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Changing how a name is spelt.

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ditzymare · 22/01/2011 22:51

There a couple of threads running at the moment that have really made me start to question my dds name.
DD is adopted. I asked folk on here what they thought of her name last year and the reaction, it is safe to say one of .

I don't want to say what her name is but it is rarely heard. I think the main problem is that the first C has been changed to a K. Making it according to MN wisdom very chavvy. We have actually got used to the name and dh and I couldn't imagine her being called anything else. We are forever having to correct people on the spelling though.

What I need to ask is would changing the spelling back to the accepted way cause any problems now. She is only 3.6 but her passport, birth certificate, bank account are all in the K spelling.

Anybody had experience of this.

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Elsa123 · 01/02/2011 22:59

I think Klarise is absolutely fine. I would stay with it. There are plenty far more unusually spelt names kicking about. The lady in the bed next to me in hospital named her daughter Sienna except she decided it would be spelt Ceenah. Which to me looks as if it sounds like See-Na. I can only assume it will be spelt CeeNah!! Clarice/Clarise is a classic name and with a K is just a variation rather like Cathleen/Kathleen.

kensworth · 01/02/2011 22:50

It's lovely be proud to be different we have a pop pie (all one word but iPad won't accept that spelling""!!!!! I kid you not) ds3 zak and ds1maxx other children have normal spellings but add that to our unusual surname and most people struggle to spell name right!!!!!!!but hey we like them......kids and names obviously!!

Beamur · 01/02/2011 22:35

I think its a lovely name and the spelling isn't chavvy - it sounds more European.

vess · 01/02/2011 22:32

If it really bothers you, then change it now, before she's old enough to notice. She is part of your family now, and the way you feel about the name is much more important than her birth mother's spelling.

TallulahdoesthehulainHawaii · 01/02/2011 20:21

I don't think you should change it. I would think everyone on here has had their child's name slated, at some point.

I would agree with deleting posts too

strawberrylion · 01/02/2011 19:41

Tia Maria

maryz · 01/02/2011 18:38

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ditzymare · 26/01/2011 11:06

Thank you everyone. Obviously the people who hated the name last time I posted have wisely not commented on this post .

We are keeping her name as it is. We already changed the middle names her birth mother gave her. As we have grown to love her, the name has grown on us to. I can't imagine her name being any differant now it really suits her.

It was only the comments on here that made me have a wobble. I shall ignore in future.

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5DollarShake · 26/01/2011 07:22

Missing the point a bit there, BibiThree - keeping the K is the only link the OP's daughter has to her birth family; surely that should override any thing else, like the adopted mother's family names.

Pippaandpolly · 25/01/2011 22:46

I know a Kris with a K not a Ch - when I first heard it I thought (snobbily) that it was really chavvy, then he told me he'd been named after his German grandmother whose name was Kristal. I think it's rather lovely now - and I feel ashamed for ever being snobby about it. Names are part of identity and family history - I think your DD comes with a K and will feel it's part of who she is :)

BuntyPenfold · 25/01/2011 09:37

Leave it as it is, it's a lovely name.

I quitelike Ronnie and Roxy too.

BibiThree · 23/01/2011 23:18

Personally, I love the name but would be tempted to change it to a C. It's a family name for me and one of dds has it as a middle name. Think it's beautiful.

auntyfash · 23/01/2011 23:16

I don't think it's khavvy at all.

NotAnotherNewNappy · 23/01/2011 23:13

Klarise is lovely, not chavvy at all. I would have expected it to be with a C but when I saw it with a K I presuemed it was a European spelling.

I think it's too late to change it now as presumably she can recognise the first letter of her name and feels as though it's part of her?

DD is Eliza and doctor's receptionists have trouble spelling and pronouncing that. You can't win really.

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ditzymare · 23/01/2011 17:23

Yes planetlice we could change it. Once the final adoption order has been granted you can make whatever choices you want. However, it is strongly discouraged by social services and quite rightly I think.

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planetalice · 23/01/2011 16:10

Stripey - very well put :)

Klarise is lovely and doctors receptionists are paid to be like that its to put us off ringing to make appointments :)

Are you actually legally allowed to change the name now?? my friend addopted and im sure it was part of the rules now that the name must remain the same?? Not sure though :)

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ditzymare · 23/01/2011 15:59

stripey thankyou. It is part of her and the only thing her birth mum was ever really able to give her. We wont change it. I don't really mind people on here commenting, after all everyone is entitled to their opinion. Very annoying in RL though. I made her a doctors appointment last week and as usual had to spell the name. The receptionist snorted "well I thought I'd heard them all but that's a new one" in a very huffy what is the world coming to kind of voice. Rude cow.

As a foster carer I do sometimes think we got away lightly with dd as we have heard some horrors.

Siblings - Chardonnay, Tia Maria, and Bailey.
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Twins - Ronnie and Roxie

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stripeybumpsmum · 23/01/2011 11:00

unusually

stripeybumpsmum · 23/01/2011 10:59

I am adopted and my name is unually spelt. It is a longer version of my bm's name. I was adopted at a time when it was a) expected you would change the name and b)not necessarily expected that the child would be told they were adopted. My parents could not agree on a name and in the end, my dad suggested I just 'look like' a Stripey. I've always known I'm adopted.

The momentary inconvenience of having to correct the spelling is more than outweighed by knowing the origins of my name and the connection with both bm and adoptive parents.

At 3.6, your DD's name and the spelling is definitely part of her identity. PLEASE don't change the spelling. Think about it, in years to come when she asks you about her name, are you going to say 'I changed it because of anonymous judgmental internet forums'?

(Stripey scuttles off realising she is both anonymous and opinionated...)

Anonymousbird · 23/01/2011 10:43

Often the use of K instead of C is fairly grim, trying too hard and all that, however, in this case, I must agree that it is very pretty, not at all chavvy.

Stick with it OP!!!

tammytoby · 23/01/2011 10:34

sorry, minded.

tammytoby · 23/01/2011 10:33

Please do not change your dd's name because of some mumsnetters' comments!

People on here can get 'judgey' and it can be quite hurtful if your childs' name gets slagged off. I've lived abroad (US and Germany) and I have not come across this degree of judgementalism about names there. Lets all become a bit more open minden .

crystalglasses · 23/01/2011 00:18

Klarise is lovely. We are becoming such a cosmopolitan nation - people from all over the world are settling here and bringing with them all sorts of strange (to our ears) names.

babybear5 · 23/01/2011 00:03

gets really confusing tho
I to hated my adopted dd name but as you said changing it didn't feel right because it was who she was and actually we so used to it now and cant see her as anything else.
We just named these two littlies with a k so it all fits together and they all k Actually i have 5 dc and 4 girls start with a k, as i do. so really confusing sometimes

eviscerateyourmemory · 22/01/2011 23:53

If you like it then dont change it because of Mumsnet. To people who know her the association of the name will be with her personality, not thinking 'Its spelt with a K how chavvy'

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