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LakelandHiker · 12/10/2026 18:09

This week, my manager and a friend who goes to my exercise class are ill with Covid. I don't know if they've tested, but they've both said they have it. However one is still coming into the office and the other still attending the exercise class. AIBU or overreacting here... but why don't they stay home until clear? Even if 'feeling 95% better' wouldn't you wait until potentially exposing others? I can't help but feel mad at them both for being so selfish. I often look after an elderly relative and can't risk passing Covid on to her as she is frail. I get life can't be on pause forever but my manager can get paid sick leave and my friend can miss a class, it isn't like there's anything at stake...

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aliasfrog · 12/10/2026 19:35

x2boys · 12/10/2026 19:33

For a lot of people it is just a cold
Yes for some it is far more serious but thats always been the case
Peoole cant live their lives like we did during the pandemic.

Unfortunately I still have to live like that because my health has been utterly destroyed from the pandemic. But never mind, people have to carry on going to exercise classes I guess.

WestwardHo1 · 12/10/2026 19:34

Is it only Covid where people are expected to Stay Home? Or even "stay the fuck home"?

With other illnesses there's a preposition used. "At" normally.

aliasfrog · 12/10/2026 19:34

ThatOldWomanNextDoor · 12/10/2026 19:29

Anyone with a heavy cold, or Covid should stay away from other people.
It's pure selfishness to go out mixing. Many work places advise staying at home.

Fine if you're young and fit but how do you know that someone you cough or sneeze on isn't suffering with cancer? Immunosuppressed? They have a right to go out and do whatever they need to - and vaccines are not 100% effective.

You might be able to carry on but the 90 year old you've just sneezed on could get it, develop pneumonia and be die.

We seem to have established that they don't care. Ableism and disability discrimination is so rife in society that it just becomes normal rhetoric.

LethargeMarg · 12/10/2026 19:34

im suprised they tested as if i was well enough to go to an exercise class i wouldn’t think i had covid so wouldn’t be testing.
i had an awful cold (poss covid ) a few weeks ago. would never usually take time off for a cold but felt awful so rang in sick one day then wfh for two other days and was too wiped out to go to rhe gym all week.

x2boys · 12/10/2026 19:33

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:29

Sadly, I doubt there is any point bringing science!

SO many on here are convinced "it's just a cold".

For a lot of people it is just a cold
Yes for some it is far more serious but thats always been the case
Peoole cant live their lives like we did during the pandemic.

gamerchick · 12/10/2026 19:33

likelysuspect · 12/10/2026 18:27

It is a cold its just one of millions of variants of it.

I take it you didn't do well in the sciences at school if you think.covid is a cold.

I'm with you OP. 'if' you can take time off work sick without penalty when ill, .then you should. There's no excuse for doing an exercise class when ill though. That's selfish as fuck.

MrMurphysComeuppance · 12/10/2026 19:32

People got on with their jobs and their lives with a bad head or chest cold before covid, and no-one cared. Unless they were so ill they couldn't function properly it was expected of them to just soldier on. No-one would have thought twice about staying at home to protect other clinically vulnerable people.

This is no different, really. The covid 19 strain is massively weakened now and anyone vulnerable should be vaccinated anyway. Have they actually got Covid? Or just saying they have it? I notice nobody can simply have a nasty cold any more. It's always covid now. The same people who used to claim that every minor virus they picked up was 'flu are now saying it's Covid. It's probably not, but if it is, so what?

When my DH was really ill with flu (I mean actual, bloody awful flu that had him in bed for 10 days rambling incoherently from fever and unwell for 3 solid weeks after that) the GP suggested he might like to do a covid test. We asked why and he said 'well you might just want to know if it's covid.' So we said 'And if it is covid, is your advice and treatment going to be any different?' And he said no. It was still just go home, take paracetamol, plenty of fluids, wait it out. He didn't tell us we should go into isolation or anything.

We did do a test, and it wasn't covid.

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:32

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:31

And here we have it! Thanks, at least, for your honesty.

So it's not REALLY about not being able to afford to take time off? At least not for you? It's about your inalienable right to swing your fist around willy nilly, for shit and giggles, as it meets every nose in the vicinity. (Classical liberals turning in graves everywhere.)

Edited

You seem very touchy. You’re inferring a lot from my post that isn’t there.

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:31

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/10/2026 19:31

No. Wouldn’t do that even in full health

🤣🤣

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:31

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:27

If they feel well enough why not? It’s just a cold for most people. I’ve certainly been to a gym with a cold before. Not sure id go if I was coughing a lot as that would be annoying for others but having an illness isn’t a reason to hide away.

And here we have it! Thanks, at least, for your honesty.

So it's not REALLY about not being able to afford to take time off? At least not for you? It's about your inalienable right to swing your fist around willy nilly, for shit and giggles, as it meets every nose in the vicinity. (Classical liberals turning in graves everywhere.)

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/10/2026 19:31

LovePoppy · 12/10/2026 19:30

Do you also need to go to an optional fitness class?

No. Wouldn’t do that even in full health

ThreadGuardDog · 12/10/2026 19:31

JenniferBooth · 12/10/2026 19:22

Ian Duncan Smith was on the news yesterday moaning about how furlough has made ppl lazy and basically having a pop at people for following Covid rules,

Funny thing is though ive searched and searched but i cant find a petition from him demanding that people get their Covid fines reimbursed.
Almost as if the publics place is in the wrong.

Doesn’t surprise me. Iain Duncan Smith doesn’t have an empathetic bone in his body. As head of the DWP he waged war on disabled people, shredded social security, punished single mothers, evicted people whose carers sleep in the spare bedroom and wasted billions on Universal Credit.

FunPartyIdeas · 12/10/2026 19:31

@alwaysbehindascreen Assuming you still get paid if off ill though?

LovePoppy · 12/10/2026 19:30

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/10/2026 18:24

I need to be able to pay my rent and feed my children so it’s pretty simple really

Do you also need to go to an optional fitness class?

alwaysbehindascreen · 12/10/2026 19:30

I go into different care homes every day for my job. If i am ill, that's potentially a lot of people I could infect a week- vulnerable people. I still test.

FunPartyIdeas · 12/10/2026 19:30

@PigletJohn So is flu.

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:29

aliasfrog · 12/10/2026 19:29

Do the people that it's not "just a cold" for matter less?

Talk about a leap!

ThatOldWomanNextDoor · 12/10/2026 19:29

Anyone with a heavy cold, or Covid should stay away from other people.
It's pure selfishness to go out mixing. Many work places advise staying at home.

Fine if you're young and fit but how do you know that someone you cough or sneeze on isn't suffering with cancer? Immunosuppressed? They have a right to go out and do whatever they need to - and vaccines are not 100% effective.

You might be able to carry on but the 90 year old you've just sneezed on could get it, develop pneumonia and be die.

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:29

PigletJohn · 12/10/2026 19:28

Interesting to see so many people think a potentially fatal disease can be ignored.

Hospital admissions Increased Baseline

The overall weekly hospital admission rate for COVID-19 increased to 2.04 per 100,000 compared with 1.75 per 100,000 in the previous week

  <a class="break-all" href="https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-reports-2026-to-2027-season/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-report-8-october-2026-week-41" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-reports-2026-to-2027-season/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-report-8-october-2026-week-41</a>

Sadly, I doubt there is any point bringing science!

SO many on here are convinced "it's just a cold".

aliasfrog · 12/10/2026 19:29

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:27

If they feel well enough why not? It’s just a cold for most people. I’ve certainly been to a gym with a cold before. Not sure id go if I was coughing a lot as that would be annoying for others but having an illness isn’t a reason to hide away.

Do the people that it's not "just a cold" for matter less?

PigletJohn · 12/10/2026 19:28

Interesting to see so many people think a potentially fatal disease can be ignored.

Hospital admissions Increased Baseline

The overall weekly hospital admission rate for COVID-19 increased to 2.04 per 100,000 compared with 1.75 per 100,000 in the previous week

  <a class="break-all" href="https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-reports-2026-to-2027-season/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-report-8-october-2026-week-41" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-reports-2026-to-2027-season/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-report-8-october-2026-week-41</a>

National flu and COVID-19 surveillance report: 8 October 2026 (week 41)

https://www.gov.uk/government/statistics/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-reports-2026-to-2027-season/national-flu-and-covid-19-surveillance-report-8-october-2026-week-41

HappyLizard23 · 12/10/2026 19:27

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:26

And to an exercise class, apparently...!

If they feel well enough why not? It’s just a cold for most people. I’ve certainly been to a gym with a cold before. Not sure id go if I was coughing a lot as that would be annoying for others but having an illness isn’t a reason to hide away.

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 19:26

ThreadGuardDog · 12/10/2026 19:24

It’s not sociopathic, it’s reality. Many people don’t get paid for being off sick and there’s no obligation to test or to isolate any more. So if you’re not ill with it, you go to work.

And to an exercise class, apparently...!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 12/10/2026 19:24

bababamama · 12/10/2026 19:20

@ToKittyornottoKitty

not everyone has a job that has cover, it’s literally me at work, to go on holiday I have to do as much as possible to prepare ahead then catch up when I get back, from holiday I work on the bits that need to be done weekly, that’s just the way it is. But I do have my own office at least, I tell my volunteers to stay clear. Not all jobs have cover. If i couldn’t work people, vulnerable people would be majorly impacted

Not too sure why you tagged me in this post. My issue would be similar, and I couldn’t afford to take time off for a cold anyway. So I understand

ThreadGuardDog · 12/10/2026 19:24

MrsDoylesLastTeabag · 12/10/2026 18:21

There's some horrendous "survival of the fittest" shit posted about this topic on here.

How can you read aliasfrog's post upthread and still say it's fine to further disable people because you have to "get on with your lives"?

I find it fucking sociopathic.

It’s not sociopathic, it’s reality. Many people don’t get paid for being off sick and there’s no obligation to test or to isolate any more. So if you’re not ill with it, you go to work.

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