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Parking and the elderly

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Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Yesterday 19:11

I recently attempted to renew a blue badge for an elderly (93 year old) relative. Despite him needing to use a walking frame or sticks, having had several falls, having stiff and painful joints, and a bit of confusion, he has been refused a blue badge.

I have lived in an area that had a ‘brown badge’ scheme, which were given to anyone over a certain age - I think it was 70 or 75. Now, not everyone needs to secure a space near to store entrances - I’m late 70’s myself and regularly walk 8-10k a day, but many people do need this, as they can’t confidently walk too far.

But aside from blue badge spaces, the only other close ones are parent and baby spaces. Why? I don’t understand why the latter can’t be further away, and wide enough to access car seats.

If my 93 year old relative is no longer entitled to a blue badge, I feel the only option is to park in a so called baby space, so that I can encourage his ongoing independence in choosing his food shopping. He just wouldn’t go if I couldn’t assist.

AIBU - Elderly people don’t need consideration in supermarket car parks

AINBU - If blue badges are being heavily restricted now, spaces in car parks should be set aside for the elderly, and parent/baby spaces moved further away.

OP posts:
Hohofortherobbers · Today 08:01

I dont understand why he couldn't renew the blue badge. Was the first one a temporary badge for temporary disabilities? I've just renewed FILs and it's just a tick box that their circumstances have not changed. No supporting documents required this time. Was there a mistake with your application?

accidentalmillionaire · Today 07:59

@WishIStudiedScienceand @humptydumptyfelloff
blue badges aren’t just for drivers.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · Today 07:57

Challenge the refusal. Mistakes are made fairly frequently.

It just be that the wording or evidence offered did not conform to your council’s box ticking.

Happened to me several badges ago.

I challenged the refusal and was given a badge again.

Bikergran · Today 07:53

humptydumptyfelloff · Yesterday 19:15

Ok il bite.

wtf are you doing encouraging a 93 year old with body issues and disabilities to still
drive

She drives. The passenger has the blue badge.

@Ireallycantthinkofagoodone , challenge the decision.

Nsky62 · Today 07:36

cbbo · Yesterday 21:02

It’s really fucking annoying needing a p&c spot and not being able to get one. There’s always loads of spare disabled spaces but hardly any p&c provided, so I think you still use disabled

Disabled spaces nearly all full here

Lifestooshort71 · Today 07:36

remotescontrol · Yesterday 23:20

But what do they do? There are no brown badge spaces, so what is the brown badge for?

LB of Enfield issues brown badges to those over a certain age and provides parking spaces by the lifts in the multistorey car parks.

InveterateWineDrinker · Today 07:25

I had the exact same problem with an elderly relative who was under the care of the NHS Falls Service, which recommended the blue badge that the council turned down repeatedly.

What I tended to do was pull into the disable bay, get her out and sit her on the seat of her wheeled walker, then go and park in a regular space. I'd do the same thing in reverse on the way out.

Seymour5 · Today 07:04

There seems to be very little understanding of what old age actually means to one’s mobility, resilience, and confidence. I still volunteer, I go to the swimming pool, I have quite an active social life, mainly during the day. But I tire much more easily, and my stamina is far less than even five years ago.

Several of my friends, all around 80, use walking frames and/or walking sticks. We are very conscious that we are slower, less stable on our feet, and lack stamina. We try and keep active, but are careful not to fall. Falling causes far more issues to an elderly body, than to a younger, more robust one. Having a blue badge means (whether we drive or not) the opportunity to get out, whether to the shops, the theatre, the leisure centre.

I’d also add, if anyone who has no mobility issues sees someone who is obviously old standing up on public transport, please offer them a seat, and please don’t sit in the accessible seats. Many of us avoid it nowadays, as being jolted, with an increased risk of falling, is a genuine worry as we get frailer.

Buzzlightyeartowel · Today 03:06

I have 3 young children so regularly use P&C spaces, I would have absolutely no issue with seeing a frail elderly person who doesn’t have a blue badge use one! I’d say they need it more than I do as I can walk 3 children across the car park if I need to.

nomas · Today 02:41

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:35

Thank you to all the posters who have commented positively about the problem.

I have learned that many people have struggled to renew their BB’s, and I don’t quite understand the reasons for this.

I am in the process of challenging the decision on my relatives behalf, and I do think that on a ‘good’ day, I might be able to help him out of the car near the entrance, and go off to park elsewhere. But sometimes he really needs me to be beside him the whole time.

It’s the least I can do. He has been a tower of strength to everyone in his younger years, and now he deserves that same care and support. The shopping is an enjoyable experience for him, and I don’t want it to become more difficult for either of us.

It’s crazy how people think older people should just stay home.

And yet if you suggested to them that the children can stay home they would go crazy.

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:35

Thank you to all the posters who have commented positively about the problem.

I have learned that many people have struggled to renew their BB’s, and I don’t quite understand the reasons for this.

I am in the process of challenging the decision on my relatives behalf, and I do think that on a ‘good’ day, I might be able to help him out of the car near the entrance, and go off to park elsewhere. But sometimes he really needs me to be beside him the whole time.

It’s the least I can do. He has been a tower of strength to everyone in his younger years, and now he deserves that same care and support. The shopping is an enjoyable experience for him, and I don’t want it to become more difficult for either of us.

OP posts:
Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:19

@remotescontrol - an area where I used to live did indeed have brown badge spaces in some car parks, and they were for people over a certain age. Not too sure of all the rules etc., as it didn’t apply to me at the time.

OP posts:
nomas · Today 02:17

seahorsessky · Today 00:25

We do need a better system. Anyone in pain, including temporary issues such as a 6 week recovery from an operation, should be allowed closer parking spaces, and I know sometimes people are perfectly safe to drive, but in agony when they walk (eg left leg injury but drives an automatic). Older, frail people are often scared to use public transport, and seeing how kids harass them on the bus, I don't blame them.
But as you say OP, some people in their seventies regularly jog, so an age pass alone isn't sensible. And reading how many parents on here get priority passes/things for their kids when they admit they don't really need them, e can't just rely on people being decent.

They should just use the P&C bays if they have a genuine need.

nomas · Today 02:15

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:09

@Nearly50omg - I hope people don’t treat you in that way when you are older!

I think it’s very important to support and enable people to do as much as they are able and willing to do, at whatever age. Yes, I could do his shopping, or help him to do it online, but he likes to see the vegetables, and the fish, and I think that deserves to be encouraged.

You absolutely should use the P&C bay for him.

Just make sure the parking sign doesn’t say that there is a charge if there isn’t a child in the car. (Unlikely).

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · Today 02:09

@Nearly50omg - I hope people don’t treat you in that way when you are older!

I think it’s very important to support and enable people to do as much as they are able and willing to do, at whatever age. Yes, I could do his shopping, or help him to do it online, but he likes to see the vegetables, and the fish, and I think that deserves to be encouraged.

OP posts:
5foot5 · Today 00:33

There was a story in The Times one day this week of a 70-something guy with one leg who uses a wheelchair. He had a blue badge but needed to reapply, because the blue badge needs to be renewed at intervals. He was turned down.

Apparently someone who had interviewed him had commented that there are people with one leg who run marathons. Probably not people who have had a leg amputated above the knee in their 70s!

seahorsessky · Today 00:25

We do need a better system. Anyone in pain, including temporary issues such as a 6 week recovery from an operation, should be allowed closer parking spaces, and I know sometimes people are perfectly safe to drive, but in agony when they walk (eg left leg injury but drives an automatic). Older, frail people are often scared to use public transport, and seeing how kids harass them on the bus, I don't blame them.
But as you say OP, some people in their seventies regularly jog, so an age pass alone isn't sensible. And reading how many parents on here get priority passes/things for their kids when they admit they don't really need them, e can't just rely on people being decent.

ThePieceHall · Today 00:19

Brown Badges are relevant to TWO local authorities in the whole of the country. And they are both in Greater London. It’s a nebulous discussion.

PigletJohn · Today 00:07

Createausername1970 · Yesterday 19:26

You are not being unreasonable, your relative sounds like he could benefit from a wider space to allow you to open the door wide to allow him to get in and out.

What I am about to say will no doubt get me flamed. My understanding of disabled spaces in supermarket car parks is that they are not just for blue badge holders - unless it specifically says so - as it's private land.

A lot of supermarkets use blue branding and signage, but unless it clearly says blue badge holders only then you don't need one to park there. I have used them in the past when my husband broke his knee and was in a leg brace /on crutches for a month or so. No-one said anything, and from my point of view it might only have been a temporary condition, but the wider spaces were needed at that time. Once he was mobile again we parked in the wider car park

I can't imagine anyone would bat an eyelid about an obviously frail older person, using walking aids making use of the spaces. Your relative sounds to me like the person they were designed to assist.

Edited

You say it is private land, so surely the owners are allowed to impose whatever restrictions they like.

My garden is private land. I do not give you permission to park on it.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · Yesterday 23:48

BlueFlyCheetah · Yesterday 20:36

and what happens if the elderly person is confused and wanders off or falls over before you can get back with the car?

Exactly
There might be nowhere to sit .
They might get stressed and try and find the driver .
Other pedestrians walking about looking at their phones not their surroundings are a massive hazard .
They might get bumped into.
They might be robbed .

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · Yesterday 23:32

remotescontrol · Yesterday 23:20

But what do they do? There are no brown badge spaces, so what is the brown badge for?

Works the same as blue badge parking spaces, closer to amenities in city centres. I don’t much about these, I just noticed it was something when I was trying to argue my mums point when she was refused a blue badge. These are not a thing in the city I live in.

remotescontrol · Yesterday 23:20

Mumof2wifeof1crazytimes · Yesterday 19:40

It is for those over 65 and meet the eligibility requirements. Not all councils offer these so not well known.

But what do they do? There are no brown badge spaces, so what is the brown badge for?

Livelovebehappy · Yesterday 22:44

In supermarket car parks the disabled parking spaces never seem to be policed. I’m pretty sure if your elderly friend parked there without a blue badge he would be absolutely fine. I doubt that staff are going to get into a confrontation. Tbh they seem to just allow people to pinch things and walk out without being challenged, so I’m sure a 93 year old parking in a disabled spot without a badge isn’t going to be confronted. That’s the least of their worries.

BirdLandedonmyHead · Yesterday 22:39

Ive had two childten under 2, and a patent with a wheelchajr who isnt disabled enough for aBlue Badge.

It was a hell of a lot easier to get the baby/toddlers out of the car and into a shop from a normal space than it is with the wheelchair user.

ThePieceHall · Yesterday 22:34

Nearly50omg · Yesterday 21:05

If he’s confused and doddery then he doesn’t need to be taken shopping does he!

I imagine that Dignitas will be mentioned in your next posting.

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