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Wobbleing....My Father (ie: grandfather to be) is not happy with possible baby name!

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Highlandgirl · 11/12/2010 21:50

Hi all,

Long story so my apologize in advanace.

DH and I really really love a 'certain' girls name. The name isn't important.

My father however has 'gotta' wind of this name and needless to say he's not best pleased, and has been slagging me and the name off to the whole sodding family. Xmas Angry I've been told it's old fashioned and shouldn't be used as a first name. He said much worse when I spoke with him on the phone, but to be honest his rudeness isn't the problem. It's that I'm now starting to wobble over a name I've wanted since I'm been about 15.

I should also mention, the name in question is my middle name, my grandmothers middle name and my great-grandmother's first name. My father gave me this name so I don't understand the problem.

DH doesn't understand why I'm worried about what my father thinks, as 'you've never listened to your father, why start now'..Xmas Grin

I'm now concerned about using this name...! Esp if baby arrives and it look nothing like 'the name'. First time Mum here and clearly over thinking things...Xmas Shock However I don't wish to upset my father nor fall out with him as this is his first grandchild.

Any advance would be great.

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DancingThroughLife · 11/12/2010 21:59

If you want it, use it.

It's not anyone else's choice. He's named his children, now it's your turn to name yours.

Simples. [smiles]

whydobirdssuddenlyappear · 11/12/2010 21:59

She's your baby. Call her what YOU want to call her. If your father's willing to fall out with you over that, then he's being ridiculous.
You could try to talk to him calmly about it, if he'll listen. Find out why he's got such a massive objection, especially since he gave you the same name. Perhaps it brings back upsetting memories of people he's lost? In which case you could try to get him to see that you're keeping their memories alive?

ShoppingDays · 11/12/2010 21:59

If you love the name it sounds like you'd regret not choosing it?

Do you think your father would come round to the name once he associates it with his grandchild?

Could there be something else he is not telling you, some reason in family history which means the name has some negative associations for him?

MarniesMummy · 11/12/2010 21:57

You've posted this in two places because...

Nagoo · 11/12/2010 21:57

Don't discuss it at all, with anyone apart from your DP until the baby is here.

Just say that you haven't decided and are waiting until the baby arrives.

RockinRobinBird · 11/12/2010 21:56

My mother objected to the name we wanted for dd. But she had a fairly good reason and she didn't behave like that! We didn't use the name so I'm all for taking genuine thoughts on board but he sounds nightmarish and I think, given that it's your middle name etc anyway I would ignore him and go ahead with it.

But everyone else will say to hell with him Wink

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