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AIBU not warning a woman her shorts had ridden up?

153 replies

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:28

Went for a coffee this morning. A “mature” lady was sitting with male friend at opposite table. I didn’t take much notice, but, suddenly, looking up across the cafe I couldn’t help seeing that her very short shorts had ridden up, she evidently wasn’t wearing isn’t pants underneath and all or almost all was revealed. I immediately looked away but she stayed put for the duration of my visit. Should I have warned her? I was too embarrassed to say anything. WWYHD?

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theblame · Yesterday 19:53

MoodyMargaret11 · Yesterday 18:34

Nooooo
How?? Surely you mean the outline of his balls? That's just horrible.

Edited

Oh no I mean his actual balls. Loose shorts, no boxers

Rosegardenlady · Yesterday 19:53

Sidebeforeself · Yesterday 16:16

As it was in a cafe, are you sure she just hadn’t dropped some thinly sliced ham in her lap? 😁

😂

Newsenmum · Yesterday 19:50

Lifelover16 · Yesterday 19:50

The age of the woman may be relevant. As age increases collagen and skin elasticity are lost, so the flaps get flappier and more likely to flop out of short shorts.

Well this is another terrifying thought!

Lifelover16 · Yesterday 19:50

The age of the woman may be relevant. As age increases collagen and skin elasticity are lost, so the flaps get flappier and more likely to flop out of short shorts.

Newsenmum · Yesterday 19:49

Imdunfer · Yesterday 19:35

Which bit of "a swimming costume which is big enough to cover an enormous belly often has leg holes that are not tight enough to cover a woman's modesty" are you unclear about?

Because the bit around the legs is tighter…
literallly never had this problem

Musicmummy63 · Yesterday 19:35

DH and I were once out in the car, many moons ago before phones and sat nav, and we stopped and asked an old guy on a pushbike for directions. He pulled up to the passenger side where I had the misfortune to be seated, and was wearing loose short shorts so everything was dangling to one side of the crossbar!
We call it eye abuse, and I think that was when we coined the phrase.
This thread has me in stitches.

Imdunfer · Yesterday 19:35

Newsenmum · Yesterday 18:11

What?

Which bit of "a swimming costume which is big enough to cover an enormous belly often has leg holes that are not tight enough to cover a woman's modesty" are you unclear about?

Flicitytricity · Yesterday 19:31

And theres me, being all agog in the airport today when a woman took her hoodie off over her head to go through security and two boobs escaped their vest.
She had no idea and it was only when she was going through the body scanner she was alerted to it.
I was still queueing up, too far away to alert her but no one around her said anything😬

Illegally18 · Yesterday 19:19

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 19:16

At the other side of the cafe, in a more recent post.

Opposite her, on the other side of the cafe.

Mls1984btc · Yesterday 19:18

And there's my mother telling me to make sure I put nice undergarments on whenever I am out, just in case I get knocked over by a car and the healthcare professionals have the unfortunate experience of seeing them.

I shall let her know nowadays is common to forgo them.

Where do these people come from? Or am I missing out?

LadyLexi · Yesterday 19:16

I was in my local tesco noticed a young girl in very short skirt and loose shirt . Everytime she bent over the veg her entire vulva and bare breasts were exposed she had an audience of old men enjoying the show . Ive daughters her age and thought I was doing right to tip her off in case she was unaware . She completely kicked off at me calling me a jealous fat old b*tch!!! Security came over to see what was happening and told me that there is always young girls doing the same and filming content for OF etc . I had no idea, I was just trying to be kind and look out for another woman never again!

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 19:16

Illegally18 · Yesterday 19:00

FGS, The op saw, she wasn't looking. and the woman in question was opposite her .

At the other side of the cafe, in a more recent post.

Weeellokthen · Yesterday 19:15

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · Yesterday 19:05

People used to discreetly say "Charlie's dead" to alert of a petticoat that was showing; so surely a new, appropriate, widely-understood euphemism can be found? Something like "I see that Aunt Frances has now departed from the station", maybe?

This is why I love mn 🖕😂😂
Such wit

Weeellokthen · Yesterday 19:12

Sidebeforeself · Yesterday 16:16

As it was in a cafe, are you sure she just hadn’t dropped some thinly sliced ham in her lap? 😁

😂thanks 😂😂

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · Yesterday 19:08

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · Yesterday 16:22

Someone sitting with shorts, no underwear and their legs open knows EXACTLY what they are doing.

Sounds deliberate to me too

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Yesterday 19:08

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · Yesterday 19:05

People used to discreetly say "Charlie's dead" to alert of a petticoat that was showing; so surely a new, appropriate, widely-understood euphemism can be found? Something like "I see that Aunt Frances has now departed from the station", maybe?

Something like "I see that Aunt Frances has now departed from the station", maybe?

😂

Although I do like the idea of a widely used euphemism so you don't have to come right out with it 😁

BrezhnevsLuxuriantEyebrows · Yesterday 19:05

PrincessHoneysuckle · Yesterday 16:11

Yeah you cant exactly say "excuse me love your flaps are out" can you? .Mortifying for her if it wasnt deliberate.

People used to discreetly say "Charlie's dead" to alert of a petticoat that was showing; so surely a new, appropriate, widely-understood euphemism can be found? Something like "I see that Aunt Frances has now departed from the station", maybe?

ohthesuspense · Yesterday 19:01

katepilar · Yesterday 18:44

The amount of people not being able to think how private parts can get out of very short shorts amazes me.

I don’t get this either. But it’s quite common on MN for posters to be all wide eyed and say “no that can’t possibly be the case / can’t possibly have happened!” when it clearly could have done. It’s weird but you see it all the time across the threads

Illegally18 · Yesterday 19:00

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 15:59

She was sitting at a table in a cafe and you were looking between her legs?????

FGS, The op saw, she wasn't looking. and the woman in question was opposite her .

DrySherry · Yesterday 19:00

You should have said something. A child seeing that badly packed kebab could have been traumatised indefinitely.

squarecrow · Yesterday 18:57

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · Yesterday 16:22

Someone sitting with shorts, no underwear and their legs open knows EXACTLY what they are doing.

This. She was clearly trying to Sharon Stone the guy she was with.

Pepperlee · Yesterday 18:51

😂😂😂 Some of these replies are hilarious.

katepilar · Yesterday 18:47

I dont think I would be able to say anything either.

I had some odd reaction just pointing people to their undone laces so stay away from pointing out anything else than an open bag.

katepilar · Yesterday 18:44

The amount of people not being able to think how private parts can get out of very short shorts amazes me.

UndoRedo · Yesterday 18:42

As a 10 year old I was unfortunately able to view old man balls due to an unwise sitting position and choice of shorts. Not a memory I treasure