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LakelandHiker · 12/10/2026 18:09

This week, my manager and a friend who goes to my exercise class are ill with Covid. I don't know if they've tested, but they've both said they have it. However one is still coming into the office and the other still attending the exercise class. AIBU or overreacting here... but why don't they stay home until clear? Even if 'feeling 95% better' wouldn't you wait until potentially exposing others? I can't help but feel mad at them both for being so selfish. I often look after an elderly relative and can't risk passing Covid on to her as she is frail. I get life can't be on pause forever but my manager can get paid sick leave and my friend can miss a class, it isn't like there's anything at stake...

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5128gap · 13/10/2026 15:16

Delatron · 13/10/2026 13:10

So it’s good idea to infect your team? I don’t quite understand this logic. Wouldn’t your work load increase if illness spreads and you have more people off?

I could infect my team with something I didn't know I had. Unfortunately we can't stop our lives to eliminate all risk to others. All we can do is mitigate by behaving in accordance with guidance for particular illnesses. For example, the guidance for norovirus is 48 hours after symptoms stop, the guidance for respiratory illnesses is until temperature subsides and you feel better. This and practising good hygiene at all times is reasonable. We don't need to be making up our own extra restrictions and scolding people for not following them.

TiredCapybara · 13/10/2026 15:13

I’m immunosuppressed and had to shield during Covid times. I absolutely do not expect anyone to miss work to protect me - my health is my problem to manage and people need to work and look after their families. Ridiculous to suggest otherwise

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 15:09

Maverickess · 13/10/2026 15:01

Um, well an employee where I work was dismissed for poor attendance due to sickness and they were advised they could by the HR company they employ for such things, I believe the employee spoke to ACAS too, but they had a bout of flu that brought them low and then caught everything going after that, and triggered the sickness policy, we work with very vulnerable people, so you'd think that our employer would be shit hot on people not going to work with any sort of illness and supportive when taking time off to protect the people we look after. No, they punish you for doing so.

I'm still in touch with her, she doesn't get past the application or interview stage where "Why did you leave your last job" comes up.

While policies like that exist, are allowed to exist and are supported by legal framework, it's not going to change. Of course she was assumed to be 'taking the piss' which seems to be the standard response in low paid roles, despite the fact most only offer SSP (which is about a 1/4 of my wage) for sickness, there's very little incentive to 'take the piss' when that's the consequences.

And unfortunately many (especially low waged places) are like this, moving between them doesn't really achieve much in the way of better treatment.

Just a question but you mentioned childcare, is that a nursery? Do they pay enough for their staff to make provision for any absences they may have due to illness and also have a policy that doesn't punish them for taking time off sick to protect the children?

I’ve no idea. I’m a customer not an employee, so don’t know the details of their employment contracts.

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 15:06

havingoneofthosedays · 13/10/2026 13:31

Gym this morning
Into the office tomorrow
Might have Covid might be a cold who knows what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️
Was with 2 imu compromised family members on Saturday who do not hibernate away from society, they get on with their life and don’t have meltdowns when a work colleague comes into work with a cold.
I have only seen this level of hysteria on MN, the world will NEVER lock down again stop wanking over the thought of it, not going to happen!

Think you’ve posted in the wrong thread? No-one talking about lockdowns

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 15:05

PeasOff · 13/10/2026 13:42

I think you’ll find my professional background and experience tell me otherwise!

ACAS also recognises that employees can be dismissed due to sickness absence, including situations involving repeated short-term absences, depending on the circumstances and the employer’s procedures.

People can get ill more than once a year, after all! I’ve had COVID twice in one year myself.

Ultimately, it depends on the employer’s sickness absence policy, the circumstances of the absences, and whether a fair process has been followed.

I’m happy to be corrected when I’m wrong, but that works both ways. If you’re going to cite ACAS to support your argument, you also need to acknowledge what its guidance says about repeated sickness absence and the possibility of dismissal.

I acknowledge it. It would only apply in the circumstance of someone taking the piss.

Besides, no employer wants to have to get rid of folk unnecessarily. It’s too costly to have to rehire and retrain. I speak from experience in that respect.

Maverickess · 13/10/2026 15:01

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 11:19

No employer will discipline anyone for taking reasonable sick leave. If they do:

  1. speak to Acas or take them to tribunal
  2. seek a different better employer. The “bad employers” will soon get the hint and treat people better

Um, well an employee where I work was dismissed for poor attendance due to sickness and they were advised they could by the HR company they employ for such things, I believe the employee spoke to ACAS too, but they had a bout of flu that brought them low and then caught everything going after that, and triggered the sickness policy, we work with very vulnerable people, so you'd think that our employer would be shit hot on people not going to work with any sort of illness and supportive when taking time off to protect the people we look after. No, they punish you for doing so.

I'm still in touch with her, she doesn't get past the application or interview stage where "Why did you leave your last job" comes up.

While policies like that exist, are allowed to exist and are supported by legal framework, it's not going to change. Of course she was assumed to be 'taking the piss' which seems to be the standard response in low paid roles, despite the fact most only offer SSP (which is about a 1/4 of my wage) for sickness, there's very little incentive to 'take the piss' when that's the consequences.

And unfortunately many (especially low waged places) are like this, moving between them doesn't really achieve much in the way of better treatment.

Just a question but you mentioned childcare, is that a nursery? Do they pay enough for their staff to make provision for any absences they may have due to illness and also have a policy that doesn't punish them for taking time off sick to protect the children?

datedsockthief · 13/10/2026 14:34

People who can't afford time off work are among those who would benefit most from a different culture around illness. Even if they themselves can't stay away from work every time they're ill, if the general social rule was to avoid mixing if you can then there will be less illness around and they will be less likely to catch something and be too ill to work for a week.

People with bad employers with bad sickness policies siding with people who think we should just ignore all illness, minimise covid and not care about infecting other people is an odd pairing.

Fiftyandme · 13/10/2026 14:30

x2boys · 13/10/2026 13:41

As the above poster stated their compnies policy is over 3 times in 12 months
Its not infeasible that someone could have several virus,s in a 12 month period but not want to be in breech of contract so go into work even if they are not 100%

Same for my company

Funnywonder · 13/10/2026 14:14

HangingOver · 13/10/2026 12:29

I think you should stay home if you can. I got COVID after someone yacked their way through a yoga class I was so annoyed.

I would have left and I would have made it blindingly obvious why. You shouldn’t have to be the one to leave in these circumstances, but I would rather go, and look like an uptight cow, than risk catching Covid and passing it on to my vulnerable child. Some people are incredibly selfish. Any of us could, of course, catch it anywhere, but if you know you’re contagious, why wouldn’t you make an effort to keep your germs to yourself? That person didn’t NEED to attend yoga.

GintyMcGinty · 13/10/2026 13:54

Most people won’t know they’ve got Covid.

most people will feel well enough to crack on.

someone who feels well enough to do an exercise class certainly does.

ACynicalDad · 13/10/2026 13:48

I would avoid going out with Covid, I wouldn't go to the pub etc, but I wouldn't completely stop.

Pir · 13/10/2026 13:48

Working when sick costs uk businesses over £100bn a year in productivity. This is only the immediate damage. It ignores factors such as viral transmission and the knock on impacts of that on healthcare, families, education, jobs, economy and so on. Financial coercion, lack of accountability for the impacts of poor policies, company culture all play a part.

PeasOff · 13/10/2026 13:42

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:34

I think you’ll find the law disagrees:
https://www.acas.org.uk/dismissals/types-of-dismissal

People would only be dismissed for long term illness on capability grounds which is not what we’re talking about here: we’re talking about taking 1 to 5 days off when unwell to avoid spreading your infection to others

I think you’ll find my professional background and experience tell me otherwise!

ACAS also recognises that employees can be dismissed due to sickness absence, including situations involving repeated short-term absences, depending on the circumstances and the employer’s procedures.

People can get ill more than once a year, after all! I’ve had COVID twice in one year myself.

Ultimately, it depends on the employer’s sickness absence policy, the circumstances of the absences, and whether a fair process has been followed.

I’m happy to be corrected when I’m wrong, but that works both ways. If you’re going to cite ACAS to support your argument, you also need to acknowledge what its guidance says about repeated sickness absence and the possibility of dismissal.

x2boys · 13/10/2026 13:41

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:36

Yes they could ultimately lead to dismissal but only if the employee has been taking the piss. Not if they’ve been genuinely unwell and definitely not in the cases we’re discussing (which isn’t long term sick)

As the above poster stated their compnies policy is over 3 times in 12 months
Its not infeasible that someone could have several virus,s in a 12 month period but not want to be in breech of contract so go into work even if they are not 100%

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:38

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 12:45

@ExpectMore Kindly, go and be present with your children if you have taken 6 weeks off to spend time with them?

I’m grand thanks. I’m just pottering in the (wet and windy!) garden with my son who is happily helping me plant bulbs by dropping them into the little holes I’ve created. Me spending a few minutes on my phone here and there whilst he does his own thing won’t hurt him (and will probably help with his independence).

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:36

x2boys · 13/10/2026 13:33

Its not quite as simple as that
Many work places will have policies in place that if an employee has several periods of sickness over specified period of time they will start disciplinary proceedings which can ultimateley lead to dismissal.

Yes they could ultimately lead to dismissal but only if the employee has been taking the piss. Not if they’ve been genuinely unwell and definitely not in the cases we’re discussing (which isn’t long term sick)

HappyLizard23 · 13/10/2026 13:36

Anyway, I’m incredibly bored of repeating myself to the ignorant and privileged. To clarify if in any doubt, if I’m ill and able to work I will be going to work, no I don’t care if that makes others ill and yes my family and funding my home is more important to me. Whatever that makes me so be it, peace out ✌️

LuLightFest · 13/10/2026 13:36

FunPartyIdeas · 13/10/2026 12:45

@ExpectMore Kindly, go and be present with your children if you have taken 6 weeks off to spend time with them?

One afternoon out of 6 weeks won’t matter. It’s not for you to tell someone how to spend their time. I can’t stand comments like this.

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:34

PeasOff · 13/10/2026 13:26

Of course they can and do!

I think you’ll find the law disagrees:
https://www.acas.org.uk/dismissals/types-of-dismissal

People would only be dismissed for long term illness on capability grounds which is not what we’re talking about here: we’re talking about taking 1 to 5 days off when unwell to avoid spreading your infection to others

Types of dismissal - Dismissals - Acas

Advice on when a dismissal may be fair according to the law.

https://www.acas.org.uk/dismissals/types-of-dismissal

HappyLizard23 · 13/10/2026 13:34

x2boys · 13/10/2026 13:33

Its not quite as simple as that
Many work places will have policies in place that if an employee has several periods of sickness over specified period of time they will start disciplinary proceedings which can ultimateley lead to dismissal.

Mine is 3x in a 12 month period, after that you are in breach of contract

LakieLady · 13/10/2026 13:33

HappyLizard23 · 13/10/2026 13:02

Graphic designer - average starting salary £28k
Nurse/midwife - £32k
Graduate secondary school teacher - £31k.

all high skilled and below UK median of £37k. Coupled with children and bills to pay these are low paid jobs.

The nurse and teacher salaries are only about 25% NMW, which is shocking when you think of how long they will have spent training, and how much they will be in hock with student loans.

My friend's son went to work in Aldi when he left school, and now earns more than that as a manager.

Salaries for a lot of "professional" jobs are really shite.

x2boys · 13/10/2026 13:33

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:23

No-one will lose their job from taking sick leave when they are sick…. Stop with the wild hyperbole. It’s literally what sick leave is for. Most employers would prefer sick employees not to infect others. Productivity goes down when everyone is sick.

Its not quite as simple as that
Many work places will have policies in place that if an employee has several periods of sickness over specified period of time they will start disciplinary proceedings which can ultimateley lead to dismissal.

HappyLizard23 · 13/10/2026 13:33

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:29

Your numbers are way out.

Average teacher salary is £52.8k (https://getintoteaching.education.gov.uk/life-as-a-teacher/pay-and-benefits/teacher-pay)

Average midwife salary £40k+ (https://www.nurses.co.uk/blog/pay/midwife-pay-salary-guide)

I wouldn’t consider a graphics designer a high skilled job but as you do: average c£40k+.

Clearly if you choose starting salaries they’re on the lower end but that’s missing the point (particularly as in 2 of your examples, individuals get paid more year on year purely as a result of continuing to work ie not performance related)

I was citing starting salary to be clear, apologies I didn’t specify before

havingoneofthosedays · 13/10/2026 13:31

Gym this morning
Into the office tomorrow
Might have Covid might be a cold who knows what it is 🤷🏼‍♀️
Was with 2 imu compromised family members on Saturday who do not hibernate away from society, they get on with their life and don’t have meltdowns when a work colleague comes into work with a cold.
I have only seen this level of hysteria on MN, the world will NEVER lock down again stop wanking over the thought of it, not going to happen!

ExpectMore · 13/10/2026 13:31

HappyLizard23 · 13/10/2026 13:05

Not to mention by her logic those with immune system issues don’t have to be responsible for themselves, everyone else should be responsible for them instead. Why is it one rule for one and one for another?
why is it that poor, hard working people are the ones penalised but others can do nothing but rely on others? It can’t work both ways

It seems in your world it’s always someone else’s fault or responsibility….am I right?

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