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Noisy hotel sex. Why?

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Tiredthismorning · Today 12:50

Why do people have such noisy sex in hotels? I have just got home from a wedding yesterday, after which I stayed in a hotel. The couple in the next room had vocal sex at 2am and again at 8am. Proper shrieks and moans and grunts and words that I could hear through the wall from both of them, for a good half an hour both times.

Have your fun by all means. But why make so much noise?? I know hotel rooms are private but hotels aren't, especially not in the middle of the night.

AIBU to think it's no less selfish (and quite a bit more unreasonable) than keeping other guests up with music or any other noise. It's not the first time I've been kept awake like this.

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ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 19:54

Skeeterinamber · Today 18:54

You can enjoy sex without wailing like a Banshee so the poor bastards in the room next door have to hear it. It’s performative.

But noisy sex doesn't always mean wailing like a Banshee. I mean, occasionally, when sex is amazing and I've totally let go, I get noisy, but I've never wailed like a banshee or been performative. I've been lost in the moment, an amazing moment and been uncontrollably noisy.

There absolutely can be a difference between someone being performatively loud, and just naturally in the moment loud.

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 19:49

Scandelabra · Today 19:03

Sorry, I thought you were a man because of the comments telling women they need to find someone to give them ‘uncontrollable and involuntary noisy orgasms’ and suggesting that women don’t ‘enjoy sex’ if they don’t want to hear it loudly in a hotel. It was just that familiar tone. Woman, then. 🤷‍♀️

Thanks for the apology, however, you've twisted what I actually said somewhat!

Scandelabra · Today 19:46

Just a recommendation for women on this thread based on prior bad experiences, best to keep your PMs turned off.

AleaEim · Today 19:41

Sex is way better when you can let go and be noisy, I find it hard to cum when I need to be quiet personally, everyone’s different.

DebbieSavage · Today 19:39

MrsPapillon · Today 19:11

If you’re not a Turkish man I’ll eat my fez.

How dare you, I am just a clanger that lives on the moon.

Noisy hotel sex. Why?
DebbieSavage · Today 19:38

DebbieSavage · Today 19:08

If there is a man in this thread I would very much like to know. I do not consent to a man contributing on this delicate matter.

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Noisy hotel sex. Why?
MrsDoylesLastTeabag · Today 19:33

SusieSussex · Today 14:26

Knowing that kids stay in hotels and will be able to hear it and still enjoying being noisy is very weird.

I personally hate other people making any kind of noise that disturbs my peace in any context, but the focus on sex and children in this thread is a red herring.

People getting it on are REALLY not thinking about your children (unless they have a rare paraphilia). Your children, of whose existence they have no knowledge, are simply not the focus of other people's every action. Shocking, right?!

wishfulthinking25 · Today 19:17

BIossomtoes · Today 18:55

You can. Lots of other people can’t.

@SkeeterinamberI’m not sure why but as soon as I read your comment all I could picture was Maeve from mobland saying it! Iconic😂

MrsPapillon · Today 19:11

DebbieSavage · Today 19:08

If there is a man in this thread I would very much like to know. I do not consent to a man contributing on this delicate matter.

If you’re not a Turkish man I’ll eat my fez.

Krabappel · Today 19:10

BIossomtoes · Today 18:55

You can. Lots of other people can’t.

If you (or anyone) literally can’t, then what do you do when your children are at home?

Men seem to manage not to do it as well, so I’m another one who doesn’t believe this.

DebbieSavage · Today 19:08

If there is a man in this thread I would very much like to know. I do not consent to a man contributing on this delicate matter.

Doozycan · Today 19:07

Scandelabra · Today 17:45

Creepy.

Obviously looking for any reason to not let others make remarks. More interested in checking posts which align with your thinking ?

QuizzlyBears · Today 19:07

TheLastSilverSaint · Today 14:40

Unless you’re staying in a Disney hotel or something, you absolutely do not know that kids can hear you.

Nobody - literally nobody - who shags in a hotel is thinking “Ooh, I hope children can hear” and or “I think there might be kids on this corridor, let’s make it louder”.

The fact that you imagine that’s their motive says a lot more about your imagination than that of the average hotel shagger, quite frankly.

When I stay in a hotel I have no idea whatsoever whether there are kids staying near me. I have zero interest in other people’s kids. The vast majority of places I stay aren’t ‘family’ type hotels and when I do see kids in hotels I’ve no idea what room they’re in or whether they’re awake when I’m having a shag at 1am. It literally wouldn’t even occur to me that kids might hear me. So no, I’m not going to to remain chastely silent and still just in case someone might have a kid in their room, because other people’s kids aren’t my problem and adults are allowed to live like adults without having to conduct themselves in child-appropriate ways at all times, including their own bloody hotel rooms.

Adults are allowed to drink, swear, fuck and stay up late and they do not have to stop doing those things in adult-orientated environments like hotels with no ‘family’ rooms, pubs and grown-up restaurants just in case another adult might have brought a child with them.

I was going to reply to this thread but you have said everything I would have done! All of this.

Scandelabra · Today 19:04

Doozycan · Today 19:03

Is this your critique Looking for suggestive remarks ?

Your sentence isn’t clear, but your intent is, as on the rest of your posts.

Doozycan · Today 19:03

Scandelabra · Today 18:21

Still making sexual suggestions to women online?

Is this your critique Looking for suggestive remarks ?

Scandelabra · Today 19:03

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 18:52

For fuck sake, why do you think I'm a man??

I've been on MN for years and from my hundreds of comments, it's very clear I'm a woman.

God forbid it be possible that a WOMAN can enjoy sex 🙄

Sorry, I thought you were a man because of the comments telling women they need to find someone to give them ‘uncontrollable and involuntary noisy orgasms’ and suggesting that women don’t ‘enjoy sex’ if they don’t want to hear it loudly in a hotel. It was just that familiar tone. Woman, then. 🤷‍♀️

Skeeterinamber · Today 19:00

BIossomtoes · Today 18:55

You can. Lots of other people can’t.

I’m not buying it. There is a difference between organic groans, heavy breathing and a bit of noise vs frying your vocal cords screaming at maximum decibels.

It’s like riding a rollercoaster. You really don’t need to scream for the whole ride, that’s a choice.

BIossomtoes · Today 18:55

Skeeterinamber · Today 18:54

You can enjoy sex without wailing like a Banshee so the poor bastards in the room next door have to hear it. It’s performative.

You can. Lots of other people can’t.

Skeeterinamber · Today 18:54

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 18:52

For fuck sake, why do you think I'm a man??

I've been on MN for years and from my hundreds of comments, it's very clear I'm a woman.

God forbid it be possible that a WOMAN can enjoy sex 🙄

You can enjoy sex without wailing like a Banshee so the poor bastards in the room next door have to hear it. It’s performative.

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 18:52

Scandelabra · Today 18:45

I’m guessing you feel the need to tell women to lighten up pretty often. Good luck with that.

For fuck sake, why do you think I'm a man??

I've been on MN for years and from my hundreds of comments, it's very clear I'm a woman.

God forbid it be possible that a WOMAN can enjoy sex 🙄

Scandelabra · Today 18:45

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 18:35

It's on the AIBU forum, and it's a thread about sex.

Very odd that you'd find my comments creepy with that in mind, perhaps lighten up a bit...

I’m guessing you feel the need to tell women to lighten up pretty often. Good luck with that.

Skeeterinamber · Today 18:43

I have a very healthy sex life, the kids are over the other side of the house so we can afford to be a bit noisy without being heard.

But screaming like you’re in a porno is purely performative. I think people who do that in hotels want other people to hear, that begs the question of why? Are they exhibitionists or do they get to fuck so rarely they need other people to know they’ve had a shag. It’s all a bit odd.

Also, men moaning during sex is bogging.

thatsgotit · Today 18:37

Evaka · Today 17:30

This thread is really depressing.

  • There's nothing wrong with sex noises;
  • female orgasms are very powerful and often result in totally loss of control and accompanying moans/squeals/shrieks;
  • we're a weird anomoly in human history where everyone thinks we've a right to pristine personal space and silence. Go back a couple of hundred years and your forbears were banging with their own kids, parents, in laws and probably servants or employers in the room with them.

It's
Just
Sex.

The end.

Edited

For
Some
People
Sex
Is
A
Private
Thing.

(Or
Should
Be.)

Hope
That
Helps.

HelpMyBlackLabradorVotesReform · Today 18:36

katzrooldogzdrool · Today 18:25

Or shout 'she's faking it' at a critical moment.

Or shout something off putting like - at least your not vomiting everywhere like norovirus couple in that bed last night.

ReadingSoManyThreads · Today 18:35

Scandelabra · Today 17:50

But not creepy posts on a parenting forum.

It's on the AIBU forum, and it's a thread about sex.

Very odd that you'd find my comments creepy with that in mind, perhaps lighten up a bit...