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Don't want to use 'proper' name on birth certificate/passport

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Newmummytobe79 · 12/04/2011 16:48

Hi all,

Could well be a non worry if we have a girl but seen as we don't know the sex it's an issue we need to consider. We?ve struggled so much with both girls and boys names and have finally picked two we like! We?re not telling anyone as I can?t face someone putting us off the names and having to start the search all over again! The only thing we can?t agree on now is, if we have a boy ? I don?t want the ?full? version of the name on the birth certificate whereas husband does.

A few examples of what I mean (but not ours!)

Archie ? Archibald
Alfie ? Alfred
Artie ? Arthur

I just couldn?t stand it if baby was introduced as Archibald/Alfred etc ? when I?d want baby to be known as Archie/Alfie. Therefore I want the shortened version on the birth certificate ? husband strongly disagrees.

If I?m honest I do think it?s better to put the full name on birth certificates/passport etc and would most definitely want the this with the girls name we?ve picked ? but I just don?t like the full version of the boys name!

Any thoughts?

Thanks

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burntsienna · 12/04/2011 17:11

Full name. It will be the child's name, not yours, and he deserves to have options.

I speak as someone who was given a one-syllable nickname instead of a long proper name with several possible short versions (think Elizabeth, Catherine, that sort of name). Didn't even get a second name. Never forgave my parents for it.

BobbiDazzler · 12/04/2011 17:10

How bizarre to call your child a name that you connot stand to see on their official documentation. My advice would be - don't use the name!

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Newmummytobe79 · 12/04/2011 17:08

SoupDragon ? you are so good at compromise! I think I may ? but I?ll just have to make sure he doesn?t use the full name when announcing baby! :)

Likely to be a girl now! hahaha!

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SoupDragon · 12/04/2011 17:03

If you go with the full version on the certificate and use the short one day to day, you both get the name you want.

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Newmummytobe79 · 12/04/2011 16:56

theagedparent - I'm really sorry but I'm not brave enough to put the name on here! :)

What about husbands want? Do I cave in for the sake of peace or fight for the shortened version to be used at all times, even on birth certificate?

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SoupDragon · 12/04/2011 16:55

TBH, if your DH is strongly in favour of having the full name on the birth certificate I would go with it. Its not as if you ever have to use it so it really won't make a huge difference to you (and I'd say this were it the other way round too, with you in favour and your DH against)

BluddyMoFo · 12/04/2011 16:53

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theagedparent · 12/04/2011 16:52

What's the name?

virginiasmonalogue · 12/04/2011 16:52

I think short names on BC's are fine!! My dd is Nell and I had no intention of calling her Eleanor or Helena etc, simply cos I don't much like them. What's the point?? Why use a fuller version just for the sake of it?

MollieO · 12/04/2011 16:52

When ds started nursery and school we were asked what name we wanted him known by. He has the long form on his passport and birth certificate but I only use it when I'm telling him off!