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Neighbours and Halloween

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Halloween3 · Yesterday 17:28

Our next door neighbours have already put up their decorations! I couldn’t care less about what people do however this has dampened mine and DC’s spirits. DS’s birthday is around Halloween and I’ve been really depressed for past few years due to a loss. We decided a few months ago to have a big party on Halloween and invite all DS’s friends over on Halloween. I have been buying bits and pieces - just a few decorations and party serving plates so far. The neighbours have got the EXACT decorations I have bought! I mean the exact. DS’s has seen this and the ones we chose and he has decided I need to return everything now as neighbours will think we copied them.

I wasn’t planning on putting up decorations till 29th October so 2 days before Halloween but these guys have put up the decorations over month left!

I can’t return the decorations as it’s too much hassle (from TEMU) and quite frankly I can’t be bothered to buy new ones

What should I do? DS is really upset (aged 9). He was really looking forward to the party and if I don’t change the decorations he won’t stop being upset. I really don’t want to though. I know the decorations are popular so lots will have it but next door neighbours daughter is in my sons class and is a little nasty to him and will accuse him of copying. A part of me thinks she overheard DS and his party. Like why put up the decorations now when in past they’ve never bothered to

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sohard · Today 09:08

Get a firefly outdoor projector. We have one and all the kids at Halloween we’re totally wowed by it.

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SleeplessRoads · Today 09:25

concertinacornflake · Yesterday 17:59

You're being under-empathetic. Sorry.

The OP has had a recent loss, the child has had bullying issues.

Small stuff actually means more at some points.

The small stuff doesn’t actually mean more. No one is looking back in 5 years at the awful time the neighbours put out their Temu decorations before we did. They’ll be talking about the awful time with bereavement and the bully of a neighbours son.

While small things might seem like more because your resilience is used up elsewhere, it is important to remember they are still the small things and don’t blow them out of proportion.

Moistcottonchafers · Today 09:30

I made a zombie apocalypse theme decor during covid to cheer up the kids with a little Halloween party. We were allowed 6 visitors at the time so had a few friends round.

I made everything using stuff I had at home. Printed some Zombie warning signs off the Internet, made some bodies from bin bags stuffed with old clothes filled with plastic bottles and cushions for the heads etc. I filled old glass jars with water soaked with highlighter pens to glow in the dark filled with jelly eyeball sweets. Bought some yellow and black striped tape to cordon the house off. The kids loved it, and I spent very little in the end. Would something like that work OP? Your DS could help make a lot of it.

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