to be jealous that my best friend has just had a.........

Squirdle That does put it all in perspective, doesn't it?

Thank you Ria. Even though he isn't with me, he is still very much my son and as special as the other 3.

And yes, we have soooo much love from our boys...something I have heard doesn't happen quite so much from mums of girls.

DS3 loves me this much and DS2 loves me past the Death Star and back again

DS1 is 15, so he just loves me

of love!

Squirdle i am so sorry about ds1 x

And Ria, my house is much the same as yours. I don't have thugs, I have sweet and gorgeous, loving, fabulous boys.

It actually upsets me when people have a preference. My first little boy was stillborn and since him I have had 3 more boys. I have never, ever felt disappointed that they weren't girls, just elated that they were healthy. So yes I'm afraid YABU imo.

i have 5 boys and our house is very calm and gentle

there is one beast but she is very sweet on the whole!

Thanks ria, I dont feel sad as such, I love my boys sooo much, just wonder what it would be like really, as I was utterly convonced ds2 was a girl.

poor ds4 with teething, bas not at all well either

yanbu

with 3 boys I knew if my sister had been given a girl i'd ave mixed feelings (but wouldkeep tomyself)

she got a boy, and two boyslater ( 1each) i'm over it, strangely.

Thanks, Ria! Have added that thread to my Watch list.

I know you're right but I joke.... honestly it is a joke when constantly bombarded with swords, cars, guns (and I hasten to add not bought by me or my DH) made from drills and other such boy stuff... avoiding games of boxing, being a knight and wrestling, getting whooped at mario Kart..... that I ordered girls.... I would not swop my gorgeous boys for ANYTHING, but I soooo hate rough play always have and for love nor money I have no idea where they have learnt it? I try to embrace it and even my gorgeous DS1 age 3.5 says you like soft high fives and gentle play don't you mummy!

clothes for boys

chipmonkey its a full time job!!

there is a good thread in my 'watched' will link to it!

Ria, where do you get your boys' clothes? There is feck-all BUT blue and khaki around here!

betty my ds was an angel in the nativity

his hair was so long that i sat through the entire first half of the performance NOT recognising my own child
sounds far fetched but true! Ever since that performance people have told me what a beautiful angel he made! i digress!

although i have pined for more girls - i have learned that i have something much better...

little boys that i can enjoy just as much - i ask them if they want to do dance (i am sure ONE will!) i style their hair i just ENJOY them as people...

dont feel sad please dont - embrace what you have and you may surprise yourself

After years of thinking I could have none with endless investigations and not even daring to consider sex of baby... How ridiculous that years on now with 2 DS's I could even think about how wonderful it would be to have a dd!Felt so much better reading this thread! Even spoke to DH this week about how he'd feel about adopting a girl! Have both agreed that we don't want 3 children but would love a daughter and I know that that doesn't make full sense but would never "try" for a girl it would have to be "trying" for a third child and that is not what we want.Anyway NEVER going to happen as had to convince DH to even try for a second and know how lucky I am to have 2 gorgeous DS! The phrase that sticks in my mind is "Your son's your son til he finds a wife, your daughter remains your daughter for life!"

I wanted a boy first time round, and thats exactly what I had, couldnt see at the sexing scan, little bugger kept waving his bum at the 'camera' (dunno what its called ).So we kind of guessed it was a boy, just bring bloody awkward
I was thrilled.
Second time, my pregnancy was completely different, and I was so convinced I was carrying a girl, that I named her and bought an outfit, fantasised about taking her to ballet class and seeing her as the angel in the school nativity, etc.
The scan revealed a boy, and I was devastated.
I felt like I was actually grieving for the loss of my little girl (if that makes sense)
I felt so bloody shallow, but it still took a little while to come to terms with it.

I wouldnt change him for the world, of course, but we decided that we were stopping at two, and DH had the snip (mutual decision) so I know, theres no chance, even by accident that I'll have a pink one .

leo I have 5 boys

I have brought the last three up much more as 'children' as you describe

they have gorgeous hair, great clothes and fab toys

i have always operated a non guns etc toy home but have learned how to buy stuff for them that brings them up as 'children' rather than boys

i dont 'do' blue and i dont 'do' khaki!

well thank you Ria!

I have a single child (a boy!) and I guess have done a bit of thinking on this issue as so many people have clearly been surprised that I'm happy with a boy and don't want to try again for a girl. It started me thinking on why it would be seen as so important to have one or the other gender.

Leo9 wow who are you?

whata fabulous post and how i agree!

Yes, YABU. Who ever said you get to choose? And all you people who said 'I don't love my boys any less but my little girl is special and I feel complete'. Care to show that quote to your sons (especially the ones who were second or third) in a few years time? See if they feel equally loved? You are treating them like the consolation prize on a tombola stall. Get a grip and be thankful fot the gift of happy healthy children. Sorry.

LOL you are quite right, but she is the image of her dad

Carbonel: "She's far too pretty to be a boy"
Who's being sexist now?

I think this whole sexist 'girls are into pink and frilly' stuff on here is disgraceful. Dd has alwys been a tomboy and getting unisex clothes has been impossible because they are either pink (girls) or khaki (boys)!

The number of times she is called 'he' becasue she chooses boys clothes (generally pretty fab ones from Gymboree which dh gets on his US trips) is ridiculous she is far too pretty to be a boy

But I am surprised how many parents on this thread have perpetuated that sterotype by talking about 'wanting to do the pink / frilly / girlie thing' - clothes / decor / bedding etc manufacturers are never going to change if parents carry on like this ....

YANBU at all.
My DH has two DDs from a previous marriage, who he loves to pieces, but he's desperate for a son and I would love to have a son for him (that sounds more subservient than it's meant to).
Anyway when I was pg we found out that we were having a girl, and although I was kind of sad that it was not the son he wanted I was thrilled to bits at the thought of having a little girl. DD is beautiful and she will just have to learn to ride a bike and fish and go beating like her daddy does. And who knows, maybe next time...