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Sponsorship request from new boss

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halfpastten · Today 12:51

Boss has set up an informal group chat for people reporting to her. Shares food and 'silly' pics. There are lots of love and laughter emojis. Occasionally important work info, so I can't leave the chat. I am pretty shocked by the request to sponsor her. I expect all my colleagues will and share 'love' and supportive comments. We all earn much less than the boss. I intend to ignore it.

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Gatekeeper · Today 13:03

What is she asking you to sponsor ?

Arlanymor · Today 13:05

What is the request?

Original poster
halfpastten · Today 13:06

A charity challenge

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Worktillate · Today 13:08

Does the fact that your boss earns more than you change the fact that they're doing something for charity? Putting themselves out for a cause? If you don't want to, don't contribute but I really don't see an issue

Arlanymor · Today 13:09

Well that could be anything from sitting a tub of baked beans for two hours for Children in Need or to a two-week trek to the Himalayas (I really, really dislike the latter - I have a friend doing something similar at the moment).

Either way you are well within your rights to wish her well and let her know that you already donate to your preferred charities outside of work.

40notouttoday · Today 13:26

My bosses bosses boss just did a charity swim. He earns 3x what I do...still chucked him a fiver, it's not for him, it's for a good cause, at least I hope it's not for him 😂

Edit to add: just don't donate if you don't want to?

OhBumBags · Today 13:29

I don't sponsor anyone at work, but I don't mind being asked and I'm certainly not 'shocked' by it.

If you're the sort of person who does things for charity that requires sponsorship, it makes sense to ask around at work as well as family/friends etc.

HettyTagliatelli · Today 13:32

I don’t think it’s ok for a boss to do this to
people
that work for them, especially on a work group
chat. I would say something supportive and wish them
luck but not actually sponsor unless you particularly want to donate to their chosen charity.

YksiKaksiKolme · Today 13:36

I would just ignore it

WearingBeautifulShoes · Today 13:38

YksiKaksiKolme · Today 13:36

I would just ignore it

Me too. Usually there's an option for people to sponsor anonymously so she'll have no way of knowing whether you were one of the anonymous ones. As an aside the general tone of the group sounds horrendous. 😆

TwinklyAmberSloth · Today 15:00

YABU to be petty regarding your boss's salary. A boss gets paid more due to more responsibility. The salary is irrelevant here.

If it's a charity that is a worthwhile cause and the thing your boss is doing to raise money is going to be a challenge, then sponsor them.

Otherwise don't.

Freshrain · Today 15:50

OhBumBags · Today 13:29

I don't sponsor anyone at work, but I don't mind being asked and I'm certainly not 'shocked' by it.

If you're the sort of person who does things for charity that requires sponsorship, it makes sense to ask around at work as well as family/friends etc.

This.

I have various standing orders and don't often sponsor people to do things, but I don't mind them asking.
Every now and then I do decide to for a variety of reasons. I wouldn't have if people didn't make it known they were doing the event. That's kind of how these things work.

MyFavouriteGame · Today 15:53

Don’t sponsor them, it’s not that deep. 🤷🏻‍♀️

TheCabbageMerchant · Today 15:55

You find that “shocking” 🤔🤣

Evaka · Today 15:58

That's a big reaction. Also you can of course leave the chat- just tell her you don't use WhatsApp for work stuff and to message you on teams or email or whatever your normal channels are.

OhBumBags · Today 15:58

TwinklyAmberSloth · Today 15:00

YABU to be petty regarding your boss's salary. A boss gets paid more due to more responsibility. The salary is irrelevant here.

If it's a charity that is a worthwhile cause and the thing your boss is doing to raise money is going to be a challenge, then sponsor them.

Otherwise don't.

Yeah I don't see what salary has to do with it either.

I earn less than my boss but I'd be insulted if she automatically acted like I was too poor to put a fiver into a collection, or didn't invite me to the pub because I'm the lowest earning of all my colleagues.

I don't sponsor anyone but it has nothing to do with not being able to afford it.

ScaramoucheCanYouDoTheFandango · Today 16:26

Arlanymor · Today 13:09

Well that could be anything from sitting a tub of baked beans for two hours for Children in Need or to a two-week trek to the Himalayas (I really, really dislike the latter - I have a friend doing something similar at the moment).

Either way you are well within your rights to wish her well and let her know that you already donate to your preferred charities outside of work.

Edited

Agree with the sponsored experiences, I’ve been asked to sponsor a few - people walking the Great Wall of china or their kids building mud huts in Africa. For both a significant portion of the sponsorship was subsidising their travel/accommodation costs. Both got a flat no.

Sitting in a tub of cold baked beans I might be open to sponsoring 🤣

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