Although DH and I are legally married, I never took his surname. This is because I have never been welcomed into his family. They have snubbed me from the beginning in spite of my doing everything I possibly can to make them like me. I didn't want to be tagged onto this family that didn't want me.
When our son was born, DH was desperate for him to have his surname, and I agreed, as I wanted to make him happy. I did think of hyphernating our surnames, but I think this is a bit naff.
Fast forward a few years... we are doing IVF and expect to be pregnant within the next few months (I have just had an unsuccessful cycle, but am feeling hopeful for the next cycle). So, it is likely that we will have at least one child to name. Probably two as we are doing IVF. Oh, and we are also doing PGD for gender selection so it/they will be girls.
So, the surname issue has cropped up again. Nothing has changed with his family, in fact it is worse. But I don't want to be the only one with my surname so I am revisiting the idea of our children (and probably me as well) having a double-barrelled surname.
I raised this with DH and after much arguing he said he is agreeable, as long as his surname goes first. The thing is, I think it sounds terrible that way around as my surname is longer. I just think it sounds better with the longer name first.
So we have reached a stalemate situation.
What does everyone else think? I know there are bigger problems in the world, but, well, this is a baby name forum so I am hoping to get some advice.
Thanks in advance!