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to try and railroad my husband into having a baby no 3?

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malvern · 13/05/2009 10:25

Tonight's the night we've scheduled a 'sit-down' to try and come to a solution about having a third child.

The background to me wanting a third child is undeniably that I would like to try for a girl. I would love a daughter.

However, the reality of wanting a third child is my desire to move on with our lives. My need to have a 3rd baby won?t go away. 5-10 years down the line I'm still going to be thinking about having a 3rd baby (I'll be too old by then) I spend most my waking hours now thinking about a 3rd baby.

Whatever the sex of baby no 3, my honest feeling would be of utter joy that my life was complete and that our lives would move on as a family. (I would never contemplate more than 3).

My husband doesn't want any more children. He rightfully thinks we are lucky with our lot and thinks two is a manageable number.

I was poised to tonight try and talk/railroad him into having a No.3 But this morning I'm wondering whether I'm right to fight for this or am I being too selfish to try and push him into something this important. Has anyone been through this? What was the outcome?

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Castiel · 13/05/2009 10:30

The thing is as desperately as you yearn for baby number 3, he doesn't want it. And you know a baby shouldn't be something you 'railroad' somebody into having.

Why doesn't he want more? Is there a reason? Or several?

Other way round here. I don't want anymore, dh desperately does.