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To keep my three nephews up all night?

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Upfiner · 24/09/2026 21:40

I am having my three nephews over for a sleepover. They’re six, just turned two and five months. The eldest has slept over a few times but not the younger two.

Instead of wrestling them into bed I am planning to let them stay up as late as they like. I’ve always done this with the eldest and he loves it and usually falls asleep at about 10:30pm. I’ll obvious have the baby in his crib but I’ve got a huge corner sofa so I’m going to bring the duvets down and we can just have a slumber party downstairs.

I told my friend who has two sons and she thinks that this will impact their whole week and their schooling and routine and probably exam results and future careers.

I’m not going mad am I? This is fine for one fun evening?

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Fasthorses · 25/09/2026 07:40

I think you'll find about 20 mins into the film they will be bored and hyper both at the same time and will be playfighting on the floor not watching it.

Kids that age dont really watch a full feature length film and actually at that age they are still a bit too young to properly understand the concept of movies like toy story really so it doesnt hold their attention the same way.

I think you'll find what you actually think of as a 'big treat' they won't actually like that much and they'll be ask to just watch bluey.

It would have actually been way lovelier for them to have a big bath with loads of bubbles with loads of stuff in the bath to play with like plastic jugs and cups to pour water in and out of, cosy pjs and a story at bedtime.

PITA22 · 25/09/2026 07:39

Floatlikeafeather2 · 24/09/2026 22:58

Not exactly witty nor insightful so why repeat yourself?

Probably bored and lonely...

PollyBell · 25/09/2026 07:34

PITA22 · 25/09/2026 07:31

It's a Toy Story marathon with chocolate, not a porn marathon with crack.

yes and the 2 year will sit still through all the movies and stay awake all night just because the OP says so, the 2 year old may even provide a review of each film afterwards, rank them in order, and tell you who directed them then request eggs Benedict for breakfast

northernlight20 · 25/09/2026 07:34

This thread explains why so many children these days find it hard to adapt to changing situations. Parents on here are so rigid in routines and no idea how to relax. So glad I don’t know any of u’s. Absolute nightmares to be around by the sounds of it. Social services and all that? Have a day off, there’s kids actually being abused that social services need to concentrate on, definitely not this. So beyond weird this thread. Mumnetters don’t seem to live in the real world 🙈

PITA22 · 25/09/2026 07:31

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It's a Toy Story marathon with chocolate, not a porn marathon with crack.

Bellesbest · 25/09/2026 07:31

StrawberryMatchaLatte · 25/09/2026 07:29

Let them watch the film with a few treats and bedtime at 8. A 2 year old isn't going to sit and watch the whole of Toy Story or going to stay up late without getting whiney. The night won't happen like you think it will.

Exactly
2 is a baby
the Op just showing complete inexperience of looking after young children

StrawberryMatchaLatte · 25/09/2026 07:29

Let them watch the film with a few treats and bedtime at 8. A 2 year old isn't going to sit and watch the whole of Toy Story or going to stay up late without getting whiney. The night won't happen like you think it will.

MooFroo · 25/09/2026 07:23

@Upfiner you’re an amazing aunty and sister!
Your nephews will love it, so enjoy your special evening. Movie night and sofa sleeping sounds perfect!

No idea why so many are getting outraged by it so just ignore the miserable sods 🥴🤪
I did cute things to make memories with mine like food colouring in popcorn so we had pink popcorn one day, ice cream with lots of toppings and just let them enjoy being at fun auntys house :)
Have a magical time together ❤️

pilates · 25/09/2026 06:50

It has the potential to go horribly wrong (over tiredness/crying) but you seem pretty adamant it will be fine. Is it so you can get a lie in?

Glimerz · 25/09/2026 06:40

You can try it but it could backfire. I have one child who loved to be cuddled to sleep and one that would only sleep in cot/bed. They are all different so it could work well or the opposite!

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Nottodaythankyou123 · 25/09/2026 06:23

I do this with my own kids (5 and nearly 3) probably once a month - bring the mattresses down and we have watch a film, eat snacks and have a sleepover. They love it, and I find the younger one usually falls asleep earlier than the older one anyway!

Bellesbest · 25/09/2026 06:22

* told my friend who has two sons and she thinks that this will impact their whole week and their schooling and routine and probably exam results and future careers.*

Sure she did 😆

Crocsforlife · 25/09/2026 06:17

Wow this thread is weird 🤣. One night up late is going to cause no harm whatsoever. And it's not like you are for ong them to stay awake, making it cosy for them. Enjoy.

For what it's worth my DD what a night owl never asleep before 1030/11 at earliest. We gave up spending our nights trying to force her to sleep and just went with the flow, luckily dh a night owl too as I am not. No lasting damage done straight a student but does have an attitude 🤣

Mapletree1985 · 25/09/2026 05:17

They'll be just fine.

PollyBell · 25/09/2026 05:13

I have no issues in a child staying up late but the intention to deliberately make children stay up is plain weird. sure if they have fun I wouldn't send them to bed but the idea it has to be a thing makes no sense

JoeSikoraTommysStory · 25/09/2026 03:34

@Bellesbest Get a grip.
Who are you; The fun police?

harveythehorse · 25/09/2026 01:38

Growlybear83 · 25/09/2026 01:34

some of the comments on this thread are so bizarre. Why are some people so rigid and uptight about children’s bedtimes and routines? On the rare occasions that my mum looked after my daughter overnight, I always left it up to her to do exactly what she wanted to with bedtime, TV, food etc. I wouldn’t have left my daughter with anyone I didn’t trust, and I was 100% happy with my mum taking care of her - she had managed well enough with me and my brother. I knew that they would be binge watching Shirley Temple films until my daughter fell asleep, and would be eating my Mum’s corned beef pie with baked beans and mega buttery potato, followed by tinned rice pudding and jam, and a Muller corner yoghurt with black cherries, which my daughter loved. I was always really pleased that they had special time together, and if my daughter was a bit grouchy and over tired the next day, it never bothered me - she would be back to normal after a good night’s sleep.

the only thing that surprises me in one of the OP’s posts is that she gave children chocolate yoghurt for breakfast - Ive not seen chocolate yoghurt for as long as I can remember, since the days of the Eden Vale choc top yoghurts and woukd love to know where I can buy it! 😆

Poss the chocolate pots (Cadbury's and Nestle both do them) which are generally sold in the yoghurt aisle? Absolutely delicious and whilst I wouldn't promote as an every day breakfast, can't see the harm in having occasionally! Not that different to a pain au chocolat . . .

Growlybear83 · 25/09/2026 01:34

some of the comments on this thread are so bizarre. Why are some people so rigid and uptight about children’s bedtimes and routines? On the rare occasions that my mum looked after my daughter overnight, I always left it up to her to do exactly what she wanted to with bedtime, TV, food etc. I wouldn’t have left my daughter with anyone I didn’t trust, and I was 100% happy with my mum taking care of her - she had managed well enough with me and my brother. I knew that they would be binge watching Shirley Temple films until my daughter fell asleep, and would be eating my Mum’s corned beef pie with baked beans and mega buttery potato, followed by tinned rice pudding and jam, and a Muller corner yoghurt with black cherries, which my daughter loved. I was always really pleased that they had special time together, and if my daughter was a bit grouchy and over tired the next day, it never bothered me - she would be back to normal after a good night’s sleep.

the only thing that surprises me in one of the OP’s posts is that she gave children chocolate yoghurt for breakfast - Ive not seen chocolate yoghurt for as long as I can remember, since the days of the Eden Vale choc top yoghurts and woukd love to know where I can buy it! 😆

estrogone · 25/09/2026 01:22

Upfiner · 24/09/2026 21:45

This is what I’ve promised. A Toy Story marathon, lots of chocolate and takeaway pizzas.

Can I come? Seriously you sound like a fabulous Aunty. Those kids will have such lovely memories. Good onya!

harveythehorse · 25/09/2026 01:20

Why on earth would social services intervene with an Aunt organising a sleepover with her nephews?? A sleepover where the children will be placed in a bed once asleep and have a lovely evening of treats and movies? Mind boggling.

There are children right now who are neglected, who are being horribly abused and social services don't have the resource to save them, but posters here think their time should be spent (wasted) policing harmless sleepovers. SIGH.

SethAndReubenTooSendGaloshes · 25/09/2026 01:16

Stinkybooks · 24/09/2026 22:25

I think what you’ve said is make believe.
I wouldn’t feed my young nephews pizza and chocolate and then have a slumber party but plenty would/do. With their own kids too.

Not what I’d do but not a disaster.

Social services haven’t got the budget to intervene in a situation as trivial as this - even if it was a regular occurance. It’s not neglectful or abusive anyway. Just not ideal.

It's hardly a matter of budget. Social services don't have the legal remit to intervene in a situation so utterly harmless. Why on earth would they?

mtobrokeme · 25/09/2026 01:05

Goinggreymammy · 24/09/2026 22:39

But it's not "one evening out" is it? It's this modern thing that a night out must extend into the next day. When did this start? Can people not get a babysitter (or fun aunty could go mind them in their own familiar house!!!) and parents come home after their night out, babysitter goes home.

Well, it started in 1979 for my mum and dad when my sister was born, carried on in 1983 when I was born and continued, happily, all through our childhoods. God it was lovely snuggling up to our grandparents at their house on a Saturday night, watching lovely films and eating my nannas lovely buns that she made for us. We were often joined by our cousin! She’s even older than us. So, no it’s not a ‘modern thing’ at all, it’s a normal thing in families where parents don’t shun the outside world, take care of their marriages and individual interests and don’t reduce themselves to just ‘mummy & daddy’! Strange you think it’s a modern as the vast majority of my friends experienced the same lovely childhood that we did.

harveythehorse · 25/09/2026 01:03

It's one night, what harm can it really do to the two eldest children? And if the youngest won't settle at their normal bedtime and it means you can all have a nice time together then one night out of routine isn't going to do that much harm. My DD would have been up with the larks regardless of her bedtime so at those ages I'd have asked for you to try and get her to sleep earlier to take that into consideration but if your nephews will sleep in then it doesn't sound like they'll be too affected.

Enjoy them when they're little and want to watch Disney movies and snuggle, your sibling is clearly on board with your plan so why not.

MsAmerica · 25/09/2026 00:42

The children will probably bounce back within 24 hours or less. I hope your friend wasn't serious about those insanely dire predictions.

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