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To be really miserable about my body?

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silentreflux · Today 15:50

I am a short, pear shaped woman (30s). I try really hard at to work out and eat healthy enough and have a BMI of around 27 (so a little overweight). However, ALL of my weight seems to go on my stomach and face. My shoulders are skinny, and my legs and small and muscly. But my stomach is disproportionately huge and flabby and its really getting me down. I know everyone carries weight differently but I feel like such an outlier!

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BlueOinkYello · Today 17:12

silentreflux · Today 16:20

Thanks all, I think I need to be in more of a calorie deficit. I do look better when I'm around a stone lighter but I want to maintain my muscle and not feel fatigued when working out so its a challenge. I'll look at how to up my protein and lower my calories and see if that helps!

How old are you? Im 45 and suddenly realised exercising wasnt doing it anymore. My bmi has gone up to overweight for the first time in my life and i realised i need to count calories to get back to normal weight. I feel happiest at around bmi 22-23. Doing around 1600 calories a day until i get the weight in control. You wont starve. Just enough protein and fulfilling meals.

Charlenedickens · Today 17:14

boxofshite · Today 17:08

The vast majority of us aren’t going to have the body of a 20 yr old supermodel even with surgery though.

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I don’t think she said that’s what she wishes.

boxofshite · Today 17:14

hotmumshit · Today 17:10

Most people won't but you'll have the body closer to you want

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Disagree but it depends on what you want I guess

boxofshite · Today 17:15

@CharlenedickensI replied to another poster not the OP?

MeridaBrave · Today 17:24

MyFavouriteGame · Today 16:00

I was going to ask this. Are you lifting heavy? Until your muscles can’t lift or push/pull any more? My shape has definitely changed since I’ve consistently started going to the gym. Sounds like you exercise a lot though!

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Yes - I used to go to the gym 3-4 but I didn’t push myself to failure in the way I do now. My body is totally different… I store fat in thighs and bum so now I have a 6 pack. At 52!

Charlenedickens · Today 17:26

boxofshite · Today 17:14

Disagree but it depends on what you want I guess

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Huh?

boxofshite · Today 17:28

@Charlenedickenswhat are you confused by?!

Getalittle · Today 17:28

Weightloss1234 · Today 16:46

Wtf kind of comment is this!? It doesn’t matter what you or anyone “bet” if she doesn’t think or feel the same!
and yeah I love my body entirely right now. I have just lost 2stone and I’m bloody thrilled!

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Jeezo, why the anger at this poster? They were just encouraging the OP to have some self acceptance

Passaggressfedup · Today 17:36

I am small and pear shape too and my BMI was 26. I didn't look fat and was a size 10 but I knew I was fat and my body fat percentage confirmed at 33. My cholesterol was also high. I've lost a stone and my body is now perfectly proportioned. My body fat is 23 and I have a flat stomach. My legs and arms look very slim but that's because I'm shall bones.

My friend who us a GP said to me that you don't really store fat in just one or two areas of your body. It is distributed overall but if you are small bones, your legs and arms will appear normal.

I'd recommend you get your body fat mass tested, that will give a better indication than your BMI.

MyFavouriteGame · Today 17:41

MeridaBrave · Today 17:24

Yes - I used to go to the gym 3-4 but I didn’t push myself to failure in the way I do now. My body is totally different… I store fat in thighs and bum so now I have a 6 pack. At 52!

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Exactly! You need to do reps until you can’t physically do any more because your muscles are tired. And take creatine.

How did you get a six pack? That’s impressive! I want one but have a mum tum still although it’s better than it was.

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