Choosing the same name as a friend's baby?

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GumtreeGirl · 03/01/2011 13:12

Just wanting to gauge opinion really.

I'm pregnant, along with 6 friends, most of whom I see a lot (my ante-natal class from the last time around). We're all due in monthly installments from about now until late May.

Obviously we're all thinking of names, but I wondered whether calling your baby the same name as friend's baby is a big no-no, or whether this is OK.

So - if you found a friend had named her baby the same as yours, would you be annoyed at 'name stealing', flattered that you both have great taste or not bothered either way?

Any thoughts? My feeling is that it shouldn't matter but I also think that some people might be miffed and I wouldn't want to ruffle feathers...

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tummytickler · 03/01/2011 15:29

Pesonally, I would never name my baby the same name as somebody I knew, and I would be gutted if one of my friends gave their child the same name as one of my dc.
I agree that if it is a top 10/20 name that you have to expect it though.

tebbles · 03/01/2011 14:39

It depends on the friendship and the name.

DancingThroughLife · 03/01/2011 14:05

Have you been sharing ideas with each other?

If you have, and you've suggested one that someone then gets in first with I'd be pissed off. Likewise if you use a name before the person who suggested it uses it.

But, if it's a top 20 name, then there'll be that many around anyway it won't make a difference.

If someone uses 'your' name, just say "That's nice, it's what we've decided to call this baby if it's a girl/boy"

If they still get miffed, well, you might not be friends in 20, 10 or even 3 years so it might not be a massive deal anyway

ditavonteesed · 03/01/2011 13:58

I would have been seriously pissed off tbh,

Nightstar · 03/01/2011 13:51

I would say its a massive NO NO!

There are millions of names out there, why use someone elses?

Unless it was yours first, or a family name, in which case i would get a little bit assertive.

ShoppingDays · 03/01/2011 13:35

I don't see any problem with it. No-one owns a name and a good friend wouldn't take offence, you can just say how similar your tastes are :)

mrsweasleyismyalterego · 03/01/2011 13:29

depends on the name if it's in the top ten even top 50 then it's to be expected and you can't really be upset

if it's ranked below 100 and it's been choosen as it's unusual or rare etc then i can understand why some might be irritated .

but in general no one owns a name and whatever name you choose people will just have to like it or lump it

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