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AIBU not warning a woman her shorts had ridden up?

153 replies

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:28

Went for a coffee this morning. A “mature” lady was sitting with male friend at opposite table. I didn’t take much notice, but, suddenly, looking up across the cafe I couldn’t help seeing that her very short shorts had ridden up, she evidently wasn’t wearing isn’t pants underneath and all or almost all was revealed. I immediately looked away but she stayed put for the duration of my visit. Should I have warned her? I was too embarrassed to say anything. WWYHD?

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OutwiththeOutCrowd · Yesterday 17:55

Do not fret. I do not think a warning necessary except in the unlikely event of a barista operating a coffee machine steam nozzle right under their table.

Isobel201 · Yesterday 17:54

I once went to a restaurant, had forgotten my phone, so I was looking around more than usual, but once I saw a lady with her dress unzipped at the back and I could see her bra. I didn't say anything, but I was surprised non of her fellow guests had noticed.

Lmnop22 · Yesterday 17:52

Cycling shorts cannot “ride up” enough that they literally expose the labia.

If you mean that they were giving her camel toe then 🤷🏼‍♀️ could still have been wearing knickers and got that!

HideousKinky · Yesterday 17:52

PMSL at many of the responses here 😂

FeliciaFancybottom · Yesterday 17:50

B1anche · Yesterday 17:49

This is such a standard MN response as soon as a mature woman is mentioned.

I did have a reply to that post but I've forgotten what it was!

CharlottePotatoes · Yesterday 17:50

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:41

They must of been eh?! I remember years ago (esrly 90s) when I was at high school and mum and dad were at work when we were coming home, we had to go to the neighbours house to get the key to get in, one day my brother and I went to get it and he must of been sleeping, he came to the door in boxers with the hole gaping and we both seen the lot 😱🤢🤮 his name was auld wullie. We used to say "we seen wullies wullie" after that unfortunate sight.

Oh love I think he was exposing himself :(

B1anche · Yesterday 17:49

CalmForCats · Yesterday 17:43

Is there a chance she could have dementia and struggle with dressing etc?

Edited

This is such a standard MN response as soon as a mature woman is mentioned.

FeliciaFancybottom · Yesterday 17:49

How could you see under the table?
Were her labia in military uniform?
Are you the tuppence troll?

Lifelover16 · Yesterday 17:49

Would put me off my flapjack but I wouldn’t say anything

NewGoldFox · Yesterday 17:48

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:20

Maybe best try to forget it then, rather encouraging a load of strangers to discuss it.

Think it is the shorts creep again…

CharlottePotatoes · Yesterday 17:47

Campanulaceae · Yesterday 16:16

Don't just say it, shout it from across the café 🤣

Does your local caf not have a flaps klaxon?!

Sesma · Yesterday 17:44

Some cafes are quite small, I doubt it was one like M&S size so you would easily see. Sound deliberate if legs were wide open, displaying

CalmForCats · Yesterday 17:43

Is there a chance she could have dementia and struggle with dressing etc?

PrincessHoneysuckle · Yesterday 17:42

Campanulaceae · Yesterday 16:16

Don't just say it, shout it from across the café 🤣

🤣

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:41

AnnesPuffedSleeves · Yesterday 17:34

🤣

I’m totally confused how you can see anything, especially at a distance. Were the shorts baggy?

They must of been eh?! I remember years ago (esrly 90s) when I was at high school and mum and dad were at work when we were coming home, we had to go to the neighbours house to get the key to get in, one day my brother and I went to get it and he must of been sleeping, he came to the door in boxers with the hole gaping and we both seen the lot 😱🤢🤮 his name was auld wullie. We used to say "we seen wullies wullie" after that unfortunate sight.

AutumnLover1999 · Yesterday 17:41

Sidebeforeself · Yesterday 16:16

As it was in a cafe, are you sure she just hadn’t dropped some thinly sliced ham in her lap? 😁

You cow! I'm in a public place on my own,people around and I snorted 😤😂😂😂😂😂

Westfacing · Yesterday 17:39

If they were very short shorts there is no way she didn't feel that they had risen even higher, so she must have known and not cared

Honestly, mature women these days - can't take them anywhere!

bigboykitty · Yesterday 17:34

JahanaraBegum · Yesterday 16:06

I was at yoga and the man in front was wearing loose shorts with no underwear. I could see up the shorts leg when we were doing things on all-fours and saw all his nethers. I didnt say anything!

Edited

This is a well known, intentional perving technique and should be reported to the yoga teacher/sports centre.

AnnesPuffedSleeves · Yesterday 17:34

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:31

Did she order a flapjack with her coffee?

🤣

I’m totally confused how you can see anything, especially at a distance. Were the shorts baggy?

WinWhenTheyreSinging · Yesterday 17:33

LackingBrainPower · Yesterday 17:06

MN approved response ofc

I CAN SEE YOUR MINGE

what was that posters name, can anyone remember

I still laugh about that post … 🤣

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:31

Did she order a flapjack with her coffee?

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:20

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 16:15

She was at the other end of the cafe and sitting with her legs wide apart. I didn’t mean to look at her at all but the unfortunate sight caught my eye for less than a second. I wish it hadn’t.

Maybe best try to forget it then, rather encouraging a load of strangers to discuss it.

Imdunfer · Yesterday 17:19

Women with a big belly who wear swimsuits without legs on them very often show everything as their suit gapes around the leg when they walk up or down the stairs into the pool and unfortunately that also puts them right at eye height!

Slumgullion · Yesterday 17:19

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

Well, the OP clearly thought they were relevant.

Maybe mature, or ‘mature’ labia are extra-horrifying?

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:18

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

I am making a point about OP's sneering tone and ageism.

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