My DS is 18 years old and came out as gay at age 15, he has always been an up and down child but we thought he was growing into a lovely young man who has a bright future ahead of him.
He met this man in a local gay night club in London. And they got together very quickly seeing each other most days in the week. The man is 28, and illegally came to the UK a couple of years ago, and doesn’t have a visa , and lives in a hotel.
My son told us that he loves him very much and gets angry and upset whenever he’s not with him, they are always on the face time together and are constantly texting! My son has a good job working in health care, but gives hundreds of pounds to this man, because he has said this man only has £9 a week!! My son pays for absolutely everything, staying in hotels together weekly and never answers me when he’s with him.
He got himself into debt of around £2,000 and has come home many times drunk or under the influence!! i suspect both of them are doing it together! This man is constantly fighting with people, and the general public and DS and him have had many psychical altercations.
At the end of the month DS has pennies left and prioritises this man over anything. DS now also smokes weed a lot and can’t get through a week without drinking or smoking. He was hospitalised as he revealed to paramedics him and BF has been smoking cr*ck on 2 occasions that left him in a state of aggressive bad episode. He never even used to vape until he met this man!! Then the man is asking DS for photos, proof
what do i do!!!!!! im sick to my stomach , am i being unreasonable to try my best to stop this relationship. Ds has also revealed to me he has been using substances and drink EVERY time he’s with the man and doesn’t think there’s an issue!! he just sees is as being “18”