To not want my kids grandparents to sleep naked with him.

as i work for the nhs and have to reguarly battle with work alongside social services i would not bother calling them to ask their opinion on what my children should or should not do...

i feel that as a responsible adult, i can make my own decisions about what is and is not appropriate for my children to do

I wouldnt have a problem with it.
Truthfully before reading this thread it never even occured to me that it would be a problem. In the past ive heard DS pouncing on my sister and BIL early in the morning, I have no idea if they sleep naked or not.

Often if I go round to my parents house and my mum is in the bath I will suggest to DS that she wants company Gives me 20 minutes to put my feet up an enjoy a cup of tea! Infact I sometimes go in there myself to talk to her whilst she's soaking away!

Nah, wouldn't bother me at all. Except that my parents are separated, so it would be very strange if it happened. But I remember being in bed with my parents and seeing them naked (and laughing at dad's dingaling willy) so it wouldn't bother me if they were in bed naked with dd as it's pretty much the same thing. Although it won't happen. And cloth is cuddlier than skin.

It has never entered my mind to wonder what my parents or PILs wear in bed in their own homes!

OP, I would suggest either;
1)Don't let your children stay over.
2)Tell your children not to go into GPs bed. (If your child was uncomfortable though,they'd probably not be getting into bed with them anyway.)
3)Buy them some lovely PJs for christmas from DC. Make it clear DC will be desperately sad if they don't wear them, as they picked them themselves.

What you shouldn't do is tell adults who are doing you a favour how to dress, IMHO.

all grandparents have grey pubes tis standard old pube default colour.. they also wear plaid PJs or frilly night dresses to bed ...wtf is wrong with these GPs dont they know their old wrinkly parts must be covered?

Kill Them! ...that would solve the problem

Tbh...I would not bring up this particular conversation myself...but depending how old your child is you could tell them not to climb into their grandparents bed in the morning...hows that for a non murderous solution?

I don't think "gross as hell"

but I am not thinking along abuse lines either

just wrong, somehow

I know my own father isn't a peadophile

I trust my DH's opinion that his father (or mother, come to that) isn't either

but we both agree to feeling uncomfortable with our kids sleeping with their naked gp's

I wouldn't judge someone who didn't have a problem with it, however

it's down to personal feelings, innit

I don't think abuse has anything to do with it. It's just gross as hell.

Not to mention if it were DHs sisters - in bed with the husbands ie not even related?

I think that is definitely different.

Funny isn't it.

Well that's interesting.

As I would be extremely and no way if my brother wanted to share a bed naked with my children. That really would be wildly inappropriate. I think I would feel the same way if I had a sister or about DHs siblings.

But GPs are our parents, they have had children ie us, fed and clothed us, changed our nappies, bathed us and raised us. We know what they are like with little children because we were those little children.

I think that makes sense! It does to me anyway.

and, certainly one set of my dc's gp's don't have a close relationship with them

so maybe that is colouring my view...whole different thread there, however

maybe I just don't class gp's as immediate family

to me, that means parents and siblings

wow this is interesting

it wouldn't bother me in the slightest

I would imagine that the grandparents would cover up if my own children were noticably fascinated but otherwise I wouldn't care

As long as no one was expecting ME to join them

AF, sorry i didn't make it clear i was on about immediate family which Grandparents are.

I didn't mean extended family, friends etc

I think I agree, AF. I also think you can tell a child (without getting shouty) not to twang, ping or poke you if you don't want to be twanged, pinged or poked, and to stay put in his own bedroom in someone else's house. Children are capable of learning what's acceptable and what's not, even in different houses, from a young age.

ladyeven...my feelings are that sharing a bed with anyone other than siblings and parents when you are a child seems wrong

you mentioned your own child seeing you naked...so not a problem

my issue is not with grandparents as such (although this thread has shown some pretty rotten ageism, wtf is that all about? ...) but with relatives/friends that are not your own parents

would those who think it ok extend the same feeling to aunts, uncles, godparents, friends of the family etc etc...?

Its not about the risk of sexual abuse to me (because surely you should have a pretty good idea if your own father, eg, was a peadophile)

just, I dunno...too intimate to share a bed, bollocko, with someone who is not an immediate relative

TheLadyEvenstar, im at a loss too, i find many views posted on here quite sad really

Can someone please tell me,simply because I am at a loss as to what, the issue is with nakedness and children seeing it???

DS1 is 11 and would still jump in the shower with me if he wanted nowt sinister in that but some would find it odd....