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What is so wrong with hyphenated names?

37 replies

dmae · 21/03/2011 10:06

Just been reading a thread with some strong opinions against the use of hypens in names.

My son doesn't have a hypen in his name but we always call him by his first and middle names (Alfie Joe) as it flows so well.

What is the big deal about it?

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ValiumSingleton · 25/03/2011 20:05

I think it seems like a frill on a name. Like the equivalent of walking around your whole life with a blob of cream on your head. Just think less is more. ALSO it's a bit of a bore. There's a child in my dc's school who is Poppy-Elle (not actual names) but I always feel like it takes too long to say her name. Which isn't logical because that has no more syllables than Penelope. Fewer. SO I don't really know why, but I would just advise picking one name that your really like and using that. less is more sometimes.

legallyblond · 25/03/2011 19:36

errr "I" have a good friend, sorry! (DD giving me no sleep at gthe mo and typing suffers!)

legallyblond · 25/03/2011 19:35

Oh for goodness sakes! What's wrong with them?! If the parents like it, then go for it! Chavvy?! No more than oher names. the have a good friend who is a The hon. (so, yah, clearly not chavvy! Wink) and she's an Anna-Rose. I ADORE her name and quite fancy using it myself!!!

5DollarShake · 23/03/2011 20:51

My DD is named after her two grandmothers. First name and middle name. No hyphens.

hurricanewyn · 23/03/2011 20:48

I have a hyphenated name, that my mother insisted on using when I was a baby, but once I started to talk it was too much of a mouthful for me so the second half got dropped.

My DD is Daisy Mae, but it's not been hyphenated. She's mostly called Dais TBH

manderella14 · 23/03/2011 14:03

I personally like them and i think it gives the child the choice he might want to be called alfie-joe or just alfie or Joe. I am think of calling my daughter daisy-mae not because it 'sweet' because she will be named after her two grandmothers.

CheerfulYank · 23/03/2011 13:37

I don't know anyone named Caydense-Cheyenne, I was just using it as an example :)

Bucharest · 23/03/2011 10:28

Totally agree that it depends on the names being hyphenated and the people doing the hyphenating.

Caydense-Cheyenne may be a joke, but the Versaci-Luci I came across was real enough.

Gracie123 · 23/03/2011 10:18

Caydense-Cheyenne? Please tell me that was a joke...

CheerfulYank · 23/03/2011 05:06

:o At Madam. So true! "Mama and them call him Bubba but it's really Leroy-Joe..."

It depends on the names, I think. I know an Anna Grace, and I think that's lovely. Caydense-Cheyenne, on the other hand...not so much.

mathanxiety · 23/03/2011 04:48

Or other European too...

mathanxiety · 23/03/2011 04:48

Popular in Ireland. I knew a Marie-Therese and a Marie-Louise growing up, lots of Anne-Maries, Anna-Marias, an Anne-Claire, a Jean-Marie .. I like it if it's a French name.

PrincessScrumpy · 22/03/2011 22:06

It's quite the done thing for gypsies. IME people tend to only use the 1st bit so bit pointless.

MrsSchadenfreude · 22/03/2011 07:02

What Vouvray said. LOL at MadamDeathstare!

prettybird · 22/03/2011 00:40

In the west of Scotland, hyphenated names like "Marie-Louise" or "John-Paul" can be "evidence" Hmm that you are Catholic. Nothing wrong with that - but there are some people with ingrained prejudices :(

I was in my mid 30s before I was told about this - but then I had been brought up to be blind to all forms of religious prejudice (or even awareness) and it was only when I met me (now) dh who is a lapsed catholic that he opened by eyes to some of the less attractive elements of West of Scotland society, like "which school did you go to?" (and depending on your answer, yuo'd either not get the job or get beaten up) :(

MadamDeathstare · 22/03/2011 00:24

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Janoschi · 22/03/2011 00:18

In Germany it's very common - Sophia-Charlotta kind of thing. Really not chavvy but they can sound a bit like you're hoping to find a bit of European royalty to marry them into.

Gracie123 · 21/03/2011 19:19

I have a hyphenated name and it is annoying on web forms when they won't let you use it, but then I just don't. If the box won't recognise it with dash then I only put my first name in.
It's no biggie.

It's never been a problem to be honest, most people shorten it to initials (eg MJ for mary-Jane) although I did get called Mary-Kate a lot when those Olsen twins were particularly famous Angry

LadyCLC · 21/03/2011 19:11

Although my name is hyphenated it is not 'cute' or 'sweet' and in fact in day to day life I only use the first part of it - my full name is only used for official documents. I am quite happy with that.

DilysPrice · 21/03/2011 17:52

Not very grown up, unless you're French as noted above. Calling babies by both given names is lovely and normal, but if you hyphenate then they're stuck with it for life.

Mind you I have very prescriptive views on baby names, so you lost me at Alfie, which is not a name.

RibenaBerry · 21/03/2011 17:45

I think my objection to them is that they are often so inflexible. Alfie Joe as a pet name to call a boy is lovely, but it's quite a 'cheeky' sort of a name. When he's an adult, he might prefer to be just 'Alfie'. That's why I (like you) wouldn't hypenate it.

Girls names tend to be worse. The hypenated girls names (unless it's classic ones like Mary-Jane) tend to be very 'cute' and 'sweet'. Not every grown women wants to be 'cute' and 'sweet'. I think it's so much better to give your child some flexibility in their name, so that it can suit their adult personality. It's the same reason I would personally always name a child Jonathan, not Johnny, or whatever too.

nigglewiggle · 21/03/2011 17:15

I don't object to anyone else using them, but I find that they are exceptionally twee and they sound a bit American - "Bobby-Sue".

Maryz · 21/03/2011 17:09

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fatlazymummy · 21/03/2011 16:58

There's nothing at all wrong with them IMO. Really if that's what you like then go with it.
People can always change or drop part of their own names when they are older if they wish.

catinthehat2 · 21/03/2011 16:52

Mary, that's what 8 point font sizes are for