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TW AIBU in wanting to support a friend after her son’s conviction TW

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fluffypillowssndgreywhites · 25/09/2026 18:01

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My friends son has been found guilty of Rape.

I want to support her but I just don’t know what to say.

She’s in denial, believes he is innocent despite being found guilty by a jury.

I don’t know the specific details of the case as the reporting is restricted and I haven’t asked her any questions, just listened to what she has said, which hasn’t been much about details more the verdict.

She has today, posted a meme on Facebook about loving her son unconditionally.

I want to message her, but what do I say? What can I say?

WWYD? Leave it? Or send a message?

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Makebelieveanotherlife · 25/09/2026 18:06

Why would you want to support someone who condones a rapist? A convicted one, given it’s hard to get a conviction. She can still love her son, but posting about him as if he is something to be proud of?

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 25/09/2026 18:04

It’s really tricky. I wouldn’t want to talk to her about it because I’d believe he was guilty. I’d be sorry she was in that position but I couldn’t tolerate her complaining about him being convicted. I suppose I’d see what had been reported in the press, if anything.

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