Pure Cremation is body disposal right?

I don't see an issue with this. If you donate your body to science, then the medical school takes it upon death and will give you the ashes when they've finished with it. My DM did this and we held a church funeral for her and another family gathering to remember her life later in the year. It was lovely and I'm glad that her body could be of some use in death.

Actually I don't. There will be loads of people who don't want money wasted on their own funerals and families who would struggle to afford the price of a real funeral.

I agree.

This.

aren't all bodies disposed of in one way or another?

"it's a respectful process...."
Sez who? No-one's allowed to attend (of course) so we won't know if this is true or not

But where there's an actual funeral service it's just another step in the process, @KaleidoscopeSmile, and unless loved ones have attended at every stage of the preparation they won't know how respectfully that's been handled either

That's how we got the dreadful Robert Bush and his Legacy funeral home in Hull, so rather than direct cremation itself being an issue that seems to me an argument for properly regulating the industry as a whole

I've said to my dc I'd like this and then for them to have a picnic at a park (unless they feel they want funeral)

Everyone has their own opinion on things.
This is why it’s so important to write your funeral wishes down or get your a direct cremation
That way , it doesn’t cause an argument that’s unnecessary between family. As it’s all been sorted previously

I’ve done a direct cremation paid for upfront @ £999,
I have a partner & son and have no close friends
and can’t see my sisters coming to the other side of town and paying for taxi’s

So dp & son can do whatever they want to do on that day. Ashes will be returned .

I can fully understand people who do not want a funeral service, or a grave. Who wish to be remembered and/or have their life celebrated in some other way.

I do think that promoting it simply on the basis of low cost is in poor taste.

This is exactly how I feel . Personally I think a memorial get together within a week or so without going to the crem was a more pleasant way to celebrate the life of someone, especially if it’s only a few close people, an empty big crematorium room always seems really sad even though it may be the case due to age or family relationships whereas 10 people in a nice small room without the preliminaries or the curtains stuff to me seems preferable -

Yes it’s just body disposal. A lot of people fall for the adverts. It’s often cheaper to pay your local crematorium to do the same.

Yeah but they don’t set fire to your body and yeet you into the street, don’t worry

Don't mind the concept and in fact its potentially appealing, but I hate the tone of the adverts which (to me) seem to be trying to guilt trip those who do want a traditional type of funeral into thinking its wrong and overpriced.

I've been to enough funerals, including my parents, to know that that final act of rememberance where their friends might get togther for the last time was hugely valuable and did provide closure.

I’m not sure I agree with the closure thing. My Dad died this year, he had a direct cremation organised by the local funeral directors. He is still dead, I’m still grieving. What difference would a funeral service have made? What does it ‘close’?

We had a direct cremation recently for a relative, they had specifically asked for no funeral and a direct cremation which we arranged with a local undertaker. We were told a day beforehand what time the cremation would occur so we could sit with our memories if we wanted. The crematorium also asked about a piece of music we might like to have played at the cremation. A few weeks later we had a Celebration of their life and we have just scattered their ashes at a tree planting ceremony. I found it was a lot easier and less stressful, and the tree planting ceremony was really lovely and a beautiful way to remember them.

It can't help the grieving process either

After dealing with several family funerals in the last few years DH and I have discussed this and both want the disposal of our bodies to be as cheap and easy as possible for those we leave behind, so I think we will be pre-paying for direct cremation soon.

I find burial upsetting (I've seen an elderly spouse beside themselves at the thought of leaving the coffin in the grave open to the elements) and cremation services always seem like a conveyor belt. There's only a short time-slot and especially if there are other grieving families around it all seems quite impersonal to me. I also don't think all the 'traditional' costs and ceremony are what want either, and I know from experience that in the few weeks after a death it just feels wrong to do anything but spend whatever it takes to get 'the best' for your loved one. I would prefer for my body to be disposed of as quickly and efficiently as possible (frankly, I'd be happy for it to be treated as clinical waste). No need for anyone to watch as it's sent for the process to begin.

I think it's useful for family and friends to meet to mark someone's passing but that could be at a time that suits the closest family (some might want it to be in the same week as the death, others might not feel ready for a while) and in whatever setting they feel most comfortable. There can be words read, photos shown, stories told etc and it can be formal or informal- but it doesn't require the presence of a coffin or expensive cars/flowers etc. I've told my (young adult) DC that I would prefer them to spend as little as possible disposing of my body but spend some of whatever I leave doing something enjoyable that reminds them of me- like a visit to one of my favourite holiday destinations or a theatre trip.

These direct funerals seem rather inhuman to me

My Dad insisted on this, i was unhappy about it but it was his choice. When he died i was so glad he had chosen this, no funeral to arrange was a blessing. The company kept us informed at every step, they told us when dad was being taken to the crematorium and at what time his cremation would be. I spent time in the garden and my brother shut himself away in his shed.They called us an hour later to see how we were. When we arrived to collect his ashes they were wonderful, they made it feel that we were there to collect our dad not just a box of ashes.
I have now decided that i will be going the same way.

And "many funeral services now include this as an option" because they have to, otherwise Pure Cremations would be getting all of the business from all those people who can't be arsed to see their deceased relatives off in the traditional way.

But some people will have requested a direct cremation for themselves.

As for ". . .can't be arsed to see their deceased relatives off in the traditional way."

Traditions evolve.

I'm seriously considering signing up for one of those.

I doubt it is "respectful," just a job to be jobbed.

I think a lot of people choose to do a form of ceremony but using the scattering of the ashes rather than having the body there.

There is a coffin though.

You sound like a shareholder of one of the firms providing this.

"it's a respectful process...."

Sez who? No-one's allowed to attend (of course) so we won't know if this is true or not.

And "many funeral services now include this as an option" because they have to, otherwise Pure Cremations would be getting all of the business from all those people who can't be arsed to see their deceased relatives off in the traditional way.