my husband and I are houseparents in a boarding school. i am really struggling with the job, and quite frankly, would like to not work for a few years while our kids are still young.
We are not very extravagant people, and this is the second live in boarding job for me. I have always been a bit of a saver, and started investing a few years ago. I took ownership of the family money, and our portfolio has now reached 1 million. My goal was always to use this for retirement, or to retire early, but now I want to use some of this money now if I need to.
The big problem is my husband does not want to leave the job, and we have a joint role. I have grown to hate how intrusive it is, and how we (especially him) are always looking after other people’s kids, sometimes at the expense of our own.
I recognise the benefits, and there are many, but I’m struggling so much with it at the moment. He won’t commit to doing one more year or give me a timeframe for how much longer he wants to do this.
He genuinely seems to enjoy the job, and likes the financial benefits. I’ve spoken to him, explained, but he just says we can make a few changes in the boarding house to make things better. He doesn’t seem to care that we also have no time for us. We work evenings, so once the kids are asleep, we are on duty wjth the boarders. We work every other weekend, and I dread those weekends.
How can I move forward with this? I’m so sad to be missing out on time with my kids when they’re young, and feel I will regret all this work when they are older and dont want to be with us as much.