At 7am today when my husband has pretty muuch ignored me (sexually) for the last 3 weeks and then wakes up with a hard on and I just happen to be beside him.
This is an ongoing issue for us. He complains that I never initiate sex, yet NEVER comes to bed with me, preferring to stay up till 1am watching sport or whatever happens to be on the tv. I have told him time and time again over the years that if he were in bed at the same time as me from time to time, then I would find it easier to get in the mood.
I am not against quickies per se, but he was away on a lads holiday for 4 nights, came home from that, I suggested we go out to dinner, (and usually as a date night that would mean sex) but he said he wanted to watch the footie when we got home. So I let it go. Then all last week I worked night and day helping him with a business issue, he was really grateful, but still never went near me, and then finally, he wakes up with a hard on, and oh look, I just rememebered I have a wife!!
And to all those who say why dont I just jump him or tell him what I want, well the thing is, I dont want sex anyway when I am being taken for granted like this, and he knows damn well becuase I have told him a zillion times that I need some intimacy, verbal connection whatever you want to call it before I can get turned on. So, at the end of a long day at home with kids, and having finally hung up the marigolds, I am not gonna suddenly feel like jumping on my husband, but if he came up to bed at the same time and maybe gave me a hug or some bloody sign of affection then I am sure I would get in the mood pretty quick.
So I am fed up. And would welcome any views, flaming, whatever...