Ultimate Betrayal

Guess who is in my graduation photos? Me, Me, Me. Only ME. Just ME.

She had time to kill and posed for some photos with her parents. And you're likening it to stabbing you in the heart?

I get that fractious kids are a bit of a nightmare and put you on edge. But ruining your wife's big day over an imagined slight is poor behaviour and endangers your relationship with her.

Are you quite well? The betrayal is that your wife took better photos with her folks and siblings than with you and your hungry and exhausted kids who you couldn’t be bothered to have there on time. Is that right? Your wife married a prince, didn’t she?

I'm so grateful my husband is a functioning human who can get our kids somewhere on time and supports me

You are way too invested in your wife’s graduation. I didn’t even go to my own graduation!!! I’d never take kids to one. So bloody boring! Honestly you sound so emotional about something that is so mundane and not really anything to do with you.

I wouldn’t even have gone let alone with loads of kids. You should have booked a nice hotel and dinner and got grandparents to have the kids for a weekend and you & your wife celebrate her success together just the two of you. I honestly don’t understand why you’re so invested in her qualification. It’s quite bizarre! In guessing you’re American but even so

Start a new thread OP. Along the lines of
My husband had been studying for a degree while working nights. We have 4 children under 5 so it has involved a lot of juggling but I have picked up the slack, supported him and I'm proud of him.
Come graduation day, we wanted a family photo. I got the children there as agreed. It was a long journey and didn't go well but we made it for the second round of photos. One child was a bit sulky but the photos were taken.
My husband then chose to order the photos of him and his parents, not his wife and children despite us agreeing we would use the opportunity to get a photo of us together and my making the effort to get the kids there. It's made me feel unappreciated and like all the support I've given him over the years to allow him to study while working has been taken for granted. This is the second time I've been left out of a professional family photo opportunity and it's made me feel shit.

Hope you think seriously about what tbe majority of us say. Show your wife yku are proud of her. Apologisd for being late and then move forward.

I don't get the drama about the photos when we can all these days take lovely photos on our phones.

So you'd paid for photos but hadn't turned up, so your wife took a pic with her family. Would you have preferred to have paid for photos and not turned up.inntime and your wife didn't get any taken at all because she was waiting for you?

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I completed my Masters (MBA) earlier this year after 5 years of bloody hard slog. Studying for hours in the evenings and weekends, working a full-time senior role and fulfilling my responsibilities as a High School Governor. I’ve had to organise my entire life around the academic calendar, have missed out on a number of big events and celebrations where they conflicted with submission deadlines and my DH has had to pick up the slack with cooking/our dogs etc on many a weekend/Monday evening when an assignment had to be finished.

With my graduation ceremony, I was undecided about whether to go to it, as my MBA was all online, with most of the cohort being international students located abroad, so I was unsure how many others would be there on the day from my course. I also didn’t want a big fuss made by my family over how many tickets/who gets a ticket etc. As it turned out, I’d already booked to be away on a 3-week holiday for the date the ceremony fell on, so I missed it anyway.

Regardless, if my husband had failed to even arrive on time and then, to add insult to injury, had the audacity to kick up a stink over some pictures and make the whole occasion about him, I’d not only be livid, I’d also feel badly let down.

A supportive partner lifts the other up and is their biggest cheerleader, especially for these types of major personal/professional achievements. Your wife’s graduation is her day, to recognise her hard work, dedication and success. It’s not about you.

Don’t be dulling the shine on her accomplishments by sulking over some crap photos.

Ultimate betrayal!? Get a grip. You are being very unreasonable. You have small children, this was your wifes big day and you have made it about yourself!

What's this about booking slots OP...certain faculties graduate together in my experience ...you think your wife could pick the time?

This was her day and you sound like the runners husband who wanted her to hug the children before the race was over...utterly self centred and unable to take responsibility for your family whilst your wife had her moment...which you've ruined by being unpleasant

She ibviiusky went with parents and siblings so that she didn't have tgmhe stress of gettibfmg small children ready. She wabted to be relaxed and looked after,instead of rushing around on her big day looking after her small kids.
Her husbandd had one job,and couldn't manage that!I don't know why he is so pissed off. Sbe is probably livid with him. Pathetic man

"Ultimate betrayal." 😂

What absolute nonsense.

Good lord, do you make everything all about you? This has got to be a wind up. No one is this self unaware.

"this was a disaster kids were hungry and in tears in all the photos not looking forward the lot."

"my kids were fed and happy on arrival"

So which is it? The reversal of the sexes isn't the only thing that makes little sense here.

Two sets of twins? or Quadruplets?
One set in nursery and one set preschool.
And his wife managed to get a degree whilst dealing with the four of them.
😂

Calling this an ultimate betrayal is ridiculous. Newsflash - partner's graduation is not about you, and you don't get a medal for getting your own kids to an event late, and hungry & discombobulated.

You really need to get a grip.