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Poking holes in condoms!

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condomgate · 20/10/2026 11:43

Just to make it absolutely clear, this isn’t about DH and I.

My friend is 3 months pregnant, her husband is in shock because they were using condoms every time and not one split.

She’s just admitted to me that she used a pin to poke holes in them. Now call me naive but one, I thought that a tiny pin hole would not be able to get somebody pregnant and also I think this is a crime? I’m disgusted with her and I did tell her that.

Regular poster, name changed.

DH and I are good friends with her and her DH and I just don’t feel okay about this. I feel like she’s done something so wrong that I want to avoid them for as long as possible.

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OonaStubbs · 20/10/2026 11:49

It is disgusting to deliberately sabotage contraception to force a man to unwillingly father a child. That is a life she is bringing into the world. It reflects badly on all women and reinforces negative stereotypes.

TheOnlyLivingBoyInNewCross · 20/10/2026 11:49

AgeingMillennial · 20/10/2026 11:44

Meh.

Do they have kids? What’s the situation?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar

Unbelievable.

I’m assuming your reply would be exactly the same if the sexes were reversed and a man had engineered his wife’s pregnancy in this way but - just for avoidance of any doubt - in both cases it’s a horrible violation of the other person.

I’m with you, OP; I’d struggle to spend any time with them knowing what she’s done.

AgeingMillennial · 20/10/2026 11:49

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/10/2026 11:48

Meh

Bloody hell. Really? What if he whipped the condom off at the last minute and she didn’t notice and got pregnant against her wishes? Or doesn’t that matter because ‘it’s not the same’?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar

Thats just a guess at this point.

Men don’t get pregnant, it’s not the same.

And that’s why I asked the context.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 20/10/2026 11:48

Meh

Bloody hell. Really? What if he whipped the condom off at the last minute and she didn’t notice and got pregnant against her wishes? Or doesn’t that matter because ‘it’s not the same’?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar

Thats just a guess at this point.

Naurrr · 20/10/2026 11:47

OriginalSkang · 20/10/2026 11:46

Surely they would be much more likely to split if they had holes poked in. And unless it was a huge great hole, very unlikely to get pregnant.

What size do you think sperms are? Confused

PinkAnimalPrint · 20/10/2026 11:47

If this is real, I can’t see why he is in shock given condoms are the least effective form of contraception bar crossing your fingers.

VinegarBinegar · 20/10/2026 11:47

What’s the context here? They’ve got five kids already and she doesn’t want to get a job, or he’s been stringing her along for a decade saying it’s not the right time?

On the face of it she’s in the wrong… But the context matters.

OriginalSkang · 20/10/2026 11:46

Surely they would be much more likely to split if they had holes poked in. And unless it was a huge great hole, very unlikely to get pregnant.

AgeingMillennial · 20/10/2026 11:44

Meh.

Do they have kids? What’s the situation?

Don’t blame her if he’s strung her along for years or similar