To keep my three nephews up all night?

Just stumbled on this thread and in typical MN style it went bonkers!

Some of the comments, honestly 😂

Its cruel to keep them up, the sister is a bad mum for leaving her kids and daring to go out for the evening, I mean, WTF! 😂

Parents have 'occasionally' been letting their kids stay up late like this forever. New Years Eve, the occasional family get together, and when they have gone to other family members to be looked after.

For the kids, its actually, and quite exciting not to have the normal bedtime routine and to be allowed to stay awake later than normal. We did this sometimes with ours and they loved it and in no way was it bloody cruel 🙄Being cruel would be forcing them to stay awake when they were clearly tired but this isn't what is happening. OP is letting them fall asleep when they want to, so when they get tired, they will sleep.

A days readjustment the other side (slightly later rising than normal, a slower chilled out day) is enough to reset everything and everyone.

What OP had planned sounded fab and my kids would have loved it.

I am all for routine for kids, but being flexible and stepping outside of that once in a while is fine. And don't get me started on the posters saying their Mum shouldn't be going out 🙄

Bet they had a great time. They're maybe off to a restaurant or cafe today where they'll have ipads on full blast and the older 2 can run round screaming annoying everyone. Still they're only young once so got to make the most of it.

Wow this thread is insane. How did it go I hope you all had fun.

Yawn.

Misery guts

They will be fine and will have a lovely time . They may be tired the next day but it's only one night . They will probably conk out by 10 ish anyway . My 4 would have loved this with their aunty but it was usually me watching hers !

Dear Mumsnet,

I am such a rad aunt that I let my nephews stay up all night because they have such fun, a cartoon pantomime villan has said I will ruin their career, their parents say its okay, but I really need people to tell me how cool I am.

Oh, aibu?

If you think that this is a good idea and argue with everyone who says different why not just to do it, the way this is going seems really intense and coming across as odd

I cant put my finger on it but the it sort of feels like you being 'right' is the most important thing so not sure the point of all this

I have sports matches every weekend with my kids. We’ve got to be an hour away for a hockey tournament by 9am tomorrow, which my two eldest are both playing in. We’ll be at the side of a football pitch on Sunday too.
That doesn’t stop us sometimes having a night away while their loving family care for them/spend time with them though.

You sound like a lovely auntie. Have a good night!

My rules for babysitters is just keep them safe - if they sleep that’s a bonus. But in terms of whether it works out well…it just depends on the kids. A late night doesn’t have much knock on effect on mine later in the week but it does on others I know. And the parents aren’t worried about that. And a late night and treats would be fine with my DD - she’d love it and we’d have fun. My DS would just totally lose his shit - get overtired and go totally manic for about 3 hours - not enjoyable for him, me or his sister. But either way you will all survive! Enjoy

and what a nice sister taking 3 kids for the night!!!

Keeping kids up late into the night is done not for the children and their best interests....it's purely for the adults.

The NDNs also farm the 5yo and three older DC off to relatives as well. Obviously very relaxed about it all. Anything as long as they get their long lies on a weekend...then there's others like myself who have sports matches for the DC at weekends. So getting up early doesn't marry with going out and drinking. Getting rat faced is the last thing I am interested in tbh. Would rather have a weekend spent with the DC than farming them all out. Each to their own.

I did all the getting p*shed stuff years ago as a student.
I go out during the school day for lunch or brunch with DH. That's all that I need if I want to do something independent of the DC or need a break.

People are swearing at Upfiner because she dares to have an opinion about kids and SHE'S NOT A MOTHER!

My NDNs do this set up when they have visitors at the weekend....the 5yo stays up through the night with the adults socialising (been doing this since she was 2yo). She's usually hysterical crying from around 12 midnight onwards. Personally I think it's cruel. Young children who have been out all day at nursery or school shouldn't be expected to stay up all night just so the caregivers can have a "long lie".

Try doing what's in the best interests of the kids first and foremost. No one is saying don't let them have a bit of ice cream or pizza or watch a movie etc. Just all in moderation. As other PPs have pointed out, young children need guidance to fall asleep. They rely on adults to support them to do this at these young ages.

Kin el, there’s some weird comments on this - why are people swearing at @Upfiner ?? I’m a mum to a just turned two year old and while I wouldn’t want this for my own, I can defo appreciate your style at the same time! 😂 I hope the evening is a fun one for you and the boys

Do you also apply this logic when booking a holiday? No need to take your toddler with you as they won't remember it?
Or do you book child-friendly holidays in a hope that they have a good time in the moment?
I would assume the latter. So what's the difference?

@Upfiner yes lovely memories to make when you are actually old enough to remember making them 🤣🤣🤣

I’ve got 3 kids and never found that. If they were tired the next day, they’d just have an early night that night.