to be jealous that my best friend has just had a.........

YANBU

I consider myself very lucky as had 2 boys and then 2 girls. When pregnant with third I got fed up with the number of people who said "OOh you must want a girl". Well, I did want a girl, but obviously would have been pleased whatever the outcome.

If no.3 had been a boy I don't think I'd have had a 4th as I would have really wanted a girl. As for the pink thing - I am not girly, but dd1 has been turned pink and girly by pre-school friends and now schoolfriends. I suppose we wanted a girl so we could experience boys and girls iyswim - not to do the pink, frilly, girly thing (yuk). Dd2 is not girly and ds2 is not your "traditional" boy!

I feel pangs of jealousy too! I am very girly and would love a daughter.
have two ds's and though i adore them i cant help wondering what a girl would be like.

Anyway, i am now ttc number three and im planning my dates so i (hopefully) get the daughter i want. If it doesnt work, at least ive tried and i will accept my fate!

I have three girls
not sure if we are having anymore

electra....what a mean thing to say

To the OP - YANBU

I always wanted boys but had 2 girls. When the second was born I was asked if I was disappointed - of course i wasn't! I would have liked a boy but I was still delighted with my healthy baby girl. My third was a boy and I was thrilled to bits. Then I had another girl so he's quite outnumbered! He loves it though

Well I have two girls and am expecting another girl and my mum said that I may as well give it away because why on earth would I want another girl......

I don't think you can win. I have got to thinking I'm not destined to raise a son

I think Leo9 has pretty much hit the nail on the head!!
I have two girls, both of whom are really into tractors, diggers and trains! My eldest has started enjoying pink and dolls, but I don't define any of this as girl or boy behaviour, just childhood traits.

I'd love another baby, and yes, I would like a boy but only because I'd like to see if there are innate differences or it is nurture! My sil is pregnant with her first and we're pretty sure it's a boy, so that'll be interesting - my good friend is also having a son! I fear I will be broody!!

As for weddings - my mum is giving me away and my partners mum is going to be his "best man" because both women have been incredibly important in our upbringing! I think it's important that changes take place, and they are beginning to !

Leo9, this mother of the bride thing gets to me too....

I went to a wedding a little while ago where the groom has two brothers, no sisters. So a three-boy family.

The mother of the groom very proudly stood up and made a great speech about how proud she is of her three boys.

Good on her I thought!

YANBU. I have two lovely DSs, but would love a girl. I feel a pang of envy (or maybe even jealousy ) when I hear that someone's just had a girl, especially if they already have a boy! (It's not so bad for them to have another girl if they already have one...)

YANBU - lots of people feel this way. I personally feel that my children are a real blessing and the fact that they are here and healthy is all that matters to me but if DH hadn't wanted a DD so badly then I would still have 2 DCs and not the 3 that I really wanted.

I do agree with everything Leo said too but unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world. My DS2 is a little 'unmanly' in some of his behavior perhaps, loves pink and is very theatrical (always has been), but it is part of who he is and I love him for it. He is only 6 and may grow out of it, or he may not - it doesn't really matter to me as long as he is happy. Who knows, my DD may be a total tomboy like I was and that will also be fine with me!

Hi Macdoodle , how are you? (Hi BT too )

swap you 2 boys for one girl macdoodle? But only if you take the sleepless teething one currently on my lap!

I ahve 2 girls and an exH am desperate for another and would secrety love a boy

Oh goodness, this issue hit me hard today. I have 4 boys and attended a birthday party for my SIL's dd. Well, everything was pink and her dd looked so cute and not only that, her friends who were there kept commenting on how happy SIL was to have a dd to dress up in cute clothes ( She had a boy first)
Most of the time I don't feel it so badly but occasions like this don't help!
Btw I am very fond of SIL and both her children and don't hold it against her in the slightest, but would like those things for myself too IYKWIM

i think we should all approach life in a somewhat less traditionalist and hidebound way without all these gender expectations - I mean if people treated children as children who look beautiful in bright colours and bobbles and whatever then the manufacturers would make lovely children's clothes instead of lovely pretty girls clothes and shit colour/mini soldiers stuff for boys. If we didn't all follow like lemmings "Oh when I get married I shall do this or that and my dad will make a speech but the groom's dad won't because it's not the done thing" etc etc etc...then people wouldn't just want to be the 'mother of the bride' but just the mother of their child getting married.

If everyone out there put away their assumptions of boys and remained open minded and un-threatened by any 'un-manly' behaviour then maybe we wouldn't be so fixated on the benefits of having a daughter because the differences may not be so great.
It makes me angry and despairing actually this issue, that a daughter is seen as so much more desirable.

Of course I know most of the time boys will be boys etc etc and there ARE in-built differences but what we seem to do as a society is make these differences SO great that one sex only can fill some need in mothers.

YANBU
i have 4 girls and my sil has 4 boys, she really wanted a girl but after 4 boys said enough was enough.

I on the other hand would be if i ever have a boy as im so used to girly things and although i have a brother, he was very efeminate growing up so not very boy like! The only boys i have had close contact with have been the ones my parents have fostered in the last few years and as can be imagined they had a lot of problems, so make boys seem very hard work!

YANBU

I have 2 DS's also, that I adore.

However I would love to have a girl, but DH won't agree to a 3rd.

Can't beleive im never going to have a daughter

I desperately wanted a boy first time round (I thought life would be easier for a boy) and had dd; I wouldn't change her for the world, despite her being a drama queen

I feel privileged to have ds now also; they are so different but I love them both dearly and I espceialaly relish them playing so well togethr.

however, dd dresses and looks like a boy at the moment (modelled on George in Famous Five) so probably a good job I am not worried about pretty dresses etc!

When preg with baby number 2, we had a sexing scan and the sonographer had to write on paper what the sex was so I could open it in private- I was so convinced that if it said BOY I would cry. I know that sounds awful, but I didn't want a boy. I have nephews, and I know I would love a boy just as my sisters love their children, but I just felt this 'need' for another girl.

I got my second girl and I know I will feel exactly the same when we try for a third baby (if dh ever agrees on a convenient time!)

So, YANBU, but I know some people will find my opinion to be incredibly selfish- we should all be happy for what we have. All children are a blessing.

I am a jealous person anyway, and I feel extrememly envious of friends that have 3 children because I feel my family isn't complete yet. But I also feel jealous of friends with lovely houses, nice cars, flash holidays etc... I'm such an ungrateful cow

Well i had my daughters very close together cos we thought we would just have the 2, but then we got broody for one more and my son came along.

I can truly say that i didnt care at all what i had and didnt find out the sex of any of my babies (much to some peoples annoyance) .

I would hate to really want a boy or girl and be devestated that i didnt get what i wanted. I have a friend who has 3 boys and darent try again in case she has another boy and she is just dying for a chance to be pink and girly.

ahem exercise????

ahem exercise????

becky00. I am not sure if you can post links to other baby websites here (am a bit new).
If you google baby centre pink or blue, that should help. or in-gender.
We did lots to sway and were very lucky. I will never know if the cut off and the regular ahem exercise that dh did before sex helped, but I decided that at least I had tried.
The differences in the sexes is amazing, both brought up the same but totally different. My boys moan if we go shopping but Lara cries when we come home "more shopping mummy now!"

I also secretly hoped for a girl for the simple reason that you can get much nicer clothes for them (how shallow am I??). We got a wee boy though and I'm not in the least bit disappointed.

From my experience coming from a large family... Boys defo love their mummies more when they are younger and are much less hormonal and moody as teenagers. I gave my parents a nightmare right through my teens even though I was nowhere near as bad as a lot of girls I knew.