Pure Cremation is body disposal right?

My Mum's funeral was peak pandemic, and we had the only 10 allowed rule, all sitting apart. I've never 'liked' funerals, however that experience was awful.
I'm not having a service, I'll be getting cremated directly. My loved ones can gather to scatter my ashes.

The body is in a cold store. They offered mum the option to prepare the body for viewing, she said no. No viewings. I imagine the coffin will be very basic, probably cardboard or something. I can’t imagine anything worse than seeing him like that. It would make it all so much worse.

My friend had it and was tough without a funeral. It all went ok though. She booked it 2 months before she was diagnosed with cancer and gone 9wks later.

We did this last year for a young family member who died very suddenly in traumatic circumstances. None of us could have coped with a funeral service, and one of their last requests was " please don't give me a funeral because I don't want to die" and their parent respected that. We have planted flowers at one of the places they were happiest, we talk about them all the time though i have to say the pain seems far worse in our second year of loss, the utter shock and unreality has worn off and we are now at the stage of realising they are gone forever. I hold them in my heart and think of them many times every day

Everyone grieves differently and not everyone will find comfort from a "traditional" funeral.

For various reasons, I opted for an unattended cremation for my husband, this year. I do not think that an attended cremation for a very small number of people followed by some kind of small awkward gathering would have provided me or my adult son with "closure".

I also lost a partner over 40 years ago. His brother and I did arrange an attended cremation followed by a small gathering for close family members only. That did not provide "closure", either.

But you might not be grieving, that’s not a given.

It depends what has been paid for, it usually is a collect, cremate and ashes drop off service, with NO extras like viewing the body, they are often taken miles away from where they live.

A friend of mine's dad died last year and his mum and dad, had unbeknownst to him arrange pure cremation, so he went to the house where his dad had just died, a company turned up to collect his body and take it around 80 miles away to be prepped for cremation.. he didn't know about it, and his mum had no idea that was what was going to happen and was distraught he was being taken so far away. He managed to put a stop to it and phone a local funeral directors to take over instead, they still did a direct cremation through the local one, but they got to see him in the chapel of rest to say goodbye first, it would only have been £600 more for using the local funeral director and having options to say goodbye.

I really like the idea of a direct cremation, assuming you still have a wake, but I think people need to be made fully aware of what actually happens and make sure their loved ones know too so it's not a shock.

My PIL has already sorted his, we're going to have a wake when his ashes come back.

But that’s like normal, the body doesn’t get cremated after the service. I think tv shows give the impression that the coffin goes on a conveyor belt to the furnace.

I should have phrased that better. Yes, families are offered the ashes individually, or they can be put in a remembrance garden attached to the crematorium.

Ok cool. I just thought they might and it wouldn't really bother me if I paid for a very basic service and they explained that's what would happen.
But if it's illegal then of course it shouldn't happen.

I didn't want my dads ashes, his were spread outside in some garden and I got a certificate saying where it was.

I don't understand what you mean by this, as the body will be stored in a cold facility to hold back decomposition, my Mum wasn't embalmed and she'd been dead a fortnight when I visited her.

But anyway, you could visit the closed coffin with flowers, perhaps a letter you'd like put in with him, to say Goodbye?

Everyone gets put into a coffin.
No one is cremated with other people. That would be illegal.
No ones ashes are mixed with others.
Ashes are actually terrible for plants.

I'm just guessing. It wouldn't bother me if I was just in a bag and mixed with others personally. As long as it wasn't done in public view. If I didn't want to pay extra for it to be more 'dignified'.
As long as they do what they say they will and it's hygienic etc then it's fine surely.

They definitely put you in a coffin, and your remains are definitely kept separate from others, and the ashes are definitely not spread outside. It’s nothing like pets. I mean, where did you get all that from?

no closure for you perhaps?

As I understand it ALL bodies must be in coffins - however cheap - for cremation and every body is cremated individually, so no way would a person's ashes be mixed in with others!

What's your source for these claims?

PS
Pets can also be cremated individually and the ashes returned to you - it costs of course but the option is there

My dad had one, he lived the other end of the country so obviously his body was there. He had been separated from mum for many years and if he had had a funeral there would probably only be me and my brother and our small families there. I chose not to get his ashes and they were scattered in a garden in the area where he had lived for the last 25 years.

It’s a good option in some circumstances, but it’s not for everyone.

My parents aren’t religious, hate funerals to the point that they’ve delayed telling me when distant relatives have died until after the funeral so I won’t go (I don’t get it, but they think they’re doing me a favour!) and are very fond of saving money so I wouldn’t have any hesitation about doing this for them.

It sounds brilliant. I went to a funeral last month to pay our respects to a lovely neighbour, and discovered her family had paid for a double slot at the crematorium, so we could watch them cry for a whole hour.🙁

Tedious.

Might have done for you (and im glad for you), but it traumatised me and my siblings, made the grieving process much harder.

All cremation is a body disposal service.

The no frills ones they might not put you in a coffin and your remains might get mixed up with others. Then it's presumably spread outdoors to help grow plants. Similar to what they do with pets?

Many people believe their body has no connection to their soul/self once they pass away so it has no physical or sentimental value.

Actually it did.

I agree. I'm in the US and the cost of even a graveside only service where I live is still in the low 5 figures. And 'full service' cremations aren't that much cheaper. It's criminal!

I don't want a funeral. I don't want to be planted in a hole in the ground. I've specified that I want a 'basic' cremation and ashes scattered in the ocean. They know where and there is an organization who will do it if they can't.

I've told my boys that if they want to 'remember me' in some fashion after I'm gone I want them to use some of their inheritance to have a slap bang party or to take a holiday somewhere and think of me as they're having fun.

As a female, childless, only child.
I am fairly likely to outlive my husband and with no traditional next of kin relationships who would organise a funeral, it's probably my only option.

My dad had one in 2020 as it all got complicated with COVID and travelling.