DSs sharing a name?

I asked a similar thing on here the other week, I love one of my DDs middle names and wished I saved it to use as a first name, but having read the replies I decided against it. Like others have said it's a bit unoriginal, first child might feel robbed, upset etc. To avoid all this I will think of another name I like just as equally...it's going to be hard though!

It depends how your son feels about his own name (I realise he's young, but some people use middle names quite prominently). If he's proud of being Samuel Xavier, then it wouldn't be right to take that from him, but if he doesn't really recognise that he's anything but 'Sam' (or Samuel, if that's what you call him), then it should be fine.
If you're okay with gimmick names, and you're unlikely to have any more children, then Xavier Samuel would be a good idea, as it shows that Samuel is no less likeable in your mind than Xavier is. It would encourage sharing between them ;)
Another idea, if you can/will have more children would be to use Xavier's middle name as DC3's fn, or variation of for a girl. It's still gimmicky, but it makes sense. [So Samuel Xavier, Xavier Andrew, Andrea Helen, for example.]

Obviously in an ideal world you would never have named him Samuel Xavier in the first place, but using it twice just shows how much you like the name. If DH and DS are okay with it, then go ahead.

In my ex-IL family, all the boys in one branch of the family (4 in total) share the same middle name to honour their grandfather

To be honest I dont think that they will even bother !! If you dont make an issue of it they wont think anything of it except maybe our "Mums a bit weird" lolz

It is weird. Give him his own name. You'll only have two sons so it seems a bit lame to have to copy one of your oldest son's name to give it your second son.

And i certainly don't feel any less loved or appreciated because of it!! rolls eyes

When I was born my mum had chosen a name and my dad had chosen one - they wanted to see me first before choosing which one suited best.

They went with my dads choice and my mum was gutted - she gave me her choice as my middle name as she said if they didn't have another child or if she had a boy, she'd never get to use it.

Then my sister was born and my mum named her my middle name. To be honest, we've never had any problems with it - It's never really come up and on the one or two occassions it has, it's easily explained.

I think you should go with xavier as the first name

I think both Xander and Xan are quite cool as an alternative to Xavier. But if your heart is set on Xavier (which IS a great name), I say go for it!! Agree with the others that say it's all a part of your family story.

I really like the idea that they would share Xavier as a middle name and DS2 goes by that. I personally don't think they'll feel less individual--they'll take cues from you in the way that you explain it.

I always think of Fabian and Xavier as having a very similar sound.

Or Xavion?

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I wouldn't do it. DS1 might feel that something is being taken away from him and DS2 might feel that he was worth the effort of thinking of an individual name for him.

My first thought was don't do it, it's bordering on comedy naming. Then I thought, oooh but Samuel Xavier and Xavier Samuel would be really cute. Then I thought no it wouldn't, it'd be comedy naming. I have settled on don't do it.

I think it's perfectly OK.

I was at school with a family of boys who were called John, Sean and Ewan.

Call your new babe Xavier Samuel. It's not like they're going to get mixed up.

Don't do it! I thought about it too but went for something else as it didn't seem right and what if you have another one after that? They may all have the same names or be left out etc. What about Xander instead?

I wouldn't do it. It seems to make DS2 second best in that he doesn't get a name just to himself but has to borrow his brother's name.

I wouldn´t.
TBH I´m surprised that you didn´t use it on your first.

And I think that your first would be upset that he didn´t get the name that you prefer but his brother did.

How about Xander?

I think it's fine as long as they don't share the same first name!

This might sound silly but I'd call ds2 Xavier Samuel then you can tell both boys that they were the two names you loved best of all so you gave both of them to the two boys you love best.....dont have a third one though :)

It could work, i wouldnt worry about the not having a back up name problem too much as lots of people have no middle name

I know lots of siblings who share middle names or first names but use their middle names day to day

I have a similar dilemma (very similar in fact!). My DS1 is named Jack Michael - Michael being my Dad's first name. Now, 14 years later, I am expecting baby number 3 and, if it is another boy, I would like to name him Michael as his first name as my Dad passed away 8 years ago and it breaks my heart that he will never meet the new baby. Also, baby is due on the anniversary of my Dad's death.

DH thinks that it's a bad idea but I still like the idea. We also have DS2 who doesn't have the name Michael anywhere :-)

I have the same issue....I like one of my DDs middle names so much I wished I had kept it for the dd2 we are expecting. I think it might be sweet that they share a name, but not sure how THEY will feel about it when they are older, so I am really trying to find a name I like just as equally.

I don't think it matters. But then again, I am half Colombian where most of my family are either called Juan, Carlos, or Maria! lol

Hmm, I disagree. I use my middle as my first, as does my mother, my aunt and at least one dear friend. All of us chose to do so off our own bat, it's not a family tradition (the aunt isn't a blood relation), but I've always thought of a middle name as sort of a backup choice for that reason; if your child doesn't like its first name it can go by its second.

Your eldest wouldn't be able to do that. Your youngest might feel he wasn't given "his own" name later.

I think it's odd, and I wouldn't do it.