An old friend, we used to share more friends.
She accused me of being argumentative and disagreeing with everything she says.
(yes, i could be. In the past i was more obedient, i think that could be a problem here - she made me apologise for calling her controlling and narcissistic)
She often makes very definite statements about things based on limited experience, or what she thinks people think.
I did not come with her to a concertrs. 'Why dont you rely on my recommendation?'
I told her I dont want commit to anything as I never now how I would feel on a day and treat other people in the same way.
She recently had an appointment at a hospital and was angry because she said the hospital had sent her multiple documents but had failed to tell her that the department was on the Lower Ground floor.
She was very definite that it wasn’t on the map.
It was under the map and in the letter, hence she changed the argument to not being used to and that in the past it was there.
‘You are mean, why do you have to always argue with me?!’
At the moment we are at historic disagreements.
A recent example was sandals.
I bought a pair of Birkenstock-type sandals and showed them to her. I wasn’t asking whether they would suit her or asking for advice.
She immediately started explaining at length (like 50 messages) why that kind of sandal wouldn’t work for her feet, and her feet in general.
She claimed that she tried them for 2 days. Still I did not try to convince them to buy them.
However in the past she told me which antidepressant she thought would be best for me as she loved it. I said it did not work - you did not take it right.
(second medication, first time she did the same but later admitted it was not so good - venlafaxine) She is very unhappy i did not follow her advice and went back to taking sertraline.
I think I was like her in the past, but we are both over 45, single...and I dont have time for this s**t.
who is the mad one here?