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To expect people ill with Covid stay home?

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LakelandHiker · 12/10/2026 18:09

This week, my manager and a friend who goes to my exercise class are ill with Covid. I don't know if they've tested, but they've both said they have it. However one is still coming into the office and the other still attending the exercise class. AIBU or overreacting here... but why don't they stay home until clear? Even if 'feeling 95% better' wouldn't you wait until potentially exposing others? I can't help but feel mad at them both for being so selfish. I often look after an elderly relative and can't risk passing Covid on to her as she is frail. I get life can't be on pause forever but my manager can get paid sick leave and my friend can miss a class, it isn't like there's anything at stake...

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ruethewhirl · 14/10/2026 20:36

Delatron · 14/10/2026 18:56

Similar to ME and Chronic fatigue it is normally a diagnosis of exclusion. So everything else is ruled out via lots of tests and then if you’ve had covid and the symptoms follow that infection - once everything else is ruled out then that is the conclusion.

Yes, thought it might be the same, wasn't sure though.

ExpectMore · 14/10/2026 20:19

LuLightFest · 14/10/2026 19:21

It’s just a generic email. I haven’t broken guidelines, but then there are lots of comments that have been deleted on this thread that haven’t been particularly worthy of deleting.

Yes it’s pretty depressing that they can construe so many vanilla posts as breaking “guidelines”. It’s as if you dare to share an opinion that someone can find a way to disagree with be outrageously offended by and they delete them. Heaven forbid there being healthy and constructive debate on an internet forum.

Either that or you know who doesn’t like being reminded of flaws in her argument so requests them deleted

LuLightFest · 14/10/2026 19:21

HappyLizard23 · 14/10/2026 19:09

They should have let you know in an email which guideline you’ve broken

It’s just a generic email. I haven’t broken guidelines, but then there are lots of comments that have been deleted on this thread that haven’t been particularly worthy of deleting.

HappyLizard23 · 14/10/2026 19:09

LuLightFest · 14/10/2026 18:51

@MNHQ why has my comment been deleted?

They should have let you know in an email which guideline you’ve broken

Delatron · 14/10/2026 18:56

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 15:43

@ruethewhirl Can they test for Long Covid? How would you know if you had it?

Similar to ME and Chronic fatigue it is normally a diagnosis of exclusion. So everything else is ruled out via lots of tests and then if you’ve had covid and the symptoms follow that infection - once everything else is ruled out then that is the conclusion.

LuLightFest · 14/10/2026 18:51

HopeMumsnet · 14/10/2026 13:28

Hi all,
Could we politely request that those on the thread who are engaging in a public spat rather than discussing the topic at hand consider giving it a rest? It would be much appreciated by your fellow MNers, if our inbox is anything to go by.
Thanks!

@MNHQ why has my comment been deleted?

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:55

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mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:54

HappyLizard23 · 14/10/2026 17:53

Ah well troll hunting is banned so that’s probably why

Hardly troll hunting! 😅

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Ah well troll hunting is banned so that’s probably why

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HappyLizard23 · 14/10/2026 17:51

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:50

Not playing your games. I'm not doing the legwork for you. You keep misrepresenting comments and cherry picking to create arguments.

It looks like your comments were deleted so you’ll need to re ask if you want an answer, just a heads up

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:50

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 17:46

@mumatlast14 If it's so important, just ask...

Not playing your games. I'm not doing the legwork for you. You keep misrepresenting comments and cherry picking to create arguments.

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 17:46

@mumatlast14 If it's so important, just ask...

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:44

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Just read it 😃

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mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:37

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 17:36

@mumatlast14 What was your question?

Go back and read everything in full.

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 17:36

@mumatlast14 What was your question?

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 17:35

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ExpectMore · 14/10/2026 17:22

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Well said

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 17:09

@ruethewhirl Thank you. I wasn't sure if there was a test to rule out differential diagnoses?

ruethewhirl · 14/10/2026 17:05

FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 15:43

@ruethewhirl Can they test for Long Covid? How would you know if you had it?

I don't know if they can test, tbh. (But I haven't claimed to know, so not sure I understand why your question was directed at me?)

I don't think you'd know for sure if you had long Covid specifically, or whether it was something else, but from what I can gather it's not dissimilar to having fibromyalgia or ME, so you'd certainly know you had something. You'd just probably need the help of the medical profession to ascertain what it was.

mumatlast14 · 14/10/2026 16:56

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FunPartyIdeas · 14/10/2026 16:29

@LuLightFest They're called reborn dolls. Might be helpful?
Apologies - wrong thread.

Delatron · 14/10/2026 16:29

Another thing Covid can do (which colds don’t) is wake up other viruses that have been laying dormant. Especially glandular fever and also Herpes. It really isn’t something you want to keep getting over and over again.