore you can call the baby what the hell you want to and he can just take a running jump!

And while he's at it, what's with fucking someone with his mother's name? That's just creepy!

Oh OP please don't do it, and don't let your MIL make you feel bad about it either.

She probably feels disappointed that the tradition can't be followed, but she should be more disappointed in her son and his previous actions.

He is very lucky that he still has you in his life, tell him not to push his luck!

Totally agree!! No way. I couldn't even have named our DD after any of my hubbie's exs, nevermind if the name in question was from an affair!! Is the woman in question ever likely to know your baby's full name? Not that it changes my opinion. Just curious!!Whatever the outcome, just enjoy your baby!!

Definitely no - no questions! Do you really want to be thinking of "the other woman" when using your precious baby's name?! Certainly not. In fact it's making me quite cross on your behalf that your hubby sees no problem .

Tallulah Princess Girlypops it is then .

I'm named after one of my father's affairs (in my mother's defence, the affair was a family friend and she knew nothing about it till I was 3!)

I have hated my name ever since I found this out!

Don't do it OP!

Absolutely not!!! Stand firm and say no!!!!

The best looking one

If it's a boy you should name him after one of your exes

What if it's a boy?

just tell him when the baby is born that ' Talullah Princess girlypops' is just the most adorable baby you've ever seen and insist she can have no other name. At that point he will not be able to refuse you.

Disclaimer - perhaps not Tallulah Princess Girlypops really but.....

It's a fucking ridiculous idea & that's the end of it.

Or why do you even need to name the baby after grandparents anyway? What if you hated both of your mothers names??

Put your foot down. You have every right too.