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name after hubbys squezze?????

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cath100 · 05/05/2011 20:48

a few years ago my hubby had himself a little fling, i forgave him and am now pregnant. he want to name the baby after his mum, but the problem is that the shortened version of that name is the same as the girl he had the fling with...
i dont want to be moany BUT...

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LoopyLoopsBettyBoops · 06/06/2011 22:48

So sorry to hear that. I hope you're OK and taking care of yourself. :(

MotherPanda · 05/06/2011 22:25

Oh, I'm so sorry - your right, I hadn't read to the end :(

duckdodgers · 04/06/2011 22:58

So sorry Cath. Sad

Motherpanda and firawla, I dont think you have read Caths post above.

daisybear · 04/06/2011 22:55

thats terrible news. so sorry for your loss xx

browneyesblue · 04/06/2011 22:52

So sorry for your loss :(

cloudydays · 04/06/2011 22:38

Very sorry for your loss Cath :( Hope you're ok.

Firawla · 04/06/2011 22:33

does mil have a middle name? if you need to name after mil for tradition then maybe her middle can be used as a middle instead?? or name after your own mum, its still naming after grandparents
but as for this idea then it should be a no, and no comprimise on it. bloody cheek of him to suggest!! and cant believe mil does not see the problem

MotherPanda · 04/06/2011 19:12

No - it would be awful if you were thinking about HER whenever you used your daughters name.

You could use the mums full name as a middle name instead?

valiumbandwitch · 04/06/2011 19:06

Oh that's awful cath. I'm really sorry to hear that. Sad

SamsGoldilocks · 04/06/2011 18:39

Oh Cath - that is terrible news. I'm so sorry for you. Take care and eat lots of chocolate x

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cath100 · 04/06/2011 18:34

lost the baby any way, problem solved.
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Knax · 11/05/2011 21:07

Can't believe the dickhead is even suggesting it - he's lucky you took him back at all without getting his nuts chopped off (no offence) Grin

mumblemumhome4lunch · 11/05/2011 20:02

absolutely not !

If following the tradition of uysing family names is important to you then how about going for his grandmothers name or your MIL middle name ??? Keeps the connection but gives you a bit more choice and away from the offending name.

glendathegoodwitch · 11/05/2011 17:26

definitely not!!!! his bad - he can explain to mummy!!!!

whats wrong with Tallulah???? I have a Tallulah lol!!!

HubbaHubbaBubba · 11/05/2011 15:47

Ooh shouty that's the 2nd or 3rd time I've noticed your posts in the past week - you make me laugh! You would make even me look calm and not feisty! :o

ShoutyHamster · 11/05/2011 13:14

Ha! Er - no way.

Tell them all that it also happens to be tradition that husbands don't go off having sex with other people. So, it would seem to be the case that a. 'We' don't happen to be doing tradition in this family any more and b. The fact that he cheated on you means that he's lucky he's getting to be a father at all, and the fact quite simply is that YOU will be getting to name YOUR CHILD, that YOU carried and gave birth to, in the way YOU want. And if your inlaws don't smarten up and start realising just how close their son came to losing them the chance to BE grandparents in the first place, they might just find that their lack of support for you means that they don't get to play such a big role in the life of their grandchild that they hoped.

I'm the vindictive type so maybe don't follow my advice here, but if it were me I'd be going off and registering the baby on my own, and then tell him that it's a done deal and that it serves him right for a. having an affair and b. trying to think it's ok for the name of HIS mistress to even be mentioned in the house again, let alone be the name of your child.

MIL can just go blame her son for having an affair. That's what's lost her the privilege of having a grandchild named after her. His fault, not yours.

HubbaHubbaBubba · 11/05/2011 11:20

I think that sounds like a compliment virginia ! :o

virginiasmonalogue · 10/05/2011 12:36

He is being an absolute knob-rocket.

wheniwishuponastar · 10/05/2011 11:30

everyones responses are really making me laugh. but no its a terrible idea. he has such a cheek to even suggest it - very hurtful.

Tuggy · 10/05/2011 11:27

YANBU!!! he should have thought of that before the fling cheeky git

valiumbandwitch · 10/05/2011 09:01

I agree with leftblank! either that or NO self awareness at all.

Does he get it yet?

IWouldNotCouldNotWithAGoat · 10/05/2011 01:42

Name your precious DD after his tart??? Shock
Um...NO?!!!!!

ChippingIn · 08/05/2011 21:48

Fuck and off - the only two words you need when discussing this idea quite frankly.

leftblank · 08/05/2011 21:44

He must have balls the size of coconuts to even suggest it!

valiumbandwitch · 08/05/2011 21:10

NO! you are not being unreasonable to say no to that!!!!!!