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AIBU to feel overwhelmed and wish someone would look after me for once?

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birmingam · 25/09/2026 21:41

I'm 27 and I live alone in a house I bought last year. I'm generally very capable, working full time, doing part time study, looking after my house. But I'm having a little cry this evening because sometimes I just want someone to look after me for once. I'm single and apart from my mum I don't have any family, never had aunties or uncles or adult family friends growing up. My mum does her best but isn't very practically or emotionally supportive and I don't feel able to share a lot of more personal things with her. As a result I am very independent and self-reliant.
Sometimes I would just love a hug or someone to think of me and buy me chocolate or make me a cup of tea. I'm exhausted this evening after work all week and I haven't made my dinner yet. I'm sitting on the sofa with a blanket having a little cry. It all just feels so much and so lonely, but there's nobody to see that. It would be lovely for someone to say "love, you're exhausted, will I get you a cup of tea?" or "what would you like for dinner?" or "here's a lasagne I've made you". I'm hungry but I might just go to bed with no dinner because it feels like too much effort. I just want a hug

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Ilmiocompleanno · 25/09/2026 21:48

Sorry you're feeling so down. Overall it sounds like you're doing really well, but everyone needs someone to take care of them at times. Re it feeling too much effort to get dinner, could you afford to treat yourself to a takeaway and get it delivered?

Missrosie123 · 25/09/2026 21:48

Sending a hug. I’ve been where you are. It can feel lonely and overwhelming at times. You should be so proud of what you have achieved. Not many can do this on their own. You are incredible. This is one hard day others will be easier. Eat some comfort food and pamper yourself. You are enough!

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